I'm a listener, it's who I am. If I see a friend, or even a stranger, with a problem, I stop to help. I listen and I give advice. I like it, it makes me feel good. But why is it whenever I need someone to listen to ME, no one is around? No one will take the time to return the favor? I don't ask for much...not at all...just someone to be there for me when I am always there for them.
2006-10-19 12:07:29 · 15 answers · asked by Not done with love 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe because you have taught those close to you that you are strong, you are the listener, the one that helps others and have not yet taught them that you have needs too. :) It takes a very special friend to know how to listen. You have learned this quality early on. Not a lot of people have learned to listen! You may have to take a little time to teach the art of listening to a close friend or two. I bet you could do it and be surprised at how well they learn with a good instructor.
2006-10-19 12:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by sistervoodoo2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like you have learned an important concept of unselfishness. Unfortunately the world in which we live is a very self-orientated community (hence the cheap t-shirts at walmart that say 'it's all about me.') In every aspect of life people feel the need to have the upper hand, which usually means they try walk all over you, take advantage of you and then run away. Most people are like this, but there are rare people (like you) who aren't like this. They're not so materialistic. You can find others, you just have to look! I wish I was like you, but I'm not. However, I found a guy who is and it's slowly teaching me a valuable lesson. I don't want to lose him because I'm self-oriented!
2006-10-19 19:15:24 · answer #2 · answered by Missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people find out you are a listerner, they take advantage of it.
It may not be that you will ever find someone who as always there to listen to you every time you need someone to talk to.
Surround yourself with many true friends. You may not always have someone around when you need them, but the more friends you have, the more likely you are to finds someone to listen.
2006-10-19 19:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by oltmprch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya know....that just seems to be the way of things. Those that do all of the giving don't get anything in return. I would love to be there for you even tho it may only be over the internet. I'm kinda old but still love having all kinds of friends.
2006-10-19 19:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are so nice and helpfull to people and always seem to haev the answers, no one thinks that you would ever need help, people will always think you are on top of things, because you are able to help them they think you have all the answers,
you need to find someone like yourself, and then they will be able to help you,
i will be happy to talk to you if you ever need
xoxo
2006-10-19 19:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by Boots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. When I do talk to someone they give bad advice or the information gets spread around. I have learned not everyone posses the gift God has given you so use it well.
2006-10-19 19:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is obvious that your current relationships are shallow and unreliable. It is a new set of friends that you need. I bet that you have more schooling that they do. I recommend that you begin to frequent environments where people are educated and successful. You deserve no less.
Mr. M on "time for me."
2006-10-19 19:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't HAVE TO be, and they don't want to be.... obviously to the people you are 'there for' you aren't as important to them.
Perhaps you need to rearrange your priorities the next time one of these people needs/wants something from you.
If you let yourself be used repeatedly, people will continue to use you on an as needed basis.
2006-10-19 19:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by bigbadwolfe_2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah I know how you feel...no one is their 4 me either....it kind of hurts when you help and no one returns the favor...
2006-10-19 19:12:04 · answer #9 · answered by Nefarious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are here to listen just shoot us a msg,..
im here to listen, i can be ur fren
2006-10-19 19:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by 00_tyradjh_00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋