me and my mom are so very close. We talk about life and boys all the time. How some boys are dogs, about having sex and messing my life up by getting pregnant or having a disease. I know what goes on in the world. But yet i am making my own choices and not thinking first. She was telling me how proud she was of me for staying away from sex. Afterwards she caught me having sex with my boyfriend who she knew nothing about. Now i love my mom and i didnt mean to hurt her. Now im grounded and she Keeps up with me for now. I was about to get anything i wanted untill that happened. What should i do? Have this ever happened to you? If so what did you do. Help me any way possible if you got something negative to say like i shouldmt have done it then just go to another question.
2006-10-19 10:35:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Seem's like you posted the what is suicide question to get everyone's attention as it has nothing to do with suicide so I will put it this way .Be honest with your mum , she is probably more angry with the fact you lied to her not the fact you have had sex and as far as suicide goes it's nothing more than a long term solution to a short term problem.
2006-10-19 10:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by Knackers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it is hard now, it does go away. You will have to gain her trust back and be wary of what you do from here on out. Your mother wants what is best for you, don't blow it again. Make peace with her by helping out around the house more and letting her know that you really are sorry for not telling her about it. There is a point in time where you keep your personal life separate from your parents, but not in their house.
2006-10-19 10:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by Jul M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may seem like it, but its not the end of the world. My mom caught me before too, when I was about 18 (on the couch in the living room). She called me all kinds of whores and dirty bi tches! I was embaressed and thought she would never forgive me. Well, time healed that wound.And it will heal yours and your moms too. She will get over it. If you two are close like you say, she is probably hurt because you did not come to her first and you lied. Give it some time. Good Luck.
2006-10-19 10:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you want your mom to trust you, sit down and be honest with her. Let her know that you feel terrible that you disappointed her, and that you just got caught up in the idea of feeling wanted. You need to get on the pill and have a pap smear. This is a choice that you made in your life, and now if that is how you want to behave, then be responsible about it. Take care of yourself and be careful!
2006-10-19 10:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don't want to hear anything negative, yet your actions were so negative!! You yourself said. "You are making your own choices and not thinking first". What sense does that make?? If you were making mature choices you WOULD think first., And if you did I am sure because you and your Mom are so close, that she has taught you to make better choices. That is the key, THINK FIRST!! Have to turn to God, He say's marriage and then sex. You also said you were about to get anything you wanted before this happened, sounds like (I am sorry for this statement) but I call as I see, you are spoiled., and out to destroy your life. The whole key is to THINK first, you said it yourself hon. Please take your own advise, THINK first!! And yes subconsciously you are out to destroy yourself, maybe not physically but spirituality.
2006-10-19 10:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by Margie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i havent got caught with a boy, having sex, but i got caugh the other day with a 18 yr. old and i'm only 14. but i love him! and im also grounded! i no how u feel!
2006-10-19 10:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by *~*~*AMBER A*~*~*~*~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke your moms heart. Your her little girl and you basically lied to her face. The only thing that I can suggest is give it time, she's your mom she will forgive eventually. Also do some serious a s s kissing.
2006-10-19 10:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep talking to your mother, keep that relationship close. It sounds like she trusted you whole heartily, and now the trust is damaged. Like I said, talk to her and rebuild that trust between the two of you. It seems like that she isn't just your mother, but your best friend as well. Good luck.
2006-10-19 10:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by Phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im not gonna say u shouldn't have done it, u just shouldn't have gotten caught..lol. but anyways, just stick it out, stuff like that happens wen u lose ur parents trust, but after a while u get it back...
2006-10-19 10:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET CLOSER TO YOUR MOM SHE IS THERE 4 U. BEST OF LUCK MOMS NO ONE CAN BEAT IN THE ENTIRE WORLD NOT BOYS NOR DADS
2006-10-19 10:40:01 · answer #10 · answered by KOHLI V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋