my husbands ex wife is tring to become my friend and is talking about how she wants her and her other child *not belonging to my husband* to become part of our family.. whatcha think
2006-10-19 13:01:15 · 17 answers · asked by crystal s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have been there. It can work, as long as you all can work together and get along, mostly for the kids. I had a bitter break up, but we got past that and now we can talk about things like before, and I am married with another child, and he knows everything we talk about, and, my exes girlfriend and I send e-mails! So it does and can work, the green eyed monstor needs to stay away. You all can become a family if you all have, not only open hearts but open minds too. Best of luck. I hope I helped, a little.
2006-10-19 13:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by mybudnoobs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband has children with her, unfortunately you'll always have a connection with her. Better to be friends than enemies...will help keep the peace. My brother-in-law and his wife have been fighting and arguing with his ex for the past 15 years...it doesn't accomplish anything but hard feelings and puts the children involved in an uncomfortable position. I would say that her wanting to be "a part of your family" is a bit much, but I see no harm in remaining friendly if possible for the children's sake.
2006-10-19 13:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would only if there were a biological child of my husbands involved. Keeping her around could cause problems. Think about it would your husband like it if she and you went out on a girls night out? I would tell her in the nicest way possible that we could not continue a friendship because it would be a conflict of interest. Move on girl and keep the friends you have and make some you and your husband can relate to.
2006-10-19 13:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think i would be friends with her, just in case she still has feelings for your husband and tries to get him back, that way it will be right under your nose. Also about the joining your family thing, that is a little weird.
2006-10-19 13:07:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is a cool lady. Remember that just because that child isn't biologically your husband's doesn't mean that the child doesn't love him or that he doesn't leave that child. It's not always about blood you know.
2006-10-19 13:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by DeeDee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She didn't do anything to you. Why not be friends with her. You and your husband had problems not you and her. You guys don't have to be best friends, but you don't have to be a btch to her either. But watch out those kind of women always try to play tricks on you and want to get to know your business.
2006-10-19 13:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by Gabbrielle S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no problem if you are sure you can trust your husband and if she doesn't try to cause problems. it can be great for the kids. i have been divorced from my husband for 15 yr. and we all still do things as a family like b.days all holidays with our spouses included. my kids are all grown now and are thankful for having both parents with no conflict.
2006-10-19 13:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by ash 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
little strange if you ask me there life is over together and it needs to stay that way sounds like shes just being nosey and wants to see how you and your husband get along make her keep her distance nothing wrong with hi and bye but keep it to that
2006-10-19 13:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by lisaisfunn1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a little too close for me. I've always been friendly with my ex, but I stay out of his private life.
2006-10-19 13:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds ok to me. It will have some benefits. Try to play along.
2006-10-19 13:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by sandy02 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋