this guy and i have only hung out about 4 times and we are getting to know eachother better little by little and he said he wants to get to know me better. he knows i like him. when i ask him to come see me he would drive from brooklyn to queens. like the other day he called to say hi and i was sick and i told him that it would help me feel better if i saw him, so he came. when i asked him whats going on with us, he said that were talking for now but in time we can work something out. it seems as if he respects my thoughts and decisions. and the other night while we were talking he talked about something like him meeting the right person. he doesn't ask me to have sex with him or anything. but for future reference i've already told him that i won't have sex. maybe he wants to take it slow and not rush anything? or maybe he only wants me for sex? do you guys think im rushing things? i mean, we only hung out 4 times. im so confused. honest opinions will be greatly appreciated. thank you.
2006-10-19 11:20:28 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i don't feel like reading this.
Hey i was honest!!!!
and i didn't say anything stupid...
oh and obviously ppl choose only honest answers for 10 points, so we're not dumb.
2006-10-19 11:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's really hard for any of us to say because we lack the information. Try talking to him & see if you can find out what is going on. You've already told him you won't have sex w/him. That could be a real issue for him if you want a gf/bf relationship.
The 2 of you have "only hung out about 4 times and we are getting to know eachother better little by little and he said he wants to get to know me better." Perhaps that's your answer.
2006-10-19 18:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by Scalawag-101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are rushing this along too quickly after all you have just hung around a few times and he sounds like he is not really interested in having a long term relationship. Just enjoy his company and dont have any expectations and everything will work out just the way it is meant to.
2006-10-19 18:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from what you say it sounds like he's not trying to rush you into anything. If he's not pressuring you into having sex and goes the extra mile to visit you and spend time with you even if you guys are just talking then he sounds like a great guy! If i were you I would be pretty excited to have a guy like that! Here's the thing though...even though he seems great you don't want to get ahead of yourself. Don't assume he's an angel either. You have to give both him and yourself time to truly learn more about eachother as well as if you're both compatible. Those kinds of things take time to find out and maybe even a lot of time to find out. LOL. Don't let his niceness influence you into doing anything either. Just trust yourself and be cautious. Give yourself time to feel things out with him. Just enjoy the time you're spending with him. I hope it works out for you!
2006-10-19 18:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why some people are in such a hurry...why? Half the fun of seeing someone is getting to know them & doing things you enjoy, etc. There really isn't anything wrong with taking your time, really what better way is there? You sound a bit obsessive & need to back off & relax....or just might scare the poor guy away when you don't want to.
2006-10-19 18:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not rush into sex or anything. I would just go out and do things as friends. If he just wants sex he will not hang around. He should respect your decision and not force or sweet talk you into anything that you don't want. Just take things very slow and things will fall into place.
2006-10-19 18:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your rushing it a bit you've only hung out with this guy a few times you can't know that much about him take your time get to know him then see what happens if he's not happy to do that then he's not good enough for you.
2006-10-19 18:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by Sylvia D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that guys can be funny when it comes to their emotions. Try to figure out what he really wants by the way he acts not by what he says. If he eally does those things for you it seems like he wants to take it slow. I hope this helps.
2006-10-19 18:25:04 · answer #8 · answered by BabyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it slow enjoy the companionship, sometimes sex ruins or complicates things. he already knows that you are now down for sex and still wants your friendship so sthat is not an issue. stop making something out of nothing and just enjoy the friendship you both share.
2006-10-19 18:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by wise1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't need your 10 points, I have a lot. He is saying the right person for sex to please you to have sex with him as with the right person. Play of meanings to push you for action to give him better statement /you want him/ to see him in your life. Is like testing watter, for good action.How somebody is so funny and pushing you for nothing. How somebody can be the right person after forth meeting??????????? do you.
2006-10-19 18:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to take it slow because he doesnt want you to feel he is rushing you with your decisions...girl he drives to see you....i think thats an answer by itself...He respects you and is considering to go further...so be happy....Hope everything works out..The only way for you to really find out is ask him...
2006-10-19 18:25:08 · answer #11 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋