2006-10-19 11:57:15 · 17 answers · asked by jennsmith89509 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I agree with motorcity.. propose to him. You can also talk to him maybe as you are lying in bed together. If you say we need to talk he is either gonna get on the defensive or tune you out. Explain to him that you love him very much and feel that it is time to move the relationship to the next step. Tell him your ready to get married and be a family. Tell him that you need to know that his plans for you two include getting married (sometime in the near future). If they don't then maybe you two should rethink your relationship. See what he says. If he says he doesn't plan on getting married then tell him that you need to be with someone who plans on getting married and wont drag his feet. Tell him you guys should take a break, figure out if this what you both want and need.
Hope that gave you some ideas. Good Luck with that conversation. I know how hard its gonna be. Just be prepared for the conversation to go either way, that way your not caught off guard and say something you really don't mean.
2006-10-19 12:06:34 · answer #1 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 19:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by Stacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your talking about an ultimatum of Marry me or get out of life then maybe you need to consider Why you need to lay down the line . If it is because to you it only Feels lasting when you get married , If you love one another and are compatible together then you really don't necessarily need to get married . You may just drive him away . If you ever had the marriage talk then you know where you stand , but as far as six years together and you still don't know where you stand , then maybe marriage isn't quite an answer.Trust me I have been with the same man since "99 ' and we are not married nor do we have any children . You enjoy life more if you know even if you aren't married you can still show people you love and care for then without a piece of paper or metal that binds you.
2006-10-19 12:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by La Babydoll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider what you really want: a big fancy wedding and a diamond ring? Or do you just want commitment, children, etc. ? Some people just don't like the fuss of the wedding. Your bfd can be one of those people. If he doesn't want to get married, but is committed to you, define your relationship on your own terms. Meet him in between. Agree on something that is acceptable to both of you and avoid ultimatums. Approach the subject with him in a way that is not confrontational. "I want us to be together forever" sounds a lot better than "You better marry me or else I'll find someone else".
2006-10-19 12:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by elena_losseva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have a friend that is 33 and she has been with her man since she was 13 and still hasn't gotten married . and some men think they can get by with it , because they have this theory why buy the cow when you are getting the milk for free . and that's not right , tell him that if he doesn't love you enough to marry you then maybe we should think about other things . because you are already common law and that means in the eyes of the law you are consider married , your worth his hand in marriage .
2006-10-19 12:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by mz.thang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, it seems that conversation should have taken place a long time ago...
He will not marry you if he does not see a benefit in doing so. Right now, he has you (and all the fun things that come with that) and does not see why he should take the next step.
You have to make it clear that it is not going to be business as usual.
2006-10-19 12:00:39 · answer #6 · answered by Senor Pig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the best way tell him is "After six years together you need to marry me or else!"
2006-10-19 12:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him, Imean six years is a long time to be together without being married and if he says no then ask why and if the answer is not good then leave him. Don't be used for something else.
Good luck
2006-10-19 12:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in a catch 22. If you give him the choice you will either be married soon or left behind. I would think seriously about your decision.
2006-10-19 11:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him gently that you are finished dating him, and if he wants to continue being with you, he will make a commitment. Otherwise, walk away and find someone who means business and isn't just being a grown up little boy.
2006-10-19 11:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋