Divorce help...I am not asking for anything, will I have any problems getting a divorce??

Question

Hi, I've been married for 8 yrs and I have 1 daughter, 12 yrs old. My wife & I have had problems 4 many years and 1 & 1/2 years ago I moved out. I lived about 10 mins away with a friend of mine & I would get my daughter every other weekend. I recently moved about 50 miles away to be closer to the home office of my employer. I still go pick my daughter up & have her come visit w/me on the weekends. Well about 5 months ago I began dating this women, weve gotten really serious. I know I should've already gotten divorced but I am a procrastinator. I have introduced my daughter to this women & her family. About a month ago I asked this women to move in w/me & when my daughter came 2 visit this weekend I told her about my new "girlfriend" & that we were living together. She was very much ok w/this & they get along great. I am concerned of any legal problems I'm going 2 have when I file 4 divorce. I am wanting a no-contested divorce, something simple. I am not asking for anything,

Answer 1

You may choose not to ask for anything but that doesn't mean you wife won't ask for stuff. The number one issue is going to be child support and visitation rights. Unless your willing to give your wife full custody those two things alone mean that you can't file a quick and simple divorce. Your wife may also ask for alimony. Regardless though you need to get this done and the sooner you start the sooner you can get through this. Because you have a child involved I would recommend getting a lawyer so that you are guaranteed the right to see your daughter. Never just assume that because things are good now that you don't have to put it in writing because life changes and it is better to protect yourself and be sure now than to fight it out later.

Answer 2

Hi!

Basically, there are very few judges who care if you're shacking up or sleeping around. I believe you'll be able to get a divorce quite easily. If you are on good terms with your wife, it could happen very quickly and smoothly. If you're not on good terms, or she doesn't like the idea of you having a live-in -since you left her - she could make it difficult for you.

Also - It's probably not so much about what YOU are asking for - but what your soon-to-be ex-wife will ask for - like child support. If you only have your daughter for about 5 or 6 days every month - and if you make good money (or even just more than your ex) - you'll be paying child support. Push to have joint custody - both legal and physical. Even if you don't have your daughter 50% of the time, it can be joint custody. I imagine you'd want to have a legal say about your daughters medical needs and you won't get that without joint legal custody.

And although you didn't ask.... Please remember that your daughter is the innocent here - and she's the most important person when it comes to all of these decisions.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Why in the world would you put off doing the legal cut-off from wife #1 BEFORE proceeding introducing another woman into your daughter's life? What message are you sending your daughter?

Like:
* There is no such thing as committment
* Do what you "feel" without regard to what is "right"
*If you were the Mother, and you brought in a new Man, then what of the possibility that the new Man is a molester? Females are less likely, but it is a risk of introducing an element of danger to your child.
* Why live in a "grey" area of shacking up? It makes everyone uncomfortable.

Bear in mind that shack-up's that proceed marriages (for you, 'twould be #2) have a statistical higher percentage of failure - much higher than just folks that date, then marry without "testing" the relationship.

Living together is not a new concept - Marriage is. The Catholic Church made it the "rule" by elevating it to a sacramental status because they saw the confusion of "who belongs to whom" did to their congregations - and to provide stability in communities.

I am sorry that you weakened under the pressure of lonliness to pull this second woman into the picture. I wish you'd of put your daughter first all along, and after the marriage was divorced, then begin dating.

Answer 4

First off boy R U STUPID!
Second: Do you realize that you gave your little girl permission
to have premarital sex.
Third: You've given her permission to be an adult by involving her
without marriage.
Forth: You've condoned adultery. Quite possibly she will see this
as romantic.
Fifth: What does this say about the mother? You don't respect
her enough to finalize that relationship. My goodness she
was good enough to marry and produce your little girl.
Sixth: What does this say to your new "girlfriend"? You okay to
live and sleep with, But we can't talk marriage until I get
a Divorce.
Seventh: I could go on further but I hope you are getting my drift.

You have done this to all the females in your life. And your main Question is about how it will affect your divorce? I am certainly glad you are not my EX! I do hope you don't have to face a female judge. Plus I hope you are ready for all the court ordered therapy you little girl will need. You are lying to yourself if you think that deep down your 12 year old girl is mature enough to handle the truth. Which I hope you are aware that kids know vastly more then what you think they know.

Answer 5

Well you better get ready for a battle. You are having an affair no matter how you try to sugar coat it. Shame on you for teaching your daughter that this behavior is okay, no wonder you had problems with your wife if this is any indication of your decision making habits. I hope your new lady friend makes good money because you will probably end up paying 20% of your income in child support.

Answer 6

I don't know where you are from, but the state I live in has a morals clause in the divorce that means if your ex has a good enough lawyer, they can take your daughter away from you. Good luck

Answer 7

It depends on what state you live in.
And you say you are not asking for anything- why would you?
Usually the man has to pay spousal support.

You can't go back and do what you should of done...get the divorice, Now you just have to do what you have to do.
Get the process going asap

Answer 8

Man...you are schit stupid!!!!!!! You are at the mercy of you ex-wife. Once into court all you can do is say nothing...why...because you have no ground to stand on. You will get slammed to the maximum of the law for child support...spousal support. loss of pension and loss of assets unless your ex doesn't want it. You have jumped out of the frying pan and into the fire!

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I would wish you good luck but no amount of good luck will help your ash...oh what the hell...good luck

Answer 9

Sense when divorce became simple? It depend on your wife. Take your time with that other woman, or you will make the same mistake.

Answer 10

That all depends on how much your wife is willing to cooperate. Sometimes a spouse can't let go, especially if they know someone else is taking their place in your heart.