I have a wonderful husband and beautiful daughter. I am completely happy with my life. Is it wrong for me to want this friendship with a man who is not my husband? I am not attracted to my friend. I do miss his friendship though. My husband doesn't understand. Help me please.
2006-10-19 08:53:34 · 26 answers · asked by Maddy's Mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry but men can't appreciate the morale boost a male friendship can offer a happy but needs a little attention from the opposite sex not her husband wife and not in a physical sense either. I've tired dwelling on this dilema for years with my husband of 12 years. He's much happier thinking he's the only male I talk to outside of work and our inner circle (a little prehistoric but that's who he is) sorry chic there's no cure for the jelous/insecure type.
2006-10-19 09:02:12 · answer #1 · answered by mg1555 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is called Mid Life Crises. The mid life crisis is a process of finding one's true preferences, and breaking the stranglehold that other influences have on our own behavior, thoughts and feelings. So you say you are happily married but there has to be something that is not there in your marriage that you are looking elsewhere. You say that your spouse knows about the friendship but does the spouse know about the love? They would be deeply hurt if they would know. After so many years of marriage looking out for support from someone else shows that the marriage was not successful. Instead of finding love in the new friend why don’t you start talking with your wife? You both should sit and have long chat. Why don’t you find the missing link and start working on that first. Then further small things that the partners can do for each other are they should thank each other when they do something for you. Surprise them on and off with gifts or just cooking up a great meal. Making your spouse feel special and loved. and Last but not the least, there is no single recipe for marital success. Novelist John Berger once said, "All weddings are similar, but all marriages are different." Every couple must find their own formula. So Go on and make your own! Good Luck
2016-05-22 02:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong at all. I think that if your husband has a problem with it, he has trust issues. As long as you are very open and honest with your husband that you are in no way attracted to this man and you don't keep any secrets, I can't imagine why he would be upset.
2006-10-19 11:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am happily married as well, I have an handful of male friends and my husband has no problem with it. My husband does know most of them. It's just a trust thing. Maybe you should introduce your friend to your husband. Have your friend over, maybe your husband and friend will become friends.
2006-10-19 10:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, do not do that. If your husband is uncomfortable with this, then you do not need to have the friendship. You forsake all others when you marry. You need to respect your husband. I am not saying you have ill intentions with your friend, but that is beside the point. The point is you do not have close relationships with other men, especially if it bothers your husband.
2006-10-19 09:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by SOM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not find anything wrong with the situation, but your spouse looks at it a bit different. He may be feeling some competition, and he also may feel a bit threatened.
If this friendship with this other man is causing problems at home, it is best you do without.
2006-10-19 09:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!! My best friend was a man. We had been best friends for over 30 years and it was never a problem. Your husband does not understand as he probably never had a women as a good friend.
2006-10-19 09:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife did the same thing with an exboyfriend. She claimed it was just catching up with an oldfriend. But she went against my wishes and saw him anyway. When I found out about it she lied until I confronted her with proof that she had met him on an overnight trip. I called her ex and told him I would call his wife if it didn't stop. My wife was more heartbroken about not contacting her ex than the fact her emotional affair had almost ruined our marriage. I would say if you truely love your husband don't risk hurting your marriage.
2006-10-19 09:16:26 · answer #8 · answered by ????? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with it
I have the same problem and my husband does not understand but I think thats the insecurity that our husband feels.
2006-10-19 08:59:07 · answer #9 · answered by AlishaM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mes up a good thing! It can cause a lot of problems down the road. Listen to your husband and respect his feelings. You may push him away from you if you don't work with him on this one!
2006-10-19 09:16:24 · answer #10 · answered by jovialdream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋