okay heres the thing we have been together for almost 3 years we have a 1 year old daughter together and we still live at home with his mom all she does is complain about money but heres the big issue she does not like me at all and she treats me so rude all the time i've been telling my boyfriend i have been unhappy and that i think its time for us to move out he tells my we cant afford it so just the other day i told him my plans for my daughters birthday party we were planning on throwing her a party but now all of a sudden he tells me we cant afford to throw her a birthday party but now all of a sudden we can afford to help his mom buy a house?? tell me what i should do should i leave him and let him be happy with his mom or just stick around and be 2nd best all the time ?
2006-10-19 10:55:49 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you need to stand up for yourself and your daughter. I would tell him to chose either his mom or you. You deserve to be somewhere you and your daughter can be happy and apparently that is not with his mom.
2006-10-19 11:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Being a single parent is not easy. You have to do what's best for your daughter right now. You need to start planning ahead though. If his mother doesn't like that much it sure seem like she planning on keeping her son around with him helping her buy a house . What you need to think about now is, if you went to court who's in a better position to get custody of your daughter. If he has a job and owns part of Mommy's house and you don't have a job or a place to stay you could lose your daughter. Just something you need to think about. I would put my foot down now about your daughter birthday party. Something are even more important than Mommy and he should know that.
2006-10-19 11:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by Fangs_4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you earn any income? I think if you could contribute financially, you will feel more empowered. it may be time to leave the mamma's boy however, you earning an income is the beginning of the end of all your problems. Even if you just buy stuff @ garage sales and flea markets and resell them for a profit. Don't forget Woppie Goldberg was a welfare mother, the president and CEO of Baby Einstein was a stay at home mother, and so was the author of the Harry Potter trilogy. Good luck momma;)
2006-10-19 11:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by islander 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay. You have a "Momma's Boy" for a boyfriend. Your boyfriend needs to grow up. He's a father, and he needs to take some responsibility, pop his mother's nipple out of his mouth and BE A MAN!!! You two definently need to get out of his mother's house. If he has any respect for you at all, he will understand this. And tell him to stop using lack of money as an excuse. There is financial assistance in housing. And if you decide to leave him, there is all kinds of help for single mothers. Good Luck!
2006-10-19 11:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by WTF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should try to live with your parents and let him deal with his mom and tell him both of you and your daughter need your own place. If he doesnt like it then hes going to be with his mom for the rest of his life. You could also get help to get your own place you should look around. Try to do something to let him know you are tired.
2006-10-19 11:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him i suggest you behind his back look for an apartment or house and save up some money to buy or rent it and when the time is right you tell him and move out with him, if he doesn't want to move out leave him, his mom doesn't like you anyways and you're very unhappy anyways.
2006-10-19 11:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by elizatinkerbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him if he is sleeping with you or his momma tonight. I couldn't live under these circumstances. If he couldn't fully commit to me and our family I would have to leave and start a normal life for me and my daughter. I am not saying he should have to pick between you are his mother, but you and his daughter should come first.
2006-10-19 11:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by Jewells 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like homeboy need to grow up and stop nursin mommys tit. Screw it, kick his *** to the curb and if it was really meant to be, he'll see the light and get a place for you two. Otherwise there alot of better guys out there.
2006-10-19 10:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to work it out for your daughters sake but if you keep coming in last for his priorities then it is time to move on.
2006-10-19 10:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by Melinda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel unhappy then leave him. Sounds like he loves his mom better than you.
2006-10-19 10:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋