It seems really toxic and poisonous to me. Would a real friend do any of this?

Question

Examples follow:

1) He sets me up without me asking.
2) He usually fails to follow on the setup. (I never see the girl.)
3) He succeeded once, but the girl never left her BF.
4) There was a girl who verbally told me she wanted to be my GF:
a. The day *before* my birthday -- he said she was performing oral on him.
b. The day *of* my birthday -- he made me listen to him perform oral on her.
5) He promised never to set me up again, but it is very likely his mind will change because it is the one thing he believes he can offer me.
6) My ex-GF apparently returned last Sunday
a. He said she was feeling up a friend of mine and made it clear over the phone.
b. They said she was there but refused to talk to me.
7) He refused to part with the birthday girl's contact info.
8) He insults me, but claims he is just kidding.
9) He says he hates being in the middle, but does nothing to get out of it.
10) I am told something after the fact when it is too late to do anything about it

Answer 1

Your writing a letter not a question...your young.

Answer 2

My question for you is-- How can you be friends with someone like this??? For one, he does NOT listen to what you want, in fact, he does the opposite. 2 He apparently does NOT care about your feelings, especially since he is sleeping with people he sets you up with, girlfriends, etc.. Real friends dont do that. He insults you. He lies to you.
Friends dont do this kind of stuff to each other. He sounds immature. One day you might find a serious girlfriend. Would you want him around HER? If I were you, I would tell him straight up you no longer want to be friends, leave it at that, change your phone number and ignore all attempts at contact. It sounds like a very toxic and emotionally abusive friendship.

Answer 3

This person is not yoy friend, real friends feel great when you feel great, they feel bad when you feel bad, a real friend is always there for you, not to set up up and you feel or look bad.

Answer 4

Find a new friend, this goes way beyond a practical joke.