it seems like every time after school is out one of my friends gets this real bad oder of must like she needs deodrant but she in a very sentative person and wears her feeling on her shoulder and gets afended very fast how do i tell her with out hurting her feelings.people are starting to talk and i can't keep defending her i try to drop hints like i keep my deodrant in my purse just in case but it does not seem like she gets it .help!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-19 14:02:27 · 13 answers · asked by nikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Better that you just tell her, rather then it getting back to her. Her feelings would be crushed if this was to happen...Being her real friend, you shouldn't hold back.
I'd appreciate it if you told me that my azz had a stench....On the real though. Some people have poor hygiene and don't know any better, because of the way they where taught.
2006-10-19 14:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But it's sometimes not just her, it'll be in her clothes.... We had a guy at work that didn't realise that that he had a problem.... It gets ingrained in your clothes and if they've not been washed properly then it's hard to get it out. It might also be types of clothes that makes her sweat more, maybe she needs to apply it often throughout the day....
Are you sure it's a sweat smell, it could be damp, or mildew... This could be down to clothes not being dried properly once washed, or in the damp environment.
I would sincerely tell her that her clothes smell kind of damp or funny, so you're not directing it to her body odour....
It's often the case that they can't smell it on themselves... So take her aside and say something... Yes like everyone else said she might get upset, but she might not actually know she's got a problem. She'll thankyou for it in the long run as you've been honest and told her... Eventually someone will make a LOUD comment and she might ask why you didn't say anything to her... Some friend you are, will be her response....
Doing it tackfully not infront of anyone, when you're on your own... She might be using the wrong type of stuff, or have a problem with her sweat glands.... It's like smokers they don't smell the smoke on themselves, it's not until a smoker stops smoking that they realise the smell.... If it isn't body odour and it's damp or something similar then that can be also dealt with very easliy....
Be a good friend and say something.... You'd want someone to say something to you if the shoe was on the other foot....
Don't get too upset if she does get upset, at least you've told her in a nice way rather than having the mickey taken out of her... Kids at school can be so hurtful with their words. So try and stop it before it starts by telling her....
2006-10-21 09:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure the two of you are alone and tell her you have been hearing comments from other people and tell her what it is about. Suggest that she may need a different or stronger deodorant. If she takes offense know that you have done the right thing and leave the next step up to her. I had to tell a friend the same thing so she started carrying wipes and deodorant in her purse and thanked me.
2006-10-19 21:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is soo touchy, but hint to her in different ways. For example, ask her what deodorant she uses. Then reply by saying you have this great one that you use that she should try. Or just be blunt, but in a nice way. When you both are alone, politely say that you have noticed a slight odor, and that you don't want anyone else to notice or say anything. She probably will be hurt, but tell her you wanted to be the one to say something before other people start to tease her.
2006-10-19 21:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by dream 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me if you smell her she smells herself. If you guys are best friends I think you should be straight forward and honest. It might hurt a little in the beginning, but is going to help her in the long run.
Trust me her feelings are going to be crushed if a stranger tells her.
2006-10-19 21:09:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with one of my mates. Spray yourself, then offer it to her. if you do that for a few days, she'll hopefully get the hint. If not, then at least she wont smell anymore!
2006-10-21 00:03:26 · answer #6 · answered by -=the Queen of Squick=- 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her privately that you heard somebody mention that she's got this odor. Tell her you love and just want to help her out. Hints won't work. I'm sure she'd like to know
2006-10-19 21:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with her, her feeling will probably be hurt, but she'll get over it. If you don't tell her about it now, more people will be talking and it will hurt alot worse
2006-10-19 21:05:26 · answer #8 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be rude about it. just pull her to the side and tell her about her hygiene. dont keep it to yourself because then someone else might tell her in a mean way.
2006-10-19 21:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by pinknewyorkapple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do tell her tell her you just got some new spray and you wont her to smell it if she likes it say her you can use some then that will help
2006-10-19 21:08:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋