what do you do when you are married have a kid and fall in love with another woman?

Answer 1

Are u a woman or a man?

Answer 2

Work on your marriage. If your eyes are wandering it's a sure sign that something isn't quite right with your marriage, and it's your responsilbity and commitment to do all you can to make it work. If the sex is lacking, go away for a dirty weekend or invest in some sexy toys or new positions. If you don't get enough time together start booking some sexy nights in or go out on a date. If you don't communicate well go to a counsellor and find new ways of sharing your thoughts and feelings. Whatever you do - DON'T bottle it and go with the first other woman you're attracted to. Marriage and kids are a big deal and you will ruin a lot of lives if you leave before giving your marriage everything.

Answer 3

I'm assuming your a man here....

You need to be a man and do whats right - thats sating with your wife and child. They should be your number one priority and nothing else should jepordise that.

(My answer would be the same for a woman really)

So what if you go with this other woman, after the inital 'honeymoon' period you'll be in a relationship no better than the one you have (assusming your not fighting with your wife daily) and think of the mess you'll leave behind. A woman alone with a child, maintainance and bills to pay for her and a new wife and home to support... divorce, lawers etc etc..

Stay where you are, the grass isn't always greener.

Answer 4

OH Tricky. I know theres a child involved and people have different opinions but coming from a broken home, i can honestly say it hasn't affected me in the slightest. You have to look at it like this... You stay in a loveless marriage for the sake of the child. You may argue etc. Its not gonna be pleasant for the child

You follow your heart, leave your wife and child for the woman you love and set up a new home. As long as you love your child and he/she knows that and you make sure you always have contact with them, you'll get through it.

The child will have the love of two families and in time will get used to the idea. Hope everything works out for you. Everyone deserves happiness x x x

Answer 5

Go home. Look at your wife and think about how she would feel if she should know you love someone else. Think about how you would feel if she were the one in love with someone else and actually did something about it. Then try to bring back the romance in your marriage. When was the last time you both went out for dinner without the kids. Find a babysitter for the night, maybe family,(feels safer). Then pretend you guys just married and are getting it on again.

Answer 6

no easy answer and difficult without knowing more about your individual circumstances, but if you have really fallen for someone else you will probably be a real pain in the butt if you are forced to stay in a loveless relationship. Set yourself and your wife free to pursue happiness elsewhere. Do not argue with her or take offence at the harsh words you are likely to hear as a result of your decision. Take your punishment gracefully and concentrate on making the break as painless as possible for all concerned (except yourself). Then get on with your new life and hope you do not get a taste of your own medicine somewhere down the road

Answer 7

This is a tough question... The first thing to think about is why you fell in love with another woman in the first place...obviously, your marriage isn't going well. The first thing I would do is try to work on the marriage to keep your family together. If there is no saving your marriage, then I think the best thing to do is to get out of it. Many people say that you should "stay in a marriage" until your child turns 18, for the sake of the child, but in my opinion this can be the wrong choice. I have a friend who is in a bad marriage and thinks she needs to stay in it just for her child, but I can see what her daily pain does to her child. Children are very intuitive, and if you are in a loveless marriage, they will catch on, and this is the wrong message to send to them as they are growing and becoming adults.

Answer 8

Well if you don't want your wife you let her know & you step out to the new woman & see if the grass is greener on the other side. You know you got a wife so why are falling love with another woman?

Answer 9

Staying with someone because you have a child together is WRONG!! You should be there because you are in love with her and want to commit and live the rest of your lives together. You should talk with your wife and see if you can address your issues, and you must have them otherwise why are you having feelings for someone else. Believe me staying with someone because of a child is damaging not just for you but the child to, they will grow up seeing a dysfunctional relationship that isnt happy. They would be more adjusted if they had two parents who loved them and wanted the best for them, but who chose to live apart. Put your feelings first, then you know you are doing right by your child, because a child deserves both its parents to be happy.

Answer 10

Why did you get married in the first place?
To pay childsupport and your wife for a year.
Have your child live without a dad just so you can
be with anther woman. Then what. Have kid and
leave her for someone else.

Do you see a pattern?

Answer 11

depends whether ur a man or a woman askin. If ur a man then ask her if she'd like to try doing roleplay sometime when the kids arent there and youv got some free time on ur hands. But if ur a woman then id say either gethelp or try and talk urself out of itin ur head.