he startin in that stage where he thinks he has me by his little finger. He knows I love him to death but he spends more time on his xbox, playin online poker, and with this one friend of his (thats a guy). he only stays here once night a week and when I ask him to stay he always comes up with an excuse. The big problem is I have to live with my dad and he has to live with his mom because of money problems. I trust that he's not cheating cause I know he would never do that.. and now it's everytime I ask him if I can go down town with him while he shoots pool he'll say I don't care and then he will somehow forget to pick me up.. My mind is startin to think that maybe he likes someone eles.. it could just be my mind playin tricks on me.. What can I do to see if he starts comming around more..
2006-10-19 12:35:49 · 16 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have to let him know the kind of relationship you want.. and the one you're currently in is not working for you. Let him know how you feel and if he doesn't change it might be time to move on... he needs to appriciate you more!
2006-10-19 12:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by gabsters 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't act like you need him to complete you. Start hanging out with some girlfriends, don't answer your cell phone every time he calls, and don't drop other plans to be with him. If he actually cares about you, he'll feel a little miffed and try harder to be with you (that doesn't mean you should revert back to doing everything to be with him, though).
If a man knows you need him, he'll use that and walk all over you. I'm not an advocate of playing games per se, but if you show him that you can be your own woman and do your own thing, it's sexy, and HE will make the effort to be with you. If he doesn't make the effort and is content to only see you once a week or less, than he's probably not into you anymore and you should move on, hard as it may seem.
2006-10-19 19:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just a typical guy. Boys don't mature as fast as females. If you feel you love him, see it through. Let him know how you feel. Always keep your communication open, when that goes, you might as well forget it. A guy will be a guy so never under estimate them. They always have their eyes open whether you see him looking or not. Just keep the relationship fun and be open to new ideas. If you know how to play poker, ask to have a poker night with a group of friends. And on occasion you need to let him know that you have as much pull in the relationship as he does, if not more.
2006-10-19 19:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by Keymay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men only understand strengh so you have to put your foot down and let him know that you really want to spend time with him if its real love he will understand what he is doing wrong but don't blame him for everything because he will feel like he is being attack and will ease himself out of the conversation.
And if a guy spends more time with his xbox and hanging with his friends you tell him to start sleeping with them if he agrees with you,or brushes it off like it's nothin then he likes someone else But if its true love he will eventually start to change . But don't rush the change. My guess is he still immature in some ways so hit him were it hurts.Good Luck!!!
2006-10-19 19:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by csmndaj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't kiss his @ss and if he cares he should want to spend time with you and take you out. You don't need to put up with a boy like that. There are too many good men out that who will treat you like a real women. Instead of worrying about him gain your Independence and depend on yourself. Work and save money. Go out with your friends and meet new people. He sounds very childish and suspicious. If he really cared about you he wouldnt make excuses why he didnt or cant spend time with you. What kind of guy forgets to pick up his girlfriend.There is too much life to live and people to see.
2006-10-19 19:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by louise23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's just into to other things right now that previously weren't that important to him. I would suggest trying to get involved in these things with him (even though you might be bored out of your mind). Tell him that you want him to teach you to play poker and take it seriously. Or if you don't want to do that and if you really love him enough to stick with him through this stuff I'm sure that he will eventually get bored with all those things and start hanging out with you again.
2006-10-19 19:41:53 · answer #6 · answered by Blake H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First , u need to be careful, 2 yrs is long. Donot show boy u like them to death, I have it once, I knew it, I tell him I can do whatever for him. They donto care that, when they donot like u anymroe. Dont trick by a boy. there are still a lot boy inthe world. Make yourself important to him, donot make him know he is 100% important to u. If the situation donto change, I think u need to check on him. i wish he is just too busy and forget. ( girl always like to make excuse 4 boys)
2006-10-19 19:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by KAREN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you already know what you should do, your just to attached to do it. I know Ive been in your shoes. If you believe hes not cheating then more power to you, but with all my experiences guys tend to push away when they find someone else, and if hes really not cheating then maybe you guys just aren't meant for each other, and your better off leaving. Your not to old to find someone else you have plenty of time.
2006-10-19 19:41:59 · answer #8 · answered by glasses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off. Nothing annoys a guy more than a girl nagging him to spend more time with her. Find friends and things you like to do without him. If he does have another girl, you'll soon find out.
2006-10-19 19:39:00 · answer #9 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is losing interest. Stop being so darn available all the time and start making plans of your own. When he wants to come around, tell him you have plans. He is taking you way for granted.
2006-10-19 19:39:00 · answer #10 · answered by DeeDee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋