Ok, I cant help thinking it so here goes..... Hows sex after having a baby? Its not the most important thing on my mind right now, but its on my mind. Thanks
2006-10-19 08:49:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Thanks for all the answers, I feel a little at ease with all the positive feedback.
2006-10-19 09:18:15 · update #1
For a lot of women, they want it so bad they don't even wait for the doctor to say it's okay. For me, it was painful. I tore during labor and the scar was very thick and tight, partially covering my vaginal opening. I also developed a medical condition called vestibulitis from the trauma of the tear.
Sex might not be the most comfortable thing for you after having a baby, but your partner should respect your need to have slow careful sex. As your body heals you'll get back to really enjoying yourself. Have faith.
2006-10-19 08:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by S. O. 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We first had after-baby sex three weeks after she was born. It was nice and gentle and very sweet. It was like a long drink of water after three weeks in the desert.
Since then? Our daughter has been surprisingly cooperative about my husband and I having time together. We sneak in times when she's sleeping, or we get up early in the morning and have our time together.
It took us a while to get back to where we were before the baby and it's been sort of an off few months (we've been together, but not as much as we were) due to some medical problems I've been having.
Maybe you're wondering about the physical aspects of sex after baby? I mean, during labor and delivery things stretch. It's a natural curiosity, I guess. For us (and I can speak for my husband here, since we're very open when we talk), nothing has changed.
HTH
2006-10-19 15:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by gonefornow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends a lot on hormones and the birth experience. Hormonally, your body wants you to focus on the baby, not on making another one! So purely from a reproductive standpoint, you won't have as much drive. If you have a highly medicalized birth that interferes with hormone production or causes damage to your body (c-sec, episiotomy,) you might experience depression or physical pain with sex for some time. (A good reason to avoid doctors who medicalize birth routinely and perhaps hire a homebirth midwife instead, who will be more likely to take care to protect you as well as the baby.)
Assuming a normal birth and all being physically well, aside from the hormonal change, it's going to be mainly a mental thing. If you see yourself as a goddess who has just done an amazing thing, love your body, and are in love with your husband, you may very well want sex. Early postpartum is a very vulnerable, emotional time. I felt better having that primal/emotional connection with my husband.
As far as long-term changes in my body, I haven't noticed any nor has my husband. (My genitals weren't cut though so I can't speak to that.) I'd say that sex is even better now than before we had babies, because the opportunities are harder to come by and that makes it more special and exciting when it does happen.
2006-10-19 16:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by blueviolet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex before I was pregnant was amazing. Sex after my cerclage was removed two days before I delivered was amazing. Sex after our son was born 5 months ago...not so amazing. I don't know if its the stress of caring for him and my medically needy 13yr old wearing on me. The fact I have so much more on my mind or what. It seems I lost sensation and its harder for me to achieve organism but that might just be me. My husband due to all this feels that I don't love him or I'm not as attracted to him, none of which is true. Or maybe its because Ive not lost all the weight I gained while pregnant and I'm self conscious thinking "If i cant stand to look at the extra weight how can he"
2006-10-19 15:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me sex six weeks after having the baby was still a bit sore.
With my first it took a couple months to get back to normal. Then you are ok with it. Actually it seems to be better because you don't have this huge basketball in front of you. You are way more comfy.
2006-10-19 16:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Physically there will be no specific change. But mentally we will be much oriented towards the little one. I got 10 months old baby. we didn't have sex from the month I got pregnant. It is 19 months since we had sex. Not that we have aversion for it. we love so much each other and our little one the most.
2006-10-19 15:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physically, nothing really changed for me. Yes, I asked my husband and he didn't notice anything physically different either.
Energy and interest wise - well that's a different story. I hate to say it but I'm just not that interested. But I have to agree with the lady who said that it's because most of our love and energy is going to our son. Maybe that's not good but atleast we are both okay with it.
2006-10-19 16:10:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
after the 6 week period it is pretty much a little tender but then goes back to the way it once was =0
2006-10-19 16:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is the same as before; you just have to be more creative and plan a little more in order to find the time (and energy) to have sex.
2006-10-19 15:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by Meredith G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like having sex any other day. Nothing to special about it beside you can have sex again.
2006-10-19 15:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋