me and my bf we are young im 20 and hes 18, but we have been together for 2 and a half yrs, for the first 2 yrs it was wonderful, couldn't been better, then he started workin as a cook, riding home with a guy to work and from work , we dont live together but i stay at his house alot , which is him his mom and his little brother, well since he started workin like 4months ago he seems so diff, he dont call anymore dont give me attention anymore, hes nice but when we have a fite, he will say m ean things to me he wont hit me and he never has, and he swears hes not cheatin or likin anyone else, i just wonder if maybe if i stay home for a while and not call him or go to his house, if he will straiten up and start actin the way he used to, wil this work or if u have any other way then please tel lme?
2006-10-19 14:06:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
people always change, just more so when at your ages. Work adds a new component of fitting in and trying to please your boss, something not taught in schools much. Then there is the social aspects of making friends there outside the old gang, and who does he prefer hanging out with? In fights, it's all about who can win the fight, not about working things out at all. Make a point of never raising your voice and talking calmly, it keeps you in control of the discussion, not the yeller. It soon becomes a contest of who can be the most mature about things when you do that too.
2006-10-19 14:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are a lot of factors that can affect the way your bf acts. One can be the amount of stress he is feeling at work or he might, emphasis on might, have found a new gf. Now the 2nd option is a doubt, but the 1st is a sure thing. Just stop hanging out with him for a while and let him calm down..
2006-10-19 21:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes wen ur in a relationship 4 so long, and ur deep like that, the other person expects you to be a mind reader, things are changing, new job, a chief. Hmmm, there is some thing wrong in side, he feels ashamed to tell you, it might or might not be his job, but i no being a chief is 1 of the most stressfull jobs there is, have you not whatched gorden ramsay's f word? thats not just a program, it is actually what chief's have to go thru every day, i'm not saying thats the problem, i'm just sayin try the gentle appoach, listen to your heart, u no him better than anyone
2006-10-19 21:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already seen the sweet side of this guy and ev erything further will be more down hill then you ever dreamed of. Don't waste your time and a portion of your life with a person who treats you with anything but kindness and respect. You need to put your brakes on and grow up alittle bit before you make any kind of decisions about having future relationships. Sometimes relationships are like going to the dog pound to get a new dog. You look at this darling little dog and he looks so sweet then you stick your hand in the cage and he bites you real bad but your so afraid you'll never find another dog in your whole life so you take the dog that bit you home and he keeps biting you time after time after time after time after time------but your stuck with the dog now-------- so you have childrenthis and the dog bites them time after time after time after time.. Do you know the moral of this story ? moral of this story?
2006-10-19 21:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by number42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely take some space...when he is ready to talk/apologize to you be straight with him. Tell him everything you disclosed in your message. Tell him you need more attention, time alone with him and whatever else you have been lacking in the relationship since he began work. Honesty, bluntness, and definitely more self-respect are needed to help this relationship continue. Good luck...sending my best wishes!
2006-10-19 21:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by yakimablueyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes do just what you said go home he is 18 and he is immature he has a buddy now so why hang around let him see that you are not around best place is home and he needs to grow up ,,men mature later than we do you need to rethink about your future with him,,,sureilll
2006-10-19 21:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayb your bf is stressed out a little and a little bit of space wont kill you both but just sit wit him adn ask him if there is something wrong ^_^ Good Luck And i hope you too have a great life
2006-10-19 21:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change, especially at that age. Do you act the same way you did when you were 16?
2006-10-19 21:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could work and again could make things get worse,He might be hanging out with the guy he works with and he want to do things with the guys,the guy could be putting things in his head,you know how guys can be.
2006-10-19 21:10:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope.
2006-10-19 21:07:35 · answer #10 · answered by ♥I know these things♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋