do you think it is fair for some one to always say you are too quiet i mean im a quiet person but i still know how to have a ton of fun get into trouble and all that good stuf do you think it is fair for my friends to try to change me i want to make them happy but i also want to keep being me please i really need help i have asked similar questions but they have not helped yous are my last hope thank you in advanced for what ever help you give me
2006-10-19 14:30:00 · 10 answers · asked by sk8erhjk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think you shouldn't change your personality just cause they think you need to be this certain way! Be who you want to be and if your friends don't like it then maybe you need some new friends who except you for who you are! I don't know if its fair or not to call you quiet all the time, if they do it to much then it becomes a tease rather than a joke, so i'd say its more unfair than fair!
2006-10-19 14:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand your concern and the fact that you want to be your own individual and at the same time make your friends happy but im trying to understand a little if your friends are always telling you that you are tooquiet and you claim you still know how to have fun and all the good stuff then when exactly you break out off your shell and have that fun because obviously isnt when these friends arent around. Then again your friends must understand and accept the fact that your just the quiet one and rather keep some things to yourself. either you gotta find yourself more friends like you or simply have your current friends understand who you are and the way your personality works
2006-10-19 15:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to get the same comment when I was in High School. And it bothered me big time. I was shy, but around friends I was like you.
What I have learned in life is that you can't change other people, but you can change how you react to them. You can choose to be irritated, (which you are entitled to feel) or you can't grin and bare it, or ignore it, or joke about it. You could make a rude comment about it, but you wouldn't have any friends that way and it isn't worth it.
You could say....with a smile on your face and a wink..'If I hear that one more time I am going to scream". then if they repeat it...Scream.
Another thing you can do is speak to each of your friends and ask them to stop saying that because it makes you feel bad.
Life isn't always fair.
2006-10-19 14:37:30 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation before. Don't let them change who you are, be yourself with a little twist of someone they want you to be but just when they are around. I was a quiet kid in 5th grade, but my best friend was crazy and outgoing and a troublemaker, I was with her all the way, we had so much fun! I could open up and be myself with her, but you always have to remember what kind of person they are and watch what you say because it can always come back and hurt you.
2006-10-19 14:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dude! It is not fair for them to do that to you. It doesn't really matter if you talked to much or talked to little. If you tried talking more, would that make them like you more? If it does, those are not what I would call friends. I talk to little but my friends liked me that way since they talk to much. I've know them for 9 years, and they've never let me down or tease me. Sure once in a while a few jokes are thrown, but not harmful ones.
2006-10-19 14:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by Aliza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 11:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be quiete and tried to change but learned that it is just a bunch of stress cuz thats not who i am. i really opened up when i was just myself. good luck! :-)
2006-10-19 14:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by ♫ singin_gurl1200 ♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have a right to be the way you are and your friends to accept you like that...as you would be expected to accept your friends as they are!
2006-10-19 14:36:04 · answer #8 · answered by Babur Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Silent people have the most fun and the most secrets, silence is golden. Duct tape is silver.
2006-10-19 14:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by Brixton B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
only please yourself. If you are happy with being quite then thats fine. Dont change UNLESS U WANT TO CHANGE. Your friends shoould like you for the way you are
2006-10-19 14:32:38 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋