My brother is will be 18 next month. He is dating 23 year old girl. he wants go drop out of school. I got his report card today and his grades are way below failing. all i want is for him to graduate. but he wants to spend all his spare time with her. now she lives with me. (his girlfriend.) so I told him he has to be gone by 8pm to go home and study. I am the one over his school. I had to transfer him from one school to another b/c he was having so many problems. he is so mad at me and says i never cared about him. now i am only 21 and i dont know any thing about raising a child. but he wants to be treated like an adult but insist on acting like a child. what should I do. I told him when he gets his grades up he could stay longer. i am so afraid he is going drop out and marry this gir. she has 3 kids. none of them live with her right now. but her oldest is calling my brother daddy. he is so attacted to this girl and her children. I love him but he thinks I am just being mean help me!
2006-10-19 14:12:50 · 4 answers · asked by Nikki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
WOW! Your poor brother. Your brother needs to take a huge step backwards and see he has tunnel vision right now. This gal he is so in love with already has 3 kids? Who pays for their expenses? Hope it's not going to be left up to him! Because if he doesn't have a GOOD education, McDonald's isn't paying much these day's to keep a family of 5 going. I mean were talking about rent, electric, food, phone, cable, cloths-gee, do I need to go on?? God for bid if the gal was to get pg again! If he don't think money problems in a marriage doesn't END a marriage real fast, he's totally wrong. I am not saying this to be funny either. I don't even know your brother and I feel for the guy. If the gal truly does love your brother, she will help your brother to stay in school. She will want what's best for him, her, and all her children-they especially deserve it. Good luck, your sweet for caring so much for your brother.
2006-10-19 14:29:40 · answer #1 · answered by sue d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he needs a hard lesson in life. It seems as if you are doing all that you can and say to get him to 'see' what is going on. He wants to be treated like a man, then treat him like a man. Don't let him into your home (girlfriend either). He needs to go out in the real world and make his way. Some people learn the hard way.
2006-10-19 21:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is 18 and still listening to what his siter says maybe you should be worried about him he might be a little off allowing himself to be sent home lol
i will say this one serious thing the harder you push him to stay away from her the more appealing she is going to become to him.. Good Luck
2006-10-19 21:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by Amy M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him figure it out...he is eighteen, tell him what you think but that is all you can really do.
2006-10-19 21:18:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋