2006-10-19 09:07:03 · 26 answers · asked by yaya 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When they feel comfortable with someone and know that they want to be with them forever. When you feel you love AND like them. When you don't want to be without someone.
Best Wishes!!!
2006-10-19 09:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no magic number. I always thought that I would need to date a girl for at least a year before even getting engaged, and then I was thinking that a 2-year engagement would be reasonable.
I've been married about 3 1/2 years (43 months, actually). I've KNOWN my wife for 49 months. No, you didn't suddenly forget how to subtract, I knew her 6 months when we got married, and I've never looked back - it was the right decision then, and staying with her is the right decision now.
I bet you think we've got a 3-year old kid, and that's what prompted us to get married, right?
WRONG! Yes, there were circumstances that made us want to move quickly, but they had nothing to do with getting pregnant. We fell madly in love, and decided we wanted to be together forever. Due to the circumstances ($$ and immigration laws), we either needed to get married right away or we'd have to wait for years, probably without seeing eachother the whole time.
That being said, I still believe people should really get to know eachother before they take this plunge. My wife and I lucked out - we were right about ourselves and eachother. Not everyone will be so lucky, so take your time if you can.
2006-10-19 09:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by Dim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't put a time on deciding to get married. When the time is right you'll know. When you feel like this is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, then it's time. Make sure the both of you talk about finances, children, careers, goals, where you want to be in 5 and 10 years, etc before you get married because if you do get married and then later on find out that the two of you have different beliefs and goals, it may cause problems. Make absolute sure that the person you want to marry, you can be youself with. I was in a horrible marriage for two years and lived a lie. I couldn't be myself with him.
2006-10-19 09:10:46 · answer #3 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When it's the right time, you will know - you will feel it in your gut. When I met my now husband, we dated 1 month before we went to look at rings. 3 months later he proposed. I was 25 at the time and he was 33. My mom already liked him but thought we were moving too fast - we wanted to save up for our dream wedding so we didn't get married for another year and a half - and it worked out wonderfully. We've been married a year now and known each other a total of 3 years. Everybody is different, just do what comes natural.
2006-10-19 09:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't a rule to this, each couple is different.
I dated my X for close to four years and it was a mistake to get married. I know people who got mararied after three weeks and 35 years later are happyly married. It might not be the time taken to make sure you have the right person. It could be the person who doesn't know how to make a good decision.
Before you get in to a marriage, make sure the person has the values you need in a person. Make sure that you have things in common.
2006-10-19 09:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4yrs next month. We've been good friends for about 3-4 yrs prior to being together. We are both 23. We have a 9 month old also. We talked about getting married and we both agreed that we would wait a little longer considering a lot of our friends got married and divorced with in a year. Its something we want. Everyones different though. Sometimes we dont even want to think about getting married because things are perfect.
2006-10-19 09:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by the_question_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you ? I knew after one date that my wife was the one. I dated a lot of girls too. But I was 27 , so I think that the age really makes a difference. I dated her for 18 months and we were engaged for a year. We did not live together. I never believed in that. I have seen a lot of people who did that, only to get divorced anyway. Don't rush. It should be a decision for a lifetime. It's worth the wait.
2006-10-19 09:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by randband4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the individuals....age...maturity...reason for wanting to get married....you most definitely have to be responsible,so I would say wait till there is definitely an understanding with both parties what is expected of them as an individual and as a couple..get that part situated first and things should flow...no matter how long you wait TO GET MARRIED...then again do the engagement thing first.........see how that works then set an wedding date..GOOD LUCK..
2006-10-19 09:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by Gemini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you know what kind of person you're marrying and have peace about the decision. Ask your friends/family their take on your relationship.
2006-10-19 09:13:32 · answer #9 · answered by Elizabeth G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you meant wait...it is 3 to 5 yrs. of dating an living together before you get married. see ALL those true colors before you promise the rest of your life!
2006-10-19 09:11:28 · answer #10 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until they are 99 going on 100!
2006-10-19 09:11:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋