It's been almost a year since our relationship ended and I am still so broken. How do I pick up the pieces and move on. I still love him so much and I think of him still 24/7. I try to keep myself busy and my mind on other things but theses feelings for him are still so strong they wont go away. Help I am dieing inside
2006-10-19 08:59:46 · 27 answers · asked by daydreamer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get a new BF and start getting your freak on
2006-10-19 09:00:43 · answer #1 · answered by USMCstingray 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
If u have reminders of him around (photos, letters etc), then u'll b reminded of him. Get rid. So hard, I know, & I can't preach cos I haven't done it yet, but it sounds like good advice (which many people gave 2 me).
If u r havin problems sleepin, go 2 the doctor. The same boyfriend pain will hurt u (physically) less if ur physical body is stronger after a good nights sleep. The mental pain is hard. I don't wanna sound like a druggie, but anti-depressants can b described 4 situational depression. Only use these 4 a short time tho. Get ur doctor 2 refer u 4 counselling 2. Or just go 4 therapy urself. Meetin TOTALLY new people is a good idea 2. U won't feel like they're feelin pity 4 u/ judging u.
Also, so far as the 'keepin busy' goes, keep at it. It beats mopin around. Maybe u're doing the wrong things, & just adding more stresses 2 ur life. Me, I can't stand going out 2 clubs or bars. I'm terrified of bumping in2 him (even worse, him & his new girlfriend), & besides, I just feel like the loneliest person in this room full of OSTENSIBLY happy people. I prefer nights in wiv a couple of people, watchin a dvd 4 the time being.
Good luck, x
2006-10-19 09:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by viv friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write your feelings down. Keep writing until your hand hurts. Think that your heart is so full of him and every time you write down a feeling or memory you empty some of your heart. Make sure you write down all the bad memories and times you were hurt and don't remember him as just the guy you loved but the guy that has left you with all this pain. Accept the fact you will always love him and that is OK. Most people never love like you have, don't have the guts or character to. Don't beat your self up for not being over him. You have your own timetable and don't be bullied into thinking you should be moving on. I think sometimes we grieve and it hurts so much and no one understands. It would be better if our loves were dead. At least people would feel sorry for us and legitimize our sorrow. It took me a long time to see that I was grieving and missing "us" more than "him". You will probably always love him it just takes time to get over the sadness. Hope this helps.
2006-10-19 09:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by rooty tooty fresh n fruity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear daydreamer.
Do as you are day dream about the present and future and forget the past right now. Time cures all love pain.
additionally if you do find yourself thinking about him think about how great it was that you had him in this wonderful exerience we call LIFE and then remember that another man will find you and you will once love again, only the next time maybe the timing and person will be right.
Take the pain you have and embrace it for all the good it has taught you about love.. Always think positive and positive things will happen , try hard to be connfident and strong
2006-10-19 09:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've answered this question a couple of times, and it worked for me:
First, if you don't have a killer smile, see the best cosmetic dentist in your area. (oh, yes, it will cost you, honey.) Secondly, if you need to shed some weight, do it. Buy some great outfits, Yup, spend some buckos on you, redo your make-up by a pro, get your hair redone, yadayadayada..... Have some really great photos taken, and put up some ads in Yahoo personals, Match.com etc. Read some of the ads by women, and keep your profile positive, and cheery. You'll meet great guys, and a few nuts too, just like in church next to you. Meet in public places, and look stunning, sweetie. He's there, and this is the way to meet in our busy modern, business world.
2006-10-19 09:16:59 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't let the feelings go. There is no magic to it. I don't know your age , but I'm guessing you are still pretty young. I also read your first question about guys and what they seem to be after, so I assume that you date. Don't try to replace him. Live your life and stay busy. Get active at a church, and social groups there. You will have a better chance of meeting guys with other things on the mind.One day you will realize that there is life beyond him. Good luck !!
2006-10-19 09:11:31 · answer #6 · answered by randband4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Babe, it is going to take some time and a lot of willpower....
It will depend on how long you were together. It is said that it will take half as long to get over a relationship. So if you were in the relationship for 2 years it will take a year to get over it. I know that feeling. You don't want to get out of bed, you don't want to eat, all you can think about is the dreams of life and happiness that you have had. It will take some time, and it will take a lot of patience. But you are going to have to find something else to do with your time. Take up a hobby, like scrap booking, or pottery, or even making floral arrangements and selling them. I also want for you to start a journal. What do you miss most about your ex? What hopes did you have for the future? Did you see the end coming? Sometimes we live with relationships that are on life-support and when the plug is pulled, we feeling like it still would have made it, but it had been dead a long time. Sweetie, you deserve real love, that is reciprocated. You deserve for someone to love you and support you and treat you like you are the beauty that you are.
2006-10-19 09:01:50 · answer #7 · answered by Shanigirl 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Stop having a pitty party. Geesh..you only live once make the best of it. Sorry you feeling like this for so long but it's time to pick yourself up off the floor and move on. Get out and live darn it. Life is way to short to be moping around. Go out with your friends and meet other men. It won't be the last time you feel this way about someone. Get out there and do something!!!! Skoot!!
2006-10-19 09:04:27 · answer #8 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you don't think he is sitting there thinking of you do you, get yourself a new love, than love the one your with. stop thinking about him and what could have been that wasn't. it is so self defeating. takes time to get over things, but you must help yourself also. go out meet new people,get a hobby, work on yourself. you won't find a new love sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself. breakups are hard because it defines our self worth, we wonder why this person didn't love us, or why they left us, there is no answar for some things, only you have to get out of this, before you become permanatly depressed. you have to focus on something else.
2006-10-19 09:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you just love these "get over it" comments?? Some people have obviously never been in love. Mourning a lost relationship can be really similar to mourning a death. It takes time... alot of it... and some good old fashioned crying. Good luck.
2006-10-19 09:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well that don't sound too healthy to be thinking on him 24/7 , if ya'll been broke up for a yr. now. maybe you should seek some counseling before it gets out of hand?
2006-10-19 09:02:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋