this includes even when you don't want to or your just tired
2006-10-19 11:48:16 · 30 answers · asked by marcie21210 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As many times as he and she both want it. If you really don't want to, you shouldn't. However, sometimes if you try a little to get past the stress and/or fatigue, it can be worthwhile.
2006-10-19 11:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There is no set rule but you should want to have sex with the man you married, pleasure him, and feel close to him. Your husband should do the same for you, as well.
I do not understand married women who do not want to have sex. I would love to be able to have sex everyday, several times a day. Just so you know, I have two children I raise on my own, work 40 hours a week, take care of my home, pay the bills, run the errands, and still want sex.
Count your blessings that you have found a man whom you love and who loved you enough to marry you. The sex should be the fun part. If you are not interested in sex with your husband, maybe something else is wrong in the relationship. So stop using the excuse that you are too tired and deal with the real problem, whatever that may be.
By the way, if you don't have sex with him someone else will. Keep this in mind since all I meet at the bars these days are married men and no I don't talk to them or have anything to do with them.
2006-10-19 12:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by lady_reed_03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 to 4 times
2006-10-19 12:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't realize there were numbers involved!!!
Sex should be a moment of passion and love, filled with positive energy and emotions. Ok, so a good old fashioned roll in the hay is nice once in awhile, too, but if it becomes an "obligation" or you think "do I HAVE to do this" then there's a problem somewhere. I've always said that if someone says "if you love me you would......" then I need to look at that person and say "if you loved ME you wouldn't......" Sit down and talk!! Find out the underlying feelings for why you're thinking there should be a limit, set number, or even an average for having sex! There is nothing wrong with going to deeper levels of feeling with your husband/wife.
2006-10-19 11:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word "should" is an absolutistic term that does not need to be applied to a question like this. The question might better be asked: "How many times a week is normal for a wife to have sex with her husband?" But the answer varies--it depends on how much you want to have sex with him. This too varies in terms of your age and libido, and your relationship with him. If it's only about sex for him, you need to talk with him. If you enjoy it with him, then there is no absolute number.
2006-10-19 11:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it sounds like you really don't care for sex and you want to do it just enough to keep your husband , the man you love, at bay.
I'm sure thats not the case. I'm confident your asking as you are comparing your desires as it relates to your husbands, which might be a bit different.
I think you guys need to communicate with each other so you can Both determine the answer because its him you need to make happy as well as yourself..
Funny thing about sex when done correctly to each others desire it is the most enjoyable act in the world yet a lot of men & women don't take the time to cherish it, love it, learn it and live it. and it is the back bone of a strong marrage.
People often forget that the act of making love is for both parties not just one. Please I encourage you to keep the romance alive and ndo not put a quota on a how much you can give. we are talking about the man you love and the man that loves you-Remember he loves you
2006-10-19 11:57:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set number.
EVERY TIME HE WANTS! Is my answer.
You see a relationship takes two. But it takes each person to get over their own selfish concerns, and tiredness.
I am sure he is tired when he gets up and goes to work.
I am sure he is tired when you want a foot/back rub.
Maybe he is tired when you drag him to things you know he really does not want to do.
And what is this crap of being too tired for sex???
Maybe your just tired of your husband.
maybe he gets tired of you using your too tired as an excuse not to be intimate.
And what is it with women thinking your vagina is some holy temple that you will grant us only on special occasions? Heres a news flash honey...
If you don't give it to him there are many women out there that will be more than happy to. They might even give it better than some one so tired that they can't even satisfy their husband.
I am guessing there is an underlying reason besides...'I don't want to, or I'm too tired' to explain your lack of desire for your hubby.
This I am not qualified to help you with.
Good luck.
2006-10-19 12:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some couples have sex 20 times a week, some couples have sex once every 20 years - there is no set amount other than the quality of the relationship.
2006-10-19 11:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you BOTH want to. Every couple is different. If your sex drive is low and his is high, you may want to check with your GYN just to make sure nothing is wrong.
Don't do it if you BOTH are not interested at the same time. One will resent the other because of it.
2006-10-19 11:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say at least once a week.
Don't you just love how people on here don't just be straightforward and answer the Q at hand, but always twist it around and are often so quick to judge.
2006-10-19 11:58:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋