ok I'm 24 and never have had the chance to .....with a woman, but I've wanted to since I was like 19 obviously it's not a fad. But how to tell if a lady is gay or not? I also heard most lesbians don't like being the first lady with a lady? Any insight would be soooo appreaciated
2006-10-19 11:36:58 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First off, don't tell your first experience that she IS your first until AFTER you've experienced it.
Secondly, being with a woman is quite natural. You're a woman and you know what you like, reflect that on her and you're on the right track.
Thirdly: Don't be single minded.
In other words, don't be on the hunt for a lesbian experience, let it happen. Go out with friends, or make some new ones.
Most single lesbians are very leary of "test driving" straight women who only want a one night stand.
I've been with my partner for ten years now. She was only my third experience. My first happened quite by accident, but mutually pleasurable. My second was a "one night stand" and completely regretable for that reason alone.
2006-10-19 11:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by DEATH 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Try a adult website such as adultfriendfinder.com You don't have to be a paying member to register. On this site you can tell about yourself and what you are looking for. Other members do the same. This way you can find people who are looking for the same things you are possibly. There are also live chat rooms on the site, so you can just chat with people. Some of the chat rooms are even broken down into location/area. Maybe you could meet someone in the chat, or they may at least be able to answer some of your questions. I'm sure there are other similar websites out there.
I don't think there is any specific way to tell someones sexual preference. I also don't think you can make a sweeping generalization about lesbians. Each person will be different. You may want to find someone that is bi-curious like yourself, and not necessarily a lesbian. It's more a matter of finding the right person, no different than if you were looking for someone of the opposite sex. Good luck!
2006-10-19 18:45:31 · answer #2 · answered by kely 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Find yourself a fetish or gay bar and take yourself out for a night, or two, or many. Mingle, Dance, and Mix with the people you meet there. If you find someone who fits what you are looking for, like any other dating situation casually show your interest. If it is returned then do not necessarily tell them it is your first experience. Just enjoy and go with the flow.
One more thing take the time to ask yourself if you were to find the opportunity to be with another woman, how would you go about it? What kinds of things would you like to tray or do. Personally I have yet to try foot worship and so i have taken the time to envision what that would be like when the time comes.
PS. I am Bi-Sexual and this was some of the advice given to me when I started.
2006-10-19 19:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think integrity is the most important issue here. be true to yourself, be true to others. i wouldn't advise you to lie to someone about your experience. sex is best when two people are on the same page and connecting. after all, that's how you get what you want!
if you're in an isolated area, i'd make some gay friends online who are nearby and then perhaps you can out to a gay bar with them and scope out the scene. i wouldn't make getting laid your goal, but instead to explore yourself and get to know a few people. the right person won't care how much experience you do or don't have.
the best way to find out if a lady is gay is to talk to her! make eye contact, smile and chat her up a bit. throw in a couple innocently flirtatious compliments and see where it leads. even if she's not "gay" she still might be like you, someone who's down and just waiting for the right opportunity!
good luck!
2006-10-19 20:03:49 · answer #4 · answered by thejanes 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh $.hit, Well be careful what you wish for, being bi curious my change into something a little lesbian.... As for the first thing it because it should be with someone special, not wam bam.... I think you should go to a Lesbian bar, then there will be at lest a few lesbians or all bi curious there on one night... Make friends and just go with the expectation you are making friend, it take the pressure off.... Then just see what happens...
2006-10-19 19:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by mylife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am almost twice yor age and feel the same way. It is hard to tell at times if someone is gay. I did meet with a girl and we had lunch and some quality time together. But truthfully I would prob be a nervous wreck if/when it came to sex! The friend finder was/is a good idea.
2006-10-20 23:04:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't advise having a sexual experience of any kind until you can actually say "have sex" instead of "......" There has to be some level of maturity before taking that step and being able to say it comes before being able to do it.
That being said, there are a number of ways to do it. Tell your friends you're gay and see if they know anybody. Or visit a gay bar or frequent the "gay areas" of a city (Toronto has Church & Wellesley Sts). I've noticed that women are more inclined to flirt with other women when they've had something to drink. Keep your eyes open, and be open to other women. They'll come..
2006-10-19 18:48:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Everyone likes a 1st. Bar would be the 1st place to go. Just don't get caught up in the drama that goes on there. Select a handful of trustworth people, hang w/ them and all will be well. And Tricky Trucker is an IDIOT
2006-10-19 19:20:26 · answer #8 · answered by carmella.2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW I had no idea lesbians where not like gay men. When I went to the gay bar and announced that I was a virgin I had 50 guys buying me drinks all night. LOL
I didn't tell them I was a g0y LOL
2006-10-19 19:39:41 · answer #9 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Register on this site, for Bi and Lesbians in every area..
You could just chat and email become friends ask Q's...
gaydargirls.com
Promise you will never look back, and your curiosity might get a better chance to come out and play .
Good luck
2006-10-21 14:29:41 · answer #10 · answered by loulou777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋