just need help with excepting the fact!
2006-10-19 15:10:37 · 13 answers · asked by Shanny 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
My dear grieving friend, we do not die. We simply go from one dimension to another. She is happy where she is and I can tell you this with honesty. She knows you grieve for her and it probably upsets her to know you are having a harder time adjusting than she is to a new place for further learning to review her life and move forward. When one grieves so over a loved one, it prevents the soul from moving forward due to your unrest. Send many prayers and that will be what is needed to help her along to a higher way of life. If the unrest you are having is so bad then she will find a way to tell you she is OK in a dream or some way to remind you that she lives and is quite alright. Do not grieve, she is perfectly happy and you must take the wonderful times she gave you together and use for strength in the life you must finish out.
2006-10-19 15:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, I am so sorry for your loss. Death is the hardset and, ironically, the most inevitable part of life. The sad part is, there is no formula to grief. Everyone grieves in a different way. I think the best advice is to not stress about your grief. Unless you take it in unhealthy directions, like excessive drinking, most things you do are normal and acceptable. Don't beat yourself up for how you are feeling. The pain will get easier with time. If you feel your pain is particularly strong maybe therapy would be help you to figure out why you are reacting in a way that surpirses you. There may be something you are not aware of that is affecting you. But in the end, try to focus on the good your relationship has brought to your life. That will give way to smiles and happy memories before you know it. Best of luck.
2006-10-19 15:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The death of those we love is never easy on those they leave behind. We are left with questions of why they die, how they died, and why so soon.
I lost both my parents 5 days apart in October 2000. Many deaths there after.........a baby at 4 months (three months after my parents died) a cousin age 27, 2 uncles, and a precious friend.
I miss them all dearly and have struggled these several years to gain some understanding. Being religious can help some people.
I have chosen to occupy my thoughts with research into the cause and prevention of heart disease, diabetes, old age, diet, SIDS, and cancer. In hopes that it will help me to comprehend why death occures to those we least expect to die, I have become a volunteer at the local Hospital. I have learned CPR.
On a personal level, I have started a journal. I write poetry to release my pain, anger and misunderstandings of life. I contact lost relatives. I endeavor to love more deeply those that are still in this life. I call my siblings regularly. I visit my parents grave and conversate with them. I do NOT shun their departure.
I look at their photographs and recall our times together. I accept their deaths based on absence. I try to remember the good times. I have gathered new friends via email that have lost family members and that has been a great resource for me.
I would say to talk about your Aunt, to yourself, to others, and make written notes. To gather memories of her. Gain an understading of her "cause" of death.
Start a family tree!.....................
Some cemeteries offer the families a yearly candle lite ceremony. Where-by you are invited to come "lite" candles on every single grave. It is very heart felt to do this. You can also fill out a card that the cemetary will make into a lamenated gift.
Become a part of her passing! The grief will subside. The pain of her lose will be forever.
I am so sorry for your pain. You must have been especially close to your Aunt. I am certain she knows your grief.
I will add that certain religious people beleive that the dead no longer suffer, that they no longer know the pain of life. That the dead sleep.
Understand your own preference of belief. Comfort will follow....
The pain will subside............live will go on.
2006-10-19 16:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anna M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The choice of when it comes time to pass on lies in the hands of the Lord...He must take his children back sometimes....Pray, and realize that your aunt is in his hands now, looking down and wanting you to be strong!!! Tears fall to cleanse your soul of pain. It's difficult...but BE STRONG!! Have faith...
2006-10-19 15:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by 35 YEARS OF INTUITION 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You now have gained a guardian angel (your aunt) to guide you through Life.
2006-10-19 16:36:38 · answer #5 · answered by aldiaz2wheare 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a good online support group that can help you. It's always good to talk to others that are going through the same thing as you.
http://www.healingafterloss.org/
2006-10-19 15:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by Just Ducky 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Remember death is only about the physical body. Read some scripture which will give you peace. Also grieve not over what is inevitable. Peace....peace....peace.
2006-10-19 15:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by prad 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know just how you feel ,my grandma died this year. The best thing to do is cry and let out your feelings. Remember all the good times you had with her.
2006-10-19 15:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by Aimee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a good answer Cry as much as you need to.
2006-10-19 15:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by thresher 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
grief is a lot of stress. you must remember what is above all, logic and beliefs.
logic, was it your aunt's time? is she no longer suffering?
beliefs, she is not gone, she is everywhere you want her to be.
2006-10-19 15:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by Eryc 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋