I recently got had a divorce in March. It took me a week to get over the 3 yr, 8 month relationship. It was negative, abusive, & disrespectful that no one deserved to be in. Afterwards, every guy I met I had no commons with. Til Labor Day weekend, I met a charming, attractive, considerate, respectful - you name it - guy. My Prince Charming....I fell for him within a matter of days, & the feeling was mutual. Recently, marriage came up. We both feel that we have found our soulmates. There isn't a single thing he's missing & not a single thing I'd change. Everything in this relationship, has NEVER happened with any other. My ex & I never had that laughter, love, respect, & compassion for each other. We are a 180 of my last relationship. Is it too soon to start talking about marriage again? How do I know that this will last? I love this man with every bone in my body & would do anything for him, as he would me. We already act like we're married & it's been a month & a half!!! Suggestions??
2006-10-19 10:05:26 · 13 answers · asked by PrettyGSXRfromFL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To clear things up, we weren't talking about getting married right now....We were simply discussing future plans, like one year from now, get in engaged, and then another year from then or 2 years from then, get married....we are definitely planning on living together first. People change once you live with them....I've found that out the hard way.
2006-10-19 10:06:15 · update #1
Tell you the truth fro what you've said- sounds liek you were in a really bad situation with you ex and got tired of living your life with a looser. Your words make it seem like you don't lvoe him but i'm prety sure you did. I think you're not over the ex but definately take your time to meet this new prince charming. Don't get married or move in jsut yet. Date the guy for at least 1 1/2 years. This will help you get to knwo him and you guys can go out do the the dating thing. You can grow bored wtih each other if you don't date. Since ou don't sound like you have children with your ex- if you get married or move in you increase your chances of getting pregnant because you will get to sleep with the guy. What if he feels like you're not for him and he throws you out not being married you will have no rights to anything you buy together. Everything seems beautiful at the beginning of every relationship but you really need to slow down! go out with girlfriends. Don't rush into anything that serious just yet! You sound like you really like this guy but i thnk you like him even more than what you think because you need lvoe and attention and this guy is giving you this. Don't rush- get to know him and hopefully if he's as great as he sounds you can later talk about getting married and everything is cool. Just remember all the things you learned about being married before and try to do better! you don't wanna get married again and end up in a 2 nd divorce. it makes you look like you don't know what you want and you're jsut getting married to the first guy that tells you he loves you. Just be careful! I would
2006-10-19 10:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it is too early to be talking marriage. Anything looks better (you) when you are not happy with what you have. I'm not saying you're not a good guy and that you two shouldn't have a relationship. But, people who are in the midst of divorce can get all wrapped up in the "new and exciting" feelings of someone else showing them attention etc...If you both love each other and want to be together, give it some time before you marry. You want to make sure that she loves you for you and isn't jumping into this relationship because she is afraid of being alone etc... Good Luck!
2016-05-22 03:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 50 year old man, so I've been around the block a few times.
Take this very slowly. This guy may be better than sliced bread, but it takes time to build a relationship that will last. Don't get me wrong... see him lots, have good times, go places, have wild sex if you want. Just remember... it's really easy to fall for someone if that someone is putting on a good front. Not that this guy is, but you don't know him after all of a month and a half. Give yourself 6-8 months and if it's still everything you want, then maybe it IS for real. Just don't let yourself in for more heartbreak because of severel weeks of a good thing. You and this guy have lots of time, so what's the hurry? If it's real it'll be real forever. The best of luck to you and my fingers are crossed for you!!!
2006-10-19 10:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by springvalleykid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its way to soon to even be in another relationship! You need to find yourself, remember who u r! You were in a bad marriage you should also talk to a therapist for piece of mind clear your brain a lil bit. Help you learn to not make the same mistakes twice. I am sure you married your X because u thought he was your Prince Charming too!!! Please don't repeat history! Did you ever take a vacation by yourself - a short weekend alone visit some sights - its very rejuvinating! GOD BLESS!
2006-10-19 10:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great job on getting over your last relationship in a week, you should write a book on getting over relationships. My wife and I were both divorced when we met. We both knew within hours of meeting one another that we were soul mates. We were married after 5 months and have been happily married for 11 years. If you are sure then go for it, life is too short to mess around.
2006-10-19 10:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you just answered your question.
I think it's WAY too early to even think about it. Wait 2 years before you talk about it again. I good gal friend of mine once told me that "Too Much Too Soon, IS Too Much Too Soon". Don't put the cart before the horse.
You just got out of a marriage. Also, you should add some variety to your life. You may think this guy is your soulmate, but they may be other men might make you feel even more strongly about it. Just look around first before you buy the first outfit off the rack.
2006-10-19 10:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jerrid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy dating him, take it one day at the time and cherish these tender moments.
Now that you have found Prince Charming, then don't rush into anything. Date, enjoy and since you are meant for each other and you know where the relationship is heading, then sit back relax , enjoy.... and wait at least 2 years before getting married again.
Good luck
2006-10-19 10:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You worry me. When women say things like "I fell for him within a matter of days" I see giant red flags. You've only know him for about 7 weeks and you say you "love this man with every bone in my body & would do anything for him"-- hello? I don't think you've recovered from your horrible marriage because for a grown woman to feel like this is a little bit mental. You don't even really know this man, so I think you need to take 5 steps back and date and act like normal people. Date for 18 months THEN talk about marriage. You haven't even known him 18 weeks! COOL IT
2006-10-19 10:16:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Deciding to live together first is a good idea. Sounds like you have a good thing going there. And if neither of you is uncomfortable with the idea, then it's not too early to be talking about it. Sometimes you know who you want to be with.
Just see how things go as time progresses. And remember that no one is perfect!
2006-10-19 10:10:19 · answer #9 · answered by Adrianna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well sweetie, i think that you should give it some more time before you even decide to move in with him cause as you know when you live with them their true colors come out.... after time passes and you think things are going good then you should try the engagement and give that some time....if your passion and love is still there than go for it and get married.. as long as hes the one that makes you happy there shouldn't be a reason for you not to do it..... i wish you the best of luck.....
2006-10-19 10:15:07 · answer #10 · answered by SHORTY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋