im 13 and he is 14 and when i told him i was pregnant and said my baby should die at birth but were am i going to get the money if i bring him to court will he have to pay child support. im 4 months pregnant now with a baby boy due march18
2006-10-19 10:32:17 · 39 answers · asked by im-due-March-18-2007 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
no mean answers please i already know i did a mistake
2006-10-19 10:36:27 · update #1
First I want to say that I'm sorry that you had to find out so young that men tend to be jerks. Second you have a huge choice to make to keep the baby or give it to family in a better situation than you are in. If you decide to raise the baby, it isn't the end of the world, children can be your biggest joy and sometime the hardest struggle. There are a lot of programs that will let a young mother continue school and get financial aid and attend College. Which is VERY important in your situation. DON'T QUIT SCHOOL! You CAN make it! It may be the hardest struggle of your life but Don't give up! Talk to someone you trust, have them help you find resources to help you. And learn from this and don't make the mistake again. You will be able to file for child support the sooner you file the better! They can tell you what you need to know.
2006-10-19 10:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by mudd_grip 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Look no matter what anyone says never do anything your going to regret in the long run...don't give your child up for anyone or get rid of it because like me everyone make mistakes and no ones perfect so have your baby and another by you and him being young his parents would have to pay child support nine out of ten..but you can also get help from the government food stamps ,WIC. and all.. but when you have your baby don't look down on anything because that's a blessing no matter how young you have it sooner or later he'll realize what he said was wrong and he should man up but sweetie I'm 17 years old and me and my baby's father is going through the same thing just let him go on his way because everyone is always saying their father need to be around no he doesn't i believe a single mother house hold is the new American family whether people like it or not but you don't need to waste your time worry about him or what he have to offer do the best you can at least people will say you tried and you didn't give up like some people which is a poor excuse for anyone...but sweetie do the best you can and "f%&k" what other people have to say but do go to court and put him and the whole family on child support....
2006-10-19 10:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by flag.st_princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you need to tell your parents. I would avoid all contact with this boy - he sounds very unstable. And if he continues to come around you and say these horrible things, I would make sure that you go and make a police report.
He will probably be made to pay child support when he is of adult age - depending on whether he bothers to get a job or not. But until then, you are probably much better concentrating on raising the baby without him - you can be a good mom, and still go to school - so that one day you will be able to find good employment to support you and your baby. I'm sure your parents will be willing to help you with this as much as possible. Just please don't keep it a secret. Get all the help that's available. :-)
2006-10-19 10:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by Butterscotch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you have an abortion, and then have unprotected sex again, and then get pregnant the same month you had an abortion? You are so young to be doing these things. What do your parents think? The boyfriend's parents will have to pay child support until he turns 18, or gets a job. I feel sad for you that you think so little of yourself to continue making the same mistakes over and over. I'm not trying to be mean, but I just feel so sad. Please give the baby up to a good family. If you continue on this path, you'll have 4 kids by the age of 18! Good luck, and please don't make this choice again. Live your young life, and see what you can accomplish. My prayers are with you.
2006-10-19 10:44:16 · answer #4 · answered by Caelan's mom 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Consider yourself a single mother. As a minor I don't think he has to pay support and obviously at 14 he is immature and is saying things to hurt you and out of ignorance. Your life is forever changed. Finish your education and be the best parent you can. Check into some local parenting classes. You should be able to find something through human services or a local church. I hope your family is supportive and willing to help you through this. Forget him and move on- use your energy for caring for yourself and your baby and your future. Good Luck.
2006-10-19 11:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey don't worry about all the as* es on here. Congrats. My little cousin had a baby not too long ago and just cause people make mistakes don't mean anything. But there has to be some law that will make him pay. And maybe he won't stand up and be a daddy but God put that baby with you for a reason.
2006-10-19 10:57:15 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley F.M. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go and get some counseling immediately to deal with all these issues. Yes he will be responsible for this baby once it is born but you must realize how hard to enforce these actions. What kind of life do you have to offer this baby at this point in time being undeducated and having no means to support the both of you. There are other alternatives such as abortion or adoption. Talk to your mother and see if she can help you make a informed decision. You are only a child yourself and having a baby can be dangerous to your health. God bless and good luck to you. You are in my prayers.
2006-10-19 10:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be strong and leave the bastard. Somewhere in the phone book you can find help with free services provided from a number of places. You just have to do a little research. There are lawyers willing to help you for free, free clinics to help you get the best care, counseling, support etc. The baby's father sounds like an immature idiot and worthless. Rely on friends and family and get the support you need. Good luck.
2006-10-19 10:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by Nose 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you can take him to court and he, or probably his parents, will have to pay child support. Make sure you document everything he says like that, and if he leaves any messages saying things like that, record and keep them as evidence against him. If he and his family decide to sue you for custody or visitation you will want proof that he is unfit. It's really sad that you are in this situation, you are still a child yourself. I'm saddened and alarmed by how many very young girls are on Yahoo Answers because they are pregnant or think they might be. I truly wish you the best of luck, your life is going to get very difficult, very soon. I hope your parents are supporting you in this, if not find another trusted adult to get you through this. And I'm sorry that person called you a sl*t, that's just wrong. I do hope though that you won't have sex anymore until you are older, at least out of your teens and hopefully in a committed relationship. And please, consider letting a nice, loving couple adopt your child. You could even choose an open adoption where they send you pictures and updates and the child will know you gave birth to him/her.
2006-10-19 10:37:46 · answer #9 · answered by nimo22 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
well I think it's horrible that a man would deny his own child. and yes you can get him for child support. if the guy your with deny's your child you sure as hell better go after him. you both made a mistake of having unprotected sex, but your baby should never be called a mistake it should only be called a gift or a surprise. I would say if he still talks to you via email or in person. record or print out everything he says to be used against him in court. well try and raise this baby onn your own if you can. my baby's due january 19th I guess it's a bit different since I'm married. but I have never gotten an abortion in my life and had never planned to. if ever I had a kid with someone who wasn't the one I truly loved at that moment I would make sure to eventually learn to love them cause I don't go after a man's money I go after his life. My husband knew this from the beginning he met me because I laid down my boundaries very clear. I suppose when I met him I just about had it with men so that's why I laid down all the thing's that I disliked in my past experience of men and told him if he didn't want to live up to those standards he could just get the fudge away from me. well you know what he didn't go anywhere he stayed. The funny thing is, we both had had bad experiences with men and women in our lives. so I was a bit of a ***** and he was a bit of an asshole. we both were trying to test eachother out to make sure we weren't using one another and you know what it worked. guys who work hard and don't cheat on their women are usually married to bitches. I guess the good thing is that my husband always tells me where he's going i never have to ask and always calls during the day to see how I'm doing when he working. Not all men are like this but i'm sure glad mine is. your a bit young to really get what I'm saying or to even get married but just wait it out about 5 years. good luck in your life and your baby.
2006-10-19 11:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by cutegrl4evr16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋