stupid BOYFRIEND?

Question

Well Today a guy told me that my b/f (of 10 months) was flirting with sum girls...
Hittin a girl on her *** with a basketball
hugging up to some girl and giving his jacket to her
WHAT A PRICK

i should dump him right

SOMEONE PLEASE GIVE ME SOME GOOD ADVICE

Answer 1

do you have any proof, did you see him hitting on some girls? because if you just heard it, you don't know if it's true or not. If you did see him hitting on other girls, then you should diffenetly dump him

Answer 2

Before you go and do something you'll regret consider the following

Maybe your guy friend was either:
1) lying to you
or
2)didn't get the whole story

May-be your guy friend has a crush on you and was lying so you two could hook up.Has he been giving you any signs, longer chats, a little too much support etc. It could be possible that he also just doesn't like your boyfriend, did your boyfriend and your guyfriend ever get into a fight, disagreements?

It could have been possible that he didn't see the whole thing and it was a misconception, is your b/f good at basketball? If not maybe his aim wasn't good and it bounced off the rim or something,idk.

Is this guy friend been your friend since forever or at least longer than your boyfriend has been? If so than you should believe him and dump this guy, but I highly suggest you get the whole story first and some evidence.

First off ask him, look him straight in the eyes. Some signs that he is cheating:
akward silence
distractions
trying to avoid you
not calling you as much etc.
Than do some snooping dig up some dirt. Ask your friends (other than your guy friend) for some advice and if they've seen your b/f with someone else. Is he acting suspicious? Try hanging out with him and see if he looks upset or if he's trying to make you go away so he can flirt with someone.

Try to set a date and settle everything out, if you don't want this to be public, than dump him if he's cheating. And you should probably keep it from spreading to gossip.

If he's acting suspicious,or guilty, making exucuses for missing dates, and not the always tells the truth kind of person: DUMP HIM!!!

If he's spending the same amount of quality time with you (less= over you , more = guilty) same romance, no tension in his vioce and not in a hurry give him another day or two.

You still don't know what to do:
ask an older sibling (if you have one) they probably had/have a boyfriend

or a guidance consuelor

Answer 3

Dump him like a rock. If that girl was so cold, she coulda gone to her own bf for a jacket instead of hittin on urs. Dont take it!

Answer 4

First off you need to handle it like a grown up sit down and talk to him and find out for SURE he was screwing around before dumping him and listening to his friends. The friends might just be stirring up trouble.. If you have a good relationship with him you should be able to get the truth out of him, you should know by looking into his eyes if he is lying.

Answer 5

Just ask him how'd he'd feel, if you grabbed other guys butts, hugged other guys, and wore other guys jackets.

Ask him if he thinks that's okay to do.... he'll obviously say no. So you then you tell him you expect the same respect.

I wouldn't make a big deal out of it, sounds like he's insecure and wants attention from other girls. Try giving him more attention. That doesn't work, then yes dump him.

Answer 6

Well, you should confirm it first!! Then if you can tell that he's lying then dump him. If he didn't do it, and is relaly being honest then stay w/ him. Maybe this other guy is trying to get on you. Never know. ... unless he's gay or something. But seriously... just ask around. I'm sure this guy isn't the only one that would've seen it.

But my vote is get out of there.... that's no good!!! Men are bastards sometimes!

Answer 7

Well, he could have just for fun. Life, we need to have fun when we are young. You can have fun too. Don't force you partner to just only look at you. He will get bore very soon. Love, you have to trust him. You have to up keep yourself, so that he will always think you are the best amoung the girls. Character is always the main critirial, follow my out look. Talk to him nicely, jokes with him like others do. Being with your love partner is just a small part of your life. We need to be with others too. Let him be, if he is yours he will be yours. If not you just move on, but remember to keep your cool.

Answer 8

WOW, you are a bit over reactive don't you think ...

First, you have JUMPED to all of these conclusions without even giving your b/f of 10 months the common courtesy of even asking him if any of this is true.

Second, so what if he tossed a basketball and it hit a girls butt .. and finally .. it is a perfect gentleman gesture to offer his jacked to a girl to keep her warm ... that doesn't indicate that he is sleeping with her.

GEEZ you OVER REACT !!!!!!!! Do him a favor and tell him you want to go back to being single where you are happy.

Answer 9

Get him back good. No more sex, that's bigger than dumping. If he leaves you, you'll be better off. If you really want to dump him, do it in public. Or could the guy who told you possibly be interested in taking over??

Answer 10

Can't guys flirt? Don't you flirt if you meet someone nice? People do it instinctively without knowing it sometimes. Call him on it and see what he says. Explain that it makes you upset and tell him WHY. Don't let something stupid come in between you if it was nothing.

Answer 11

wheres the proof??? when you know hes doing this say bye bye.... of course now you dont trust him, and that never goes well either. you said a guy told you this, so its very possible that hes jus trying to break you too up, cause maybe he wants you for himself. Id jus say until you know for sure that hes flirting with other girls dont end it. good luck, hope everything goes ok.