I live a long hard life at the age of 27 Im just about to give up I cant even tell you one percent of my misery. I have a husband that I know talks about me behind my back,im screaming inside and dont know what to do, please dont talk to me for the mean people out there answereing peoples questions, I just want someone to give me some hope, I have four kids and im a meserable mom not to my kids but in my soul, my favrite song is tears of a clown it reperesents my life I laugh all day when I cry inside! I feel as if I dont have anyone to talk to thats why im here.
2006-10-19 14:46:40 · 25 answers · asked by TOKISA NEED HELP PLEASE, THANKS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I loved all the answers I woke up and blast my gospel music in my house made the kids home made waffles, and tuned the negative person in my
house out.(my sister in law)
2006-10-20 03:11:36 · update #1
Cheer-up neighbor. Life is what you think it to be. Try to have more happier thoughts instead of thinking someone is out to get you. Some people would love to have a husband and kids and a computer to share thoughts with the internet family. I think if you change your thoughts you will see that your life will change. Take small steps, start by thinking, Wow! I have beautiful kids that I enjoy naturing, and a husband that reflects my thoughts back to myself, think that your hubby is your best friend and know that a best friend never talks negatively about their best friend. Entertain the more positive thoughts instead of the negative ones and you will see how bright your life really is. I hope this has giving you some relief.
2006-10-19 15:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry honey, but don't give up.
Somehow you gotta dig deep, find someone, something that gives you release. Take a nice long walk by yourself, that will help you to do some serious soul-searching. Keep a journal, and go back to the moments in your life that are uplifting when you're down. Or read through the super-tough times and remember how you got through it, you made it, you're still here.
Think of your children and how much hope can lie in each of them.
Or do something as simple as joining an exercise class (I took muay thai kickboxing, talk about a release!!)
Eat a well-balanced diet, take your vitamins, and last but not least, see a doctor.
Check out the link I'm sending, the progrem is expensive, but I found it to be worth every penny, and they can set you up on a payment plan. I went through the same thing at the end of 27 (wow! is it something about that age?) I just turned 29 this week so about a good year now. I find all of these things have helped tremendously.
Also, don't know what your faith is like, and I'm not huge on religion per say but praying and looking to a higher power for guidance and solace can be helpful too.
Try talking to your husband. Guys a lot of times just don't get us ladies, and really, most guys I think really want to.
Stay strong and keep fighting!
If you'd like to email me, feel free!!
2006-10-19 15:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by Auddi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi: Don;t be so upset. Lots of us have very bad lives.
Is your husband verbal to your face as well as behind your back?
Sometimes people do this to have control.
Your children should be a bright light in your life and if you are unhappy then I think you need to go and see the doctor and get a referral to a counsellor or therapist... I don't know what is bothering you......If you are able to get out of the house alone during the day,you should take up walking.. find a nice path that takes you through gardens and parks.... Also perhaps you need to connect with a friend or family member who loves you for you and who you can relate to...
If you have an amusement park close to your house, you need to go there and get on a huge roller coaster and take a ride by yourself and scream and scream until you cry and then laugh..
It will scare the heck out of you and give you so much relief of your pent up hurt and frustration.....
If that is not possible drive out into the country area where no one is around and scream at the top of your lungs and say all the things that are in your heart... It does work. I know from personal experience.;........ Make sure no one is around... and you have complete privacy......
Life is what you make it, you must make some decisions that are good for you as your children will learn by watching you... This might be a dark period, but honey the sun will rise tomorrow morning and you have a whole new day to start out new.... Good luck.....
2006-10-19 14:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get some help. There must be some kind of support group in your area. You need to get out of the house, and find some friends, hobbies, etc.. Why not get involved in a church of your choice? Do you like to sing? Join a choir - music is wonderful therapy - good for the mind and soul. Maybe you should do some volunteer work - that will make you feel better too. You need to get your life straightened because you have four little children that need you. If your husband loves you, why does he talk about you, and what makes you think that he is? Sit down and talk to him about how you feel. Then if that doesn't work, get outside help quickly. You need to be there for your little children. I know that you feel helpless right now, but believe me, once you take the first step, you will soon be on the road to recovery, and you are going to feel like a different person. You need to face these problems head on. I know, because one of my daughters has gone through the same thing. It is not easy, but you can do it. Today my daughter is a happy, well adjusted woman, and you can be to. I wish you the best of luck and I will light a candle for you when I go to church this week.
2006-10-19 14:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, it seems that you are in a really tough situation...You said you're about to give up...give up on what? life-NO, husband-YES. You have to get yourself together mentally and emotionally before you can even address any other problems in your life. It's good that you are a good mom but if you were together mentally, emotionally, and physically I'm sure that you would be an even better mom. But you can not be the best mom if you haven't taken care of yourself. Take a step back and view the whole problem...what/who is the root of your problem?...Your Husband and all I have to say is LOVE isn't supposed to be depressing, and if your husband does things to intentionally hurt you then maybe it is just no worth it. I really do hope that I helped you a little, you are in a tough situation that I personally can not relate to but I understand what you are feeling. If my answer is not helpful enough I pray that others have more helpful answers for you. Love, QT_Kendetta
2006-10-19 15:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by qt_kendetta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first never feel like you have no one to talk to. I'm not sure your religious back round but there is a higher power you can always go to with your problems and never have to worry if it will be told again. i am a year younger than you and sometimes i feel the same way you do and young mothers these days go through so much. understand this though. both you and i have a gift some woman long for. (children) for one. a strength to seek help before it's too late for two, the ability to express yourself, and for three to be willing to hear someone out. look at these things as a positive move. everything you do in life with not be easy and things will get better before they get worst just stay focus and try doing things to keep your mind off things. as for your husband, well what goes around comes around and he will get his. good luck and if you ever need someone to talk to I'm here.
2006-10-19 14:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by slimchuckie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you've got to do is find a support group. Do you go to church? If not FIND ONE! There are many people there just waiting to listen to you, counsel you, and befriend you. It will destroy you to hold those feelings inside. Mothers like Andrea Yates and Susan Smith did that. Remember what happened to their children? They snapped one day and killed them!
Don't live a fake life. You are not helping anyone by pretending to be happy and pretending that nothing is wrong. Things are VERY wrong. It's ok to say that. If nobody knows you need help how can they offer it? You may possibly even need medication. It sounds to me like you could be seriously depressed. You've got to live a GENUINE life and that means you deal with it and share the good and get help for the bad.
The most important thing I could possibly tell you is that you are a child of God. He made you and He finds great value in you. Find Him and you will find yourself. He gives meaning to life when it feels like there is none. He alone gives the peace you are looking for.
"In my distress I called upon the LORD, and cried to my God: and he did hear my voice out of his temple, and my cry did enter into his ears."
2 Samuel 22:7 (King James Version)
"And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
Philippians 4:7 (New International Version)
God bless you and your family! You are not worth giving up on and neither is your family. Please feel free to email me anytime if you would like someone to "talk" to.
2006-10-19 15:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you spoke to your spiritual leader or your family regarding this? It sound very sad and serious.
I know as a Mom, we just don't get any alone time. Perhaps another family member could help out with the kids to give you a small window of space to relax and meditate.
I know that Church's offer free babysitting for church services and bible study. The YMCA if your member has a couple of Friday or Saturday nights that you can leave them for $5 per child per hour and Hey...just 2 hours is a huge break.
Best wishes. I will keep you in my thoughts.
2006-10-19 14:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 00:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by friesner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey , you need to talk to a Dr. and maybe even need meds. Depression is real and can become dangerous if left unchecked . I have some problems in this area myself and am on Cymbalta right now . I feel much more like myself and can get through my days now . If you need someone to talk to , I have a 360 page or you can email me . Bless your heart !
I'm a Mom of 2 and Grandma of 5 and like helping others , it helps to keep me out of my crap .
2006-10-19 15:04:03 · answer #10 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋