My husband says I have a low sex drive, but I think it's fairly normal. I would be happy and totally satisfied with an average of 3 times per week--sometimes 2, sometimes 4, depending on what is going on during any given week. Please, only honest and constructive answers...
2006-10-19 11:05:55 · 42 answers · asked by missapparition 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok freaks! Obviously you have nothing else to do but have sex, but those of us in our thirties who work and have kids and run our butts off manage to meet in the bedroom once a week "or so". Liars, all of you!
2006-10-19 12:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Taken from a survey done by Menshealth and Cosmopolitan Magazines.
1. How often do you want sex?
Two or three times a week 34.8% 35.1%
Once a day 30 26.3
Several times a day 25.3 25.7
Once a week 3.81 6.3
Two or three times a month 3 3.7
Less than once a month 2.3 1.7
Once a month .8 1.2
So, you are in the largest percentage of women and men. However, fully half the female population has a higher sex drive than you and only bout 13% has a sex drive lower than you.
Depending on what you count as "average", your sex drive is either average or on the low side.
2006-10-19 11:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by Akfek_Branford 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well being a married male with 4 kids (married for 4 years) we both are very busy. We do not have a "Normal" sex drive. I make absolute certain that I tell my wife how much I love her EVERYDAY, we flirt all the time with each other and we are happy. The bonus is the actual ACT of making love/sex. There are times when we both finally make it to the bedroom and one of us passes out. Not always a bad thing. I think if you put a number and an expectation somewhere someone is not going to have fun. Sex/making love needs to be a commitment by both parties. Otherwise it becomes an unwanted act.
2006-10-19 11:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by clownzinc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your early thirties, the word often comes to mind, time permitting,
may I make suggestion, please talk with your husband and keep the lines of communication open on this point. as men often have expectations greater than a woman. you might want to consider
setting time aside when you know you will , not be tired, and when you feel you may be more apt to be in the mood and save that time for making love.
Additionally you need to make sure your mate knows when and how to get you in the mood and where these windows of opportunity are, Because men get easily disappointed and when a woman says not tonight I'm tired too often, resentment starts to rear its ugly head.
You may want to set the pace a bit more brisk than you initially think at first and then slow down to comfortable level but in all cases try to be loving and creative and both of you keep the romance alive, never give the other person a reason to seek sexual comfort from another. and communication, no matter how difficult is the key.
that my opinion
2006-10-19 11:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No magic numbers- the right amount of sex is what each couple finds for themselves. But I would think that 2-4 times a week, depending on life's events, is pretty average.
If your husband wants more, I'd consider it a compliment- that he wants to make love with his wife is a good thing. I think I'd make the time or effort to do it more often. I mean, sex with your spouse is fun and a great way to unwind.
2006-10-19 11:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he may want something that can leave him exhausted; I think 3-4 times a week is enough for some people, I dont live w/ my boyfriend but before we used to do it everyday or @ least 3-4 times a week; however, lately everytime we see each other we have to do it, sometimes 3 times a day. So I guess it depends on the person and their daily life, if you are tired from work or have problems of course you wont think about sex everyday.....I hope he can understand that and just do something to him to leave him exhausted so he wont be asking for it too often,
2006-10-19 11:11:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
3 times per week?? Damn girl, you haven't seen a "low" sex drive... 3 times a month would be too much for me. We're a couple in our early 30s, just got married... it's about once a month on the average... but we're different I guess.
2006-10-19 11:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three or four times a week? Mah-rone! I can't even say. I'd have to reach back into ancient history to give a good answer for this. But...who says there has to be a set number anyway?
I think if it happens once a week that's great. providing it's a 2 hour session. Other than that...how 'bout when the mood strikes. I like spontaneity anyway.
2006-10-19 11:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im in the exact same situation. He wants it every single night, Im perfectly happy with 2-3 times a week or sometimes even less. I think thats pretty normal for an average woman. But thats my opinion.
2006-10-19 11:09:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 34, we have been married for 6 years. 3 - 4 times a week!
2006-10-19 11:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by Faith In The House 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1 to 2 times a week.
2006-10-19 11:08:18 · answer #11 · answered by barbie2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋