help ttc problem?

Question

okay....my online calculator said that i was due to ovulate between the 21st-25th but using the rule"you ovulate 14days afther ur period start" i calculated that i would ovulate the 23rd,i started taking my temps late iu]n my cycle(cycle day 8)so lastnight cycle day 9 my temp droped and i took an opk it was positive so to day i took my temps cycle days 10 my temp droped some more i took another ovulation test(opk)it was negitive(2of them)i checked my cervix it wasnt soft but it wasnt hard either..what should i do?im soooo confused?

Answer 1

dont worry about when you are ovulating....it can be a different time each month if you are not regular.....i would suggest that you try having sex every 2nd day from day 6 of your cycle....that way you will cover the whole month....and your hubby will be walking around with a huge smile on his face......

Answer 2

I was very confused when my husband & I started ttc. I found the book Taking charge of your fertility by Toni Weschler the BEST information around (recommended by people on here). The "14 days after your period" is all good and will work if you are on a 28 day cycle - how many women out there are on 28 day cycles???
The book teaches you to observe YOUR body and what it can tell you.. charting all the information together can really show you what all the signs of your body are telling you when you are fertile and when you want to (if that is the case) or not to become pregnant. I can't believe that at 30 years of age, I am just learning now about my body that I was never told. Trust me, it will be worth the read, I PROMISE... I think that from what I've learnt this past month, I have sucessfully conceived....

Answer 3

All of these things the 7-14 days rule the temp the cervical softening are all just averages and symptoms that "usually" happen. A woman can ovulate any day during her cycle. Remember back in sex ed when they told you that it's possible to get pregnant when you're on your period. Well it's true. So just get more ovulation tests and keep testing. Your bound to hit it at some point. Or your hormones are off so the test isn't detecting it like it should. Or the test isn't working. Who knows.
Good luck!!!

Answer 4

Honestly..the best indication of ovulating is checking your cervical mucous..that is one of the way how i got pregnant with my son. sometimes ovulation doesnt occur on time or when the calculator tells you *it was wrong with me* the days leaing up to ovulation about 3 days or so u will get some sticky like discharge that is clear in color,u will notice when wiping or when u put your finger in to check..the discharge will get heavier as u get closer to your most fertile *ovulating* day...It will be thick and clear like snot..exactly what it looks like,sometimes it resembles semen as well. u can check by inserting one or two fingers down there and going deep as far as u can and scoop with your finger any wetness u can get. use your two fingers to test the stickiness.u will notice it to be very stretchy and probably will not break..sometimes u dont have to check u will just feel the discharge or u will see it when u wipe. remember u can get pregnant 3-5 days before ovulating and 12-24 hours after...using these techniques will help u out a lot when u are trying to conieve..the basal body temp thing is not very accurate, and sometimes even the ovulating kits are invalid due to missed ovulation or messed up cycles...Good Luck!! =)

Answer 5

I really can't help much except to say that I tried to do all of that for 3 months and was also confused and upset each month - on month 4, I chilled out and just had a lot of sex mid month - and ended up pg with twins!!!

I think the 14 day rule is really general - your cycle may vary...but best of luck to you!

Answer 6

The best thing for you to do at this point is to get a fertility monitor to test you hormones every day. This will keep down confusion about when you ovulate.

Answer 7

I had sex every day for a month. Worked on the first month all 3 times.

Answer 8

this is no longer a stupid question. i'm no longer an expert, yet perhaps you ought to flow for your healthcare professional to work out if each and every thing is advantageous before you attempt to conceive. you received't comprehend your probabilities of concieving until eventually you flow for your healthcare professional.

Answer 9

Have sex on the 21st, 23rd and 25th. That way you have all the bases covered. Good luck!!

Answer 10

Have sex three times a week.

Having regular sex is the best way to get pregnant. Couples often try to time everything perfectly for ovulation but do not have sex when they think they are not ovulating. It is true that sex that is not within the time of ovulation will not result in pregnancy. However, because women do not always ovulate when they think they will, having sex three times a week will help to a woman cover her bases, so to speak, and not miss an opportunity to get pregnant.

2. Use an ovulation prediction kit or fertility monitor.

Using an ovulation kit to predict when you are ovulating will improve your chances of getting pregnant. For many women charting or other methods of ovulation prediction are too confusing. Ovulation prediction kits work by reading LH surges prior to ovulation. They are relatively easy to use and are generally accurate for predicting ovulation. Fertility monitors, such as the Clear Blue Easy monitor, are also a worthwhile investment if you would like to get pregnant faster. Fertility monitors are similar to ovulation prediction kits in that they read changes in LH but they also read changes in other hormones and don’t require any guesswork for couples. They are easy to use and will tell you when the best time to get pregnant is.

3. Have sex before ovulation (not after).

Sometimes couples get confused about the best time to have sex in relationship to ovulation. You have a small window of time each month to get pregnant. After a woman ovulates the egg will survive approximately 24 hours. Sperm, on the other hand, will live for up to three to five days. This is why having sex two to three days before ovulation will increase your chances of getting pregnant. Don’t wait until the day you ovulate to have sex. Your partner’s sperm will last longer than your egg and you don’t want to miss an opportunity by waiting.

4. Don’t rely on the Calendar method for predicting ovulation.

A lot of couples have heard to have sex around day fourteen of your cycle. This is based on the calendar method and assumes that you have a regular 28-day cycle and ovulate mid-cycle. Although this is better than just picking an arbitrary day to have sex, it is not a very accurate way to predict when you ovulate. Many women do not ovulate on day fourteen and knowing precisely when you ovulate will help you time intercourse better. Ovulation prediction kits, looking at previous months bbt charts, or watching for body cues will help you to determine when you ovulate.

5. Charting may not be the best way to predict ovulation.

Charting is great for tracking your cycle but it does have disadvantages. By the time you can see ovulation on a bbt chart, you have already ovulated. It is good to chart so you can track your cycles, see if you ovulate the same time each month, and also so you can look back on your cycle and see if you timed things right. But if this is your first cycle trying to get pregnant or if you are not ovulating at the same time each month, an ovulation prediction kit would be more helpful.

6. See a doctor before you start trying to get pregnant.
Make sure you are in good health and have had a regular check up from your OBGYN or medical provider. Untreated infections, sexually transmitted diseases, or poor health can affect your chances of getting pregnant. Its good to see a doctor as well as start taking prenatal vitamins prior to trying to conceive.

7. Don’t smoke, drink alcohol, or abuse drugs when trying to get pregnant.
This may seem like common sense but many women do try to get pregnant while smoking, drinking or using drugs. Smoking, drugs, and alcohol can affect your fertility. It will also affect your unborn child. It is important to stop smoking or using drugs and alcohol before getting pregnant and not wait until you find out you are pregnant.

8. Have enjoyable sex.

Sometimes when couples are trying to conceive, sex becomes a job or function of reproduction and is not as enjoyable. Plan a romantic evening or try something different to spice things up. How you are feeling sexually may factor into your chances of getting pregnant. Some researchers believe that having an orgasm during sex increases your chances of getting pregnant. For women, the spasmic movements of orgasm will help pull the sperm into the uterus and for men a better orgasm may increase the man’s sperm count.

9. Have sex in positions that keep sperm inside the vagina longer.

The missionary position is a good position to use when trying to get pregnant. Avoid positions where the woman is on top. Gravity will allow sperm to leak out with these positions. Also try placing a pillow under your hips to help tilt your pelvis and keep the sperm in longer. Don’t get up right after sex. Try to relax and allow the sperm to stay in the vagina as long as possible.

10. There is no such thing as trying too hard to get pregnant.
Most couples get pregnant within a year of trying. If you have not gotten pregnant within a year consult your doctor for advice.