My husband has a lady friend who is also married. We both know her and her hub infact. Well i was given word a while back that my hub and the lady had a kiss and makeout session one time before they ended things. Then later the talked about liking each other but not doing any more things or seeing each other cause they are both married. Well, it seems to me that the lady loves my hubby alot. I mean atleast once every week she sends him an email about her work, her family, his work, his weekend, his family, and anything in between that may come up. She has a habit to write to him weekly at work or at yahoo. He also always replies back to her emails...some he replies to very shortly, and others he writes back to her in a few days or so. There can be times when she may write him one email then after 6 days he friendly forward from her, or he can see her on messenger and then replies back to her email that day. Well my thing is this. I have noticed my hub does not initiate any
2006-10-19 08:57:58 · 29 answers · asked by katezambelli 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
conversations or emails with the lady. They all come from her first and then as i said my hub always replies back to her. Is it a bad thing for my hub to reply to all her emails when he is married? Should it matter whether he emails her back within a day or within 10 days, but the fact is he always gets back to her? Does he not initiate anything with her cause he still likes her and feels guilty or wants to hide his feelings from others? If he sees her in a party, make note those two still till this day stare and gaze in each others eyes. Gee, I wonder why that is....
2006-10-19 09:00:12 · update #1
oh yes there are many times when he does reply back to her asap, then other times within a day or 5 days maybe...
2006-10-19 09:03:03 · update #2
He may not initiate the emails but he is participating. You need to find out what is going on with the makeout rumors and then let your husband know you feel uncomfortable with the internet relationship they share..because that is what it is an internet relationship. He should respect your concerns and end it immediately. I have a feeling he won't though, you need to figure out where you want to be and how you want things to go from that point.
Best Wishes!!
2006-10-19 09:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does it bother you? If so have you told him? I do not think it's really truley anymore than being friendly, espcially since you know of this (I assume he shows you)? If this does bother you, I would send a friendly note to her, from your e-mail account, indicating that while you can appreciate friendships, you feel that her energies be best spent on her husband and her family. Or, invite her to your home (seems you are all close) and speak with her kindly face to face. First and foremost though, let your hub know how you feel that your own marriage is "robbed" by this female talking to him and him back to her. But most definately, let HER know to BACK OFF. After that, do not acknowledge the "friendship", as this female is an attention piggy. Take the attention away, and there's no reason for them to commicate. Best to you and your hub!
2006-10-19 09:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now just a minute......why or how are you reading his mails? If he has given you the password, then he trusts you, right? On second thoughts he may be just letting you get the impression that its simply harmless banter...and uses another mail id.
If you are snooping and doing the Sherlock Holmes...well, you probably know the answers pretty much all by yourself now...
My take on this is simple and a bit crude. If a guy is simply doing it to add spice to his life and is totally committed to his wife, there are so many ways on the net. No sane chap would risk a marriage that he valued by interacting with a known person.
You know what works best? Just ask him (instead of us), it may not be pleasant, but it'd be a whole lot more real! Best wishes.....
2006-10-19 09:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by spark b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why do you care approximately a man who left you? are you aware you're stalking that lady? she is his , i assume, first LOVE (sixteen/17) It will take time! however dont name him a fallback cuz you're one too.. [ inclined to take him again ] Probably shes peers with them, might be you misjudged her.... If she was once into any one else she might be dumped through now! your HUSBAND is dwelling along with her ( sound asleep/ intercourse/ bla bla ) she don't need to end up her loyalty alternatively, sure there are ladies who're simply undeniable avid gamers who take n go away a man very quickly, and likewise there are ladies who love to have peers [ even ex bfs] god is aware of what shes upto... I desire she isn't a DANGEROUS sort!! Your husband demands to become aware of that you simply n your son love him greater than any individual on this love and no lady can take a wifes position certainly the person who made him cheat ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND A mistress can on no account be a spouse, a spouse can on no account be a mistress If you're now not divorced but, Try to devise a breakup in case you TRULY LOVE HIM [ NO REVENGE ]
2016-08-31 23:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come out and boldly ask him if he is having an affair.
You should get a immediate response.
Watch the body language.
Maybe it is just a email buddy.
But, you need to know if that is all it is.
There are other signs if he is fooling around,
You will know.
Women always know.
Men are not good at being discrete.
They have to slip sometime.
Just observe and hopefully you will know the truth.
I hope things work out in your favor.
Hang in there and be strong.
2006-10-19 09:11:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, tell your husband you are uncomfortable with his little chat and email sessions with this woman. Tell him it makes you feel insecure and that you want him to stop. Send her an IM asking her to stop contacting him. That way the heat is off your husband if he feels uncomfortable telling this woman not to contact him anymore. If they continue after this, call her husband and have a talk with him about it. Tell him you would like his wife to stop contacting your hubby, and you have already tried telling both of them how you feel about it, but it hasn't seemed to help the situation. If it continues after that, you may have to lay down the law with your hubby. Either the contact with this woman goes, or you do. Then stick to your guns about it. No one should have to put up with this kind of sneakiness and underhandedness from someone else.
Good luck
2006-10-19 09:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that if I were you, I would have a heart to heart with this woman. She needs to know how much she is hurting you and your family by pursuing your husband. Your husband, too, should know how much damage he is doing to your relationship by continuing to have contact with this woman. If he loves and respects you, he will stop immediately and will not worry about what she thinks. It may be an ego thing on his part or there may possibly be something going on or about to go on eventually. PUT A STOP TO IT!
2006-10-19 09:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It just isn't approate for a married man to communicate with her.
Sit down with your husband and tell him how you adore him and you don't feel comfortable with this communistions with this woman. And ask him to just not reply to her.
She will eventually find someone else to pay attention to.
If he doesn't comply, then tell the woman that she needs to stop communications with him. Be firm but kind. Don't push her buttons.
Whether or not he initates this it is time for it to STOP.
Help him block her on messanger etc.
2006-10-19 09:07:39 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Any woman who is contacting your husband at work instead of your home is going behind your back and you should put an immediate stop to it!!!!
She has her own husband to talk to and should not be bothering yours!!! They have already cheated, how much more are you willing to put up with!! If I were you, I'd be making a call to HER husband and filling him in on whats going on!! Stand up for yourself!!
2006-10-19 09:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It takes two to tango, so stop justifiying his actions as just being polite and the victim of a stalker.
They have an emotional connection, they already got physical.
He should be avoiding her at all cost if he respects you and your marriage.
He doesn't have to reply to anything, he does it because he wants to.
Open your eyes....
2006-10-19 09:16:28 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋