A.J and i have only hung out about 4 times and we are getting to know eachother better little by little and he said he wants to get to know me better. when i ask him to come see me he would drive from brooklyn to queens. like the other day he called to say hi and i was sick and i told him that it would help me feel better if i saw him, so he came. when i asked him whats going on with us, he said that were talking for now but in time we can work something out. it seems as if he respects my thoughts and decisions. and the other night while we were talking he talked about something like him meeting the right person and etc... he doesn't ask me to have sex with him or anything. maybe he wants to take it slow and not rush anything? or maybe he only wants me for sex? do you guys think im rushing things? i mean, we only hung out 4 times. im so confused. honest opinions will be greatly appreciated. thank you
2006-10-19 11:09:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
JUST TO CLEAR EVERYTHING OUT. I DID NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM AND I HAVE ALREADY TOLD HIM THAT I WON'T
2006-10-19 11:14:42 · update #1
hey girl, take a chill pill....it will work out. don't stress about it. he is just taking it slow. god luck momma!
2006-10-19 11:15:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww, well I think that taking it slow is really good, cause you get to know each other better. Also, he seems to respect you because he wants to talk, take your time before jumping into a relationship make sure he has what your looking for and vice versa, this way things are bound for the long run, if thats what you want. and no your not rushing things, thats just the way you feel and you should communicate that to him to see if you guys are on the right path. I don't think he wants you for sex, make sure you state clearly what you want that way there won't be any expectations or wrong impressions, believe it or not, guys don't always look only for sex. But most importantly, keep talking and ask him if he feels the same way for you, if theres that "spark", go for it, theres nothing to lose. Hope this helps. Good luck & God Bless =)
2006-10-19 11:18:54 · answer #2 · answered by latina ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm also patient when I'm going for a girl. that doesn't mean I'll propose marriage after sex. Life is a football field, where not all the goals count. He might start loving you today and the next day changes his mind. So will you . You can't really say. Life is just like a TV where you don't have a program schedule. You switch to channels not knowing what's on it. For a start he is nice. Have him. Good Luck
2006-10-19 11:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by good-for-all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 4 dates you SHOULD BE FAR FROM SEX. Talking is more intimate than sex. Anybody can have sex, but not everyone can
have a deep conversation. If you have a guy friend who is talking to you about his "feelings" and what he wants from life...."meeting the right person" etc.....enjoy it. Take it slow.
The fastest way to LOSE a guy is to have sex with him. People
seem to think its the way to keep a guy, but really most guys
want women who are pure....not necessarily a virgin, but pure.
Not someone who sleeps with you after 4 or 5 dates. Make him
wait.....if he is worth YOUR TIME then he'll wait and IF you really like him then you should be happy that he talks to you and isnt asking you for sex.
I guess what I am trying to say is just take it slow. Let him
lead. Men like to lead and they like the chase.
Good luck.
2006-10-19 11:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best relationships tend to be built slowly without sex. get to know AJ as a friend, develop a relationship built on trust and honesty. Learn to communicate about everything. See how he acts arround his family and and friends. Watch the way his father treats his mother as men tend to learn from their parents relationship. You will find out after some time if this is the person you want to develop a physical relationship with. If it works out that this is not the person for you, you still have a friend without all the messy "we slept together" oddness.
Good luck
2006-10-19 11:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by Deana G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys haven't hung out much, and he might just be taking things slow so that neither one of you end up hurt! Sounds like you have a good guy there, so don't stress the issues, just let your relationship flow naturally. In time, you will know if you're right for each other...
2006-10-19 11:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by ฿└ΛÇκ ĦΘŁỀ ŞЏП 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you are rushing things a little. He sounds like a nice guy,get to know him some more,spend some more time together and then once you have both talked about it,have sex.
2006-10-19 11:13:57 · answer #7 · answered by lily_shaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, it is you the one that is desperated for sex, he is probably looking for a serious girlfriend and by you telling him that you dont wanna have sex right away he would know you are serious, well help him out and try to be nice, dont do it until he asks you to be his girl, if he doesnt dont break the magic of your friendship.
2006-10-19 11:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the rush see him when you both can and have fun if after 10 times or so i would think he has an interest or he would not be seeing you good luck
2006-10-19 11:12:39 · answer #9 · answered by ken j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously likes. he probably doesn't want you to feel rushed. he possibly isn't interested in just sex, but really likes you. you are not taking anything to fast, but if you dont let him know you are interested soon he may move on
2006-10-19 11:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by Trayne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right in emphasizing it has only been FOUR TIMES. have you had sex yet? if you have in those FOUR times, maybe he does just want sex. if you haven't, maybe he wants to get to know YOU. GIVE IT TIME AND BE PATIENT. Only time will tell how things work out.
2006-10-19 11:13:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋