just need help with excepting the fact!
2006-10-19 15:10:16 · 6 answers · asked by Shanny 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Goodness..I sure know how you feel....I lost my husband (he drowned) in 1997, on our son's 14th birthday!!! Then, last year I lost my mom, who has always been my very best friend!! Personally, I picked up and moved 600 miles away....I was really torturing myself at the cemetary every day and stuff (they're buried close to each other in the same memorial gardens). I know some people said I ran away, and maybe I did. Some say you can't run away from your grief...and I didn't. I still cry several times a week...every time I think of her...but it's been a few years since I lost my husband and It's not that I don't still think of him and hurt and feel sad, but it's just not quite so bad.....I hope that the pain starts to ease off more and more from losing my mom. I pray a lot, and try to dwell on all the good times I have had with friends and family I've lost. I try to think how they would want me to behave and probably not be so sad. Death and grief is a fact of life and as we age, unfortunately, we tend to have more friends and older family members die. If the grief begins to control your day, then please look for help. Any member of the clergy would be more than happy to help you come to terms with your Aunt's death. I know...truly know how you feel....but I promise you, it will get easier...you'll never forget (so don't worry that you will), but it WILL get easier. God bless you and know another person will be praying for you and yours tonite!!
2006-10-19 15:27:05 · answer #1 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a very loved Aunt myself. My nieces and nephews are like my own children. I have an extremely close relationship with two of my neices,and I was in the delivery room when they had their children and the babies call me Nana.
I can tell you this. I would want them to cry if I died, but only for a little while. I would want them to remember all the great times we had . laugh and joke about things we had done. and then move on.
Your aunt wouldn't want you to keep hurting. Your aunt would want the same thing for you that anyone who loves you does and that is to allow yourself to heal and keep going in life. Love her and miss her but find peace. I promise you thatyou won't forget her.
I lost my dad when i was 17 and was afriad if I didn't cry about him everyday that I would forget him. It doesn't work that way.
I promise you that if you can find peace that you will not forget her. It isn't disrespectful to let go and find peace.
If you pray to God to help you find peace you will feel so much better. The bible tells us that " this too shall pass" . Everyday brings you a little closer to healing and peace.
I will say an extra prayer for you. Stay busy and keep God close to your heart.
2006-10-19 22:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by KAREN A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing that sticks in your mind most is the thought of her voice or the thought that she hasn't called. These things are hard to get over. In time it will pass. I am assuming it just happened so try and take up some activities to let your thoughts go. It helped for me recently. Hope this helps. Good luck!
2006-10-19 22:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by Madrider 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it;s really hard to get over the death of someone you loved so. my mom died this time 4 years ago;and i think of her daily;and miss her so much..your aunt is in a great place called heaven.theres no sickness or fighting just a beautiful place... just think of all the good times you had with you aunt;and how much she loved you; and you loved her...
2006-10-19 22:22:20 · answer #4 · answered by Cami lives 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well talk with other relatives
Like when my Grandpa did everyone of us cried and it seemed that it was not a pleasent time just ask too talk with some one you trust it help me alot
2006-10-19 22:18:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray about it. God will help you through it. Pray every day.
2006-10-19 22:15:49 · answer #6 · answered by Barbara S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋