Being GAY is a disease? Maybe so............?

Question

I am as open minded as they come and have had gay friends or acquaintances all my life, I have attended gay weddings, parties, shopped with gays, lived with gays all my life. Now I don’t want to stereotype people, but admit it some stereotypes are true and you know it! NOW, for my question. After 25 years of knowing gay people from all around the world, why is it that 95 percent of them possess an essence of extreme promiscuity? I mean sex is always on their minds! Why is this? They always talk about it. Something else Ive noticed is that they change sexual partners more than anyone. Why? Please don’t take me wrong here I am not trying to bash anyone. I also have to say that most gay people I have met also posses extreme intelligence as well. So is it possible that being gay is a disease because most share the same symptoms?

Some of you seem to be disappointed with my choice to use the word “disease”, I don’t mean to offend anyone, but for an example, 100 kids in my son’s elementary school can’t concentrate, see and spell words backwards and can’t sit still to save their lives. They all share the same symptoms and to classify it we put them in the category of having ADHD/ADD.
Disease, Disorder…….whatever.

Answer 1

Being gay is the best way to dodge the onset of the family structure and all of its responsibilites.
Gays don't ever want to grow up, they want to "play" forever.
They share this in common with other lascivious guys, so they get together, and do it together.

Answer 2

From what you are claiming, you should know the answer to this. However, giving you the benefit of the doubt, I would say that gay men are just as obsessed with sex and their genitalia as straight men. I'm sure you don't just spend your time with gay men, so you can't tell me that you haven't been in a locker room, a fishing trip, a hunting trip, or sports game. While momentarily distracted, most talk comes right back to getting some. Why would gay men be any different? Just because the object of their desire has the same equipment they do, doesn't change the sexual urgings of men in general.

So if your child had ADD/ADHD its ok to ask how his/her disease is progressing? Are you referring to homosexuality as a disease or disorder? For someone who spends as much time as you say you do around gay men, I'm at a loss to understand.

Answer 3

I think that it might just be the type of friends you attract. Most of my gay friends are not promiscuous. Are your straight friends fairly promiscuous too?

As far as homosexuality being a disease; I guess you would classify being left handed, or blond, or having blue eyes as being a disease too. After all, a lower percentage of the population is actually blue eyed than is gay. The same goes for being blond and about an equal number of people are left handed as are gay.

Answer 4

This kind of question is the kind that many straight 'American' people ask. Typically, straight Americans have been conditioned to be secretive about their affairs, especially when they are bonded in a 'committed' relationship. But the truth of the matter is so cliche, its the stuff of movies, books, music and plays.

All people are promiscuous. Its built into our hardware (male and female) to be constantly interested in sex. Whether or not you want to admit it is something else entirely. Awareness of sex underlies everything humans do. (And its by no means confined to humans.)

The gay people you know are perhaps a bit more honest and open about their sexuality, but its not in any way more or less a condition than what straight people routinely experience. Take a trip to Italy, France or Spain if you need more proof of the promiscuity of straight people.

Answer 5

I k now a number of gay couples who live monogamous together. Female and male couples.

I guess what happens with male gay couples especially when they re young they live their sexuality. Hetero men have it more difficult because they have to convince women who are not always in the first place about sex. But between guys they can just do what they want and be honest - on every man's mind is sex most of the time. Especially when they are younger.

Being gay can't be disease because the definition for disease includes also that you fell bad and die of the condition if untreated and so no.

However - it is possible that a genetic disposition has to do with how our sexuality develops. And perhaps there are some other genes on the same chromosome. Who knows. It's really not important.

Answer 6

Think about this: guys tend to initiate, ask for, and think about sex more than women do. So if you have a bunch of guys together who all want sex, and they are open to having sex with other men, then a LOT of sex will occur. It doesn't have to do with theie being *gay*, it has to do with them being *men*.

Also, the gay culture is very open to discussing sex (compare typical American culture to, say, Japanese culture) and being accepting of sexual expression.

If most gay people share similar traits, it is because they share the same LGBT sub-culture... not a "disease"!! Do you think all these friends of yours are insane or sick, that you call them diseased? Haven't you found them to be kind, funny, loving, delightful people? Haven't you met straight people that are promiscuous and horny, or have you never been on a college campus?

Funny that you think you're open-minded, yet you believe in and repeat stereotypes. =P

Answer 7

I suppose if every queer you met was a party boy from the gay village area of the city, you might notice a high level of promiscuity.

Also, many (NOT all) men tend to be more promiscuous than women, so even if they're in a relationship, there's more likely to be outside action happening in a 2-guy couple, if they're ok with it especially. (In some ways, queers don't hold to hetero values, so monogamy and such aren't as highly valued, and a queer couple may be more open to 'open' relationships.)

In reality, though, eventually even for party boys the relationship roundabout slows down or stops.

And frankly, I find a deep level of desire, and a significant level of practice, or monogamy among queer womyn. As for your idea that "sex is always on their minds!" - I guess you've never heard of 'lesbian bed death'. Look it up. Be enlightened....be amazed.

Answer 8

Well, arent straight men like this too?
Im sorry but my straight freinds talk about sex all the time too.
Dont forget that you are dealing with a double male sexuality.
Men are promiscuous by nature. When it comes to straights the girls hold them back. They play their typical game, and when the girl says the OK then they go for it. But I am sure a straight guy wouldnt say no to nice chicks if they asked him for sex all the time. With gay people (since you have two men who both want the same thing) you dont go through the same process, they simply get to the point thus more sex. It is not true that all gays are talking about sex all the time. I dont do it, neither my boyfriend does neither my friends. The reason straight guys are not shouting it is because girls dont like it and because they cant have sex all the time because girls will say no. Gays dont have to compromise to such rules, because if a gay guy hears another guy making sexual comments, he doesnt get offended like a girl would. But I am sure a straight guy wouldnt mind having girls around making sexual comments and talking about "pillow fights."

Answer 9

you might claim to be open-minded and have gay friends, but you're still generalizing. gays aren't any more promiscuous than straight people. I've met more straight people who were way more promiscuous than gays! and proud of it, too!
and if you are open minded and have so many gay friends, you wouldn't insult them (or us) by making an ignorant statement like being gay is a disease...it is not!

Answer 10

::eyeroll:: Because some share similar characteristics, you think they're suffering from a disease?

Wow... someone shouldn't've dropped out of school at the 3rd grade.

Yes, all of those kids have ADD... and some basketball players exhibit similar characteristics, just as some mountain climbers are alike and some red heads are alike and some Christians are alike. That doesn't make ANY of them diseased.

Just because you refer to the similarities among homosexuals by the misnomer of "symptoms" doesn't mean there's a disease behind any of it. You're labeling things as effects from a cause that you DON'T know exists. Don't put the horse before the cart, kiddo.

Answer 11

Your perception of "95%" is just that, a perception. It's not a fact at all.

I'm not promiscuous nor has my partner been.

Now, if you mean to say, unable to, or lacking interest in long-term, committed relationships...that's different.

I believe it has a lot to do with socialization's and stigmas.

The GLBT community has suffered for so long being denied equal access to rights, freedoms and privileges...they've suffered misunderstanding, misconceptions and perceptions...we've been told over and over that being gay is all about sexual desires or that we're unable to feel emotional love...that some actually have learned to believe it.

You beat a child long enough and that child believes physical violence is a social norm.
You tell a child repeatedly that they are stupid or worthless and the child learns to not strive for anything.

You tell a gay person that they're sick, mentally ill, unable to form lasting emotional relations or evil, that gay person will eventually believe it...no matter how WRONG those precepts are!