my ex husband and i have joint custody with him having primary. last weekend my daughter and son came over for weekend visitation. my daughter will be 17 in january I live about 30 miles away from where my daughter goes to school. and i dont drive cuz of vision problems. my daughter refuses to go back to her dads because her and her stepmom have major problems. her dad says she can stay here as long as i get her to school every day. he will not uninroll her from the school shes in now so i can get her i n to a school close to here even if i have to put her in a cab everyday which to and from is about $100 a day I told her she has to go back to her dads she said if she did she would just run away and not tell me where she is. i realize i have to get a lawyer but their very expensive.she missed school 3 days in a row i got her to school today but i dont know about tomorrow if she doesnt get to school im in trouble not that im more worried about me tha n my daugher can someone please giv
2006-10-19 08:48:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your best bet is for you to talk to your ex-husband and ask for him to transfer her from school or to give her a car for her to drive herself to school. She is old enough to drive.
Your daugther can petition the court to be either emancipated or to ask the judge to give you costudy of her.
She can call social services as well if there are violence, drugs or anything that is endagering the children, so they will give you custody of the kids.
She can go to a youth shelter or be in state costudy on a foster home while she finishes school.
Boys and Girls town National hotline: 1-800-448-3000
Good luck
2006-10-19 09:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk with your daughter - or have someone talk to her - about the issues she's having with the stepmom.
If the stepmother is abusive, then file an action to modify custody.
It's possible that the daughter is reacting to some reasonable action/criticism that the stepmother has laid down. Maybe the stepmom forces the girl to finish homework before going on a date. That alone could create WWIII for many 17 year old girls.
If you don't know what the conflict is about, and if your daughter is evasive, take her to a counselor.
Perhaps the father can shed light on it, if you're able to communicate with him.
Keeping the child out of school is not an option, and you're setting up a situation where a judge will have serious questions about YOUR ability to be the primary parent (i.e., if you can't get her to school).
Good luck.
Eric
www.CustodyIQ.com
2006-10-19 16:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is 17 where i am from that is considered an adult but now she is still in school but she should be able to tell a judge where she wants to live and the judge would allow it as long as she wouldnt be in any danger or you are not unfit Then you can get a court order to change her school. You dont necessarily have to change the primary custodian, just get a court order to change her school. There should be places you could go to get help on this at little to know cost. File the papers yourself. You could get forms from a public library and be your own lawyer. Just do someback ground work on how to go about doing it. You are on the internet, you should be able to find any information you need to go about doing it. Your daughter is nearly an adult.
2006-10-19 15:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by chrissy c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull out your divorce decree. There are two parts to custody. "Legal" custody and physical custody. Typically, both parents have legal custody, with one or the other having primary physical custody. This sounds like your situation, but reading the divorce/child custody order will tell you for sure.
If you have legal custody, you don't need his permission to enroll her in a school close to your home. You have that legal right all on your own. Just do it.
2006-10-19 16:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1. Your child is oldenough to choose whom she wants to live with.
#2. YOu can get free legal help from the county
#3. You don't have to disenroll her from her school...just take her to the close school, explain the problem and get her enrolled.
Stop listening to this guy is BS you! Get a lawyer and get on with this for the sake of your child.
2006-10-19 16:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Petition the court to gain custody of her. If she prefers to be with you have her tell the judge that and she will be yours.
2006-10-19 15:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by plitsmay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I AM SORRY
BUT ALL I CAN SAY IS U NEED TO SIT DOWN AND TALK TO UR EX AND TELL HIM TO THINK OF HIS CHLDREN
2006-10-19 15:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋