I know that sounds really horrid! I'm not a slut, but I do care for my ex quite a bit. How do I keep from picking up the phone when he calls? What can I do as far as forgetting? Serious and helpful answers please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-19 10:38:10 · 14 answers · asked by BOOYAH 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow...I have a friend who is in the EXACT same position as you. She broke up with her boyfriend because there was no way the relationship could work (for a lot of reasons that I won't go into right now), but he still calls and texts her all the time. The best advice I can give you is this...think about the future and what it holds for you. By holding onto a relationship even after you have broken up, you are not allowing yourself to move on. It's hard, it hurts, and you will probably always feel something for this person, but you need to gather all of your willpower and just STOP taking his calls. Delete his number from your phone, get rid of anything that will allow you to hang on to the memories of your relationship (take down pictures, put away jewelry, etc.), and then find something else to occupy your time. TRUST ME, each day that you don't talk to him, it will get easier...good luck.
2006-10-19 10:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by missapparition 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've been where you are, more than once. What I did was, accept that it will be at least 18 months, maybe more, before you feel normal again. Accept that when a year has past, you would think that you would feel better than you feel, but you're still hurting, not as much as you did but you still expected to better than you do. Now, if you really want to move on, get rid of all his stuff and pack them away or give them away, anything that reminds you of him. Yes, CD's tokens of his affection-those you might want to pack in the attic for a year or two, you will want them when your over him but not right now, or for a while. Try and shut him out of your life, Ask him to not call or contact you in any way, you are moving on, he needs to as well. Now, do not frequent the places where he may be, try new places. Accept the comfort and companionship of family and friends, you will not be ready for a new relationship for at least 15 months, probably longer. Remember it is time that heals and you have to allow yourself to grieve the loss. Remember, you have to close to door on one relationship before you can open a new one, and try counseling, maybe every other week, it could help.
2006-10-19 10:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by maitland44 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Changing your number.
2. Heroin
3. Going on a date with a total stranger, have sex in the stranger's car while parked in front of the ex's house.
4. An entire sheet of LSD.
5. Just give in and answer the phone.
6. Accept Jesus as your savior and use him as a scapegoat a couple minutes later.
Any of the above will work, up to you which is the best.
2006-10-19 12:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by Erad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't approach the situation by trying to forget- too much work. You may never forget and always love him.
I am married and still sometimes think about an ex that I was crazy over.
What matters is that you do what is healthy for you, and that is probably not to talk to him for a little while. Don't tell yourself that you can't talk to him ever again, just tell yourself to wait. Wait whatever amount of time you think you need. Two weeks, three, 4- your choice. I would say a minimum of two weeks, though...
2006-10-19 10:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by carobygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself busy!! The more you have to do, the less you think about your ex. The forgetting and healing process may take awhile though. Just keep yourself busy and occupied. Go out with friends, go shopping, take a class, go to the beach, get out and meet new people. Hope this helps!! I wish you all the best, I know how hard it can be.
2006-10-19 11:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
serious reply to your question , get someone new in your life and it really helps to get over that bump in the road. you don't have to fall in love or take it anywhere , at least open the door. you can also say a prayer , god is there....and he will help you through this. but when that phone rings , walk away from it an let the recorder pick it up.
2006-10-19 11:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you don't want to be with him. If there is a chance that you two could work things out, then go for it. But if you are positive that you don't want to be with him, then keep it in mind. When he calls, answer the phone and tell him to please stop calling, that it is only making things worse for you and him both. Don't have a friendly conversation or try to be friends with him until you two are over eachother.
2006-10-19 10:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by WTF 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MMMMMMMM, you say you still love him, you say you care for him quite a bit and you say he is calling, if you love him and care about him, why dont you talk to him? I dont think he would be calling you unless he had some feelings left. Whats the rest of the story?
2006-10-19 11:50:43 · answer #8 · answered by Jon J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the phone rings and it is him calling, run the other way. I had a buddy that used to tell me the easiest way to get over someone is to think of them on the toliet taking a big sh it
2006-10-19 10:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you guys are O V E R and don't even be his friend because you are obviously not ready to move on. It takes time and try to meet new, better people
2006-10-19 11:08:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋