my husband talks and sends emails to his best friends wife almost every day! He says they are just friends because she doesn't have any friends, but they call each other sweety and stuff like that. He has cheated once before, He swears to me she is nothing and actually told me he would cut his contact down with her, but the other day I found out they are still talkin and sending emails about having dinner together, am i over reacting or should I leave it alone?Any advice would be helpful!! Thanks
2006-10-19 13:39:30 · 19 answers · asked by carmen b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're not overreacting.
First of all, he should be walking on eggshells and be appreciative that you took him back after he cheated on you the first time.
There's nothing wrong with a male/female friendship but it becomes a problem when they're calling eachother "cute" little nicknames and having dinner with one another.
Apparently, something is going on. It's quite obvious. I'm telling you out of experience that you should leave this guy. He's trouble. Seems like once a cheater always a cheater really fits for him.
2006-10-19 13:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is behaving like a carefree bachelor. Tell him it is time to dissolve this friendship with his best friend's wife and start acting like he's really your husband. He is behaving very selfishly, irresponsibly and disrespectful so please don't allow yourself to be treated in this manner. How does his best friend feel about all this? It seems like he should be quite dissatisfied with this situation as much as you are. If your husband has cheated before, he is apt to do it again. I have a feeling you are fighting a losing battle and you might have to move on to green pastures because you are headed for a serious fall in the near future unless some drastic changes occur immediately.
2006-10-19 13:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree it's disrespectful to put your hands on someone else's wife or husband even if it's only playful. Tell him how you feel. Ask him if your guy friend was smacking your behind how that would make him feel. Sometimes guys need to see it from the other perspective to understand what you mean. To him, this man-chick is just a guy... but she isn't and she's declaring herself available... maybe she's sending signals he's not getting, you are definitely picking up on something that isn't feeling right to you. Explain to him how you feel and ask him to back off a bit, let it cool.
2016-05-22 03:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear your story. It is never easy for the partner when their spouse do not share the same view on what constitute a friendship.
Try putting him in your shoe by having frequent communication with a male friend. If he complains, then he is guilty. A lesson from the Mark Foley scandal. A person generally complain the loudest when him/her is committing the crime.
Best wishes.
2006-10-19 13:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by JQT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not overracting. My boyfriend was doing the same thing last Feb. He was getting texts from her and said they were just friends. He eventually stopped talking to her, after about 6 or 7 months of asking him to stop. It was still on my mind though. Then on Sept. 16th, I read his emails and found out he was talking to her AGAIN!!! They weren't very good emails!! After I found those, I found out he slept with her last year!! Among other things.... and he was going to do it again!!! Be careful!! I never THOUGHT in a million years that he would have done this to me!!
2006-10-19 13:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Kristin K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... I take care of that, thats crazy ask him how he would like it if you was talking to a guy on the internet every day. Get you a pin pal off here i got two an i just started... But yeah i wouldnt allow that... Ill bet theres more going on then that!!!\
Best Of Luck!!!
2006-10-19 13:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by ohio_gurl042 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not over reacting.Don't let him go by himself to the dinner if nothing else is between them.Sound to me that there might be.Tell him that you are going with him.Don't ask him.If he puts up a fight then he is thinking about it.You see were am coming from?
2006-10-19 13:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he is doing is WRONG!!! 10 to 1 he is or soon will be a cheaten dog!!! Tell him if you catch him straying your gonna cut his noodle off in the middle of the night!
2006-10-19 13:43:37 · answer #8 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds mighty suspicious to me... what does the best friend say about it?
the evidence seems to be piling up right before your eyes and you've got to tell him things have to change. he has no right to make you upset through his behavior with another woman.
time for you to lay down the law.
2006-10-19 13:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds fishy to me...why can't the friendship be a "couples" thing? There's no need for them to hang out by themselves.
2006-10-19 13:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋