This man is dominating my life in a way that I think about him all the time, he is the only person in the world who seems to be able to affect my emotions. I fret, I am besotted, I am in love, I am anxious, I am restless, I can do anything for him unconditionally. I want nothing from him. He is just so special to me, I admire, respect, love, and think highly of him. He is nice to me and all that, but I still think I shouldn't evolve my life around him. He knows I love him to pieces, and he shows and tells me he feels the same. Why on earth am I still so crazy about him? How can I lighten up? There's nothing I want more from him, perfectly happy, just I seem to care too much about him and about us. Too nice can sometimes looked at as 'pressure' - last thing I want him to feel from me. I can't just play cool, need to relax, but don't know how. Please help! Thank you!
2006-10-19 11:40:53 · 8 answers · asked by Helloyou 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Note: I have been with him for over 1 year.
2006-10-19 11:44:47 · update #1
We have been together for over one year. He loves me (tells me so and shows me). I worry about pressuring him, he has been perfect to me so far. That's why I am worried, all is too good to be true, why am I still so obsessed? He is great and he thinks I am one in a million. I just want to know a way to relax and enjoy! Anyone with good advice? Thanks
2006-10-19 11:52:49 · update #2
Some of the replies suggested me to shag him, well we have been together for over 1 year and we both admitted to each other that we have the best sex in our lives. Very compatible in that aspect and in most others. I simply want to be able to lighten up and enjoy this amazing loving relationship. xx
2006-10-19 11:55:06 · update #3
the only thing i know to do in that situation is to take your right hand, put it on your heart, and say "i hate fuzzy bunnies" 100 times!
c'mon. lighten up. understand that if he were to for some reason not be there, you will be ok. if that is not the case, then i would seek some professional help. there is no shame in seeking a professional. thats what they are there for.
2006-10-19 12:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by jeff h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I use to be obsessed with a boy a few years back and I felt the exact same way you did. I evolved my life around this boy. I know how you are feeling and it's not a great feeling when all day everyday I you can do is think about him. If you know he feels the same way then you don't have to have that much pressure that will only make him think that you have a problem and see unlike you the boy I was obsesses with didn't show me signs that he liked me the only thing he showed me ws that he wanted to, well you know what
2006-10-19 11:49:08 · answer #2 · answered by babygirl18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone who is exactly where you are right now. He does not love you he only wants you for what he can get. The fact that you love him wont make one bit of difference when he wnats to do tings without you. **** him off and find a decent guy who will treat you with the respect you deserve.
2006-10-19 11:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your in your early stages of being together.. its understandable. but you will need to sit back and think... do you want to make him feel pressured and then ask for cooling off period. (if not) you need to take action. Its up to you and only you can do something about it.
if your relationship has been going for some time.. hmm then i wonder are you feeling insecure? are you worried he might go off with someone else? You may need to sit down and talk through your issues, worries etc...
2006-10-19 11:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by confused 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i'd screw him...if that's not being too forward and if all else fails then talk to him about it, tell him u think uv got a problem and are quite scared, he'll help you surely?
Hope it works out luv Alice in Wonderland
2006-10-19 11:52:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you haven't said how he feels about you-if he's the same then great but if not then you need to wake up and smell the coffee.
2006-10-19 11:48:23 · answer #6 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's just a man get over it they all have a d***
2006-10-19 11:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by hayley m 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
just get him drunk and F the sh$t outta him
2006-10-19 11:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by mrbubbachowpuss 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋