anythin.....
cause from what ive seen n heard that its all downhill all the way right - whats the reason, why
2006-10-19 11:13:34 · 23 answers · asked by Franky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I understand what you are saying, but for some reason as humans we long for that one person who will love us and be our companion through good and bad time. The problem is that many people marry becasue of a romantic-illusion of what they think that person will be. The key here is that it is an illusion.
There are great marrages, I have seen them, they married for the right reasons, and yes had romance, but also knew that they had to accept the person how they are NOT as YOU want them to be and that You cant change someone and also that the reality is that if there is something bad, it doesn't magically get better after you say I do.
Marriage isn't bad, it is what people make of it. It is often failed expectations. It is depending on romance to get you through life and it takes more than romance. There is magic....but that is all it is....smoke & mirrors. Nothing wrong with romance and magic, but there needs to be a strong foundation of reality and strength of charactor that can make marriage good and worth it all.
Marriage is also a religous and legal union.
2006-10-19 11:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're a Christian, it's because you want to be obedient to God. It's His instatution. He created it to allow the two parties to have strength, stability, and cleanliness. It also is a way to honor Him...
It's not for the selfish that's for sure. However, think of this for a moment. If the two of you love each other, then you've got someone to watch your back. Usually, what you'll find is that the person you love compliments you.
Your strengths are her weaknesses... Your weaknesses are her strengths... It's amazing how so many couples that happens...
It's easier if you marry when the children are born... The child is OUR responsibility... The man can't up and leave when he feels like it. He has to go through a divorce if he starts to be a cad. Likewise, she's under legal obligation to stay...
If both husband and wife, try to give to the relationship rather than take from the other... IT GROWS STRONGER, you become like ONE person...
Anyway, if you're only in it for sex... You're better off not getting married... Go find a scumbag that will use you for whichever part of the relationship you are...
2006-10-19 11:26:44 · answer #2 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, by the same token, why would anyone want to stay alive... From what I've seen, everyone grows old, gets sick and dies... There are no happy endings. But if there's even a small chance of making oneself happier, a normal person will take the risk more often than not. Marriage offers great rewards, and it comes at a great price. Basically, most good things in life come with risks attached; so, if you avoid the risks alltogether, you will also be avoiding the good things. It depends on the person, I suppose; there's absolutely nothing wrong with choosing not to get married.
2006-10-19 11:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all marriages go downhill. The reason why we all hear about the ones that have gone downhill is because we like hearing about the dramatics rather then about some peoples happiness.
People like to get married so they have a unit, a tag team, someone they love and are committed too. Don't let other peoples experiences ruin your thought about marriage.
2006-10-19 11:22:26 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You get married because:
1. You love the person
2. You want to make a public lifetime committment to that person
3. You are willing to work out whatever problems may come up
The reason it seems it goes downhill is because there are people who get married just because they have little butterflies in their stomachs and they think that's love, when it's just lust.
Another reason it seems to go downhill is because people do not live up to their responsibilities and committments that it takes to keep a marriage alive and working, some people are just too selfish.
Another reason it seems to go downhill is because people think they are in love after only 3 months or 6 months of dating, when you've barely even scratched the surface of knowing someone. I think long engagements are better inidcators of a lasting marraige because you've put the time in to really get to know the person and their family.
There are more, but I think that's the most common reasons.
2006-10-19 11:18:59 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me anymore its more of a woman wanting to get married than a man. I could be wrong on this. I want to get married to my boyfriend and he said that is fine with him but, he said if we just want to lIve together is also fine. He doesn't think a piece of paper is a big thing but, i do. Maybe it is because he had that piece of paper years ago and it didn't work out i don't know but, ive never been married. I was brought up in a very strict religious home also so i know that is where alot of my views come from just like never having sex before marriage too. Also I'm a believer if you have children you should be married to set good examples for them.
2006-10-19 11:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by sammy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably haven't heard from the right people.
Marriage today is fairly wacky. Some people get married for the wrong reasons or marry somebody that they don't truly know. It's supposed to be a symbolic union of sorts embodies everything that a couple has experienced together. Don't be soured by bad stories. There are plenty of good ones.
2006-10-19 11:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try talking to some happily married couples. It is not all downhill after the wedding. Marriages work if you marry the right person and both continue to work hard at making it work.
2006-10-19 11:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by KC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you've been observing the wrong people. True some marriages don't last but there are some that are built to last! As for why get married.... bcuz you love that person and you wouldn't want to grow old with anyone else! Marriage CAN be a beautiful thing...to the right person!
2006-10-19 11:21:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just got married last week. This last summer i finally got a divorce from my exwife after a many year battle. I said when it was over that I would never marry again. But when finding someone who I could enjoy life, we decided that life is too short to just wait to see what happens why not just live each day like there was no tommorrow, make each count.
Lovin life in dallas
2006-10-19 11:17:00 · answer #10 · answered by xxgq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋