Some men can answer too, but anyway. I need a real womens opinions, See my friend tried to hook me up with this guy, but I had a lot going on at the time so i didn't have much time to talk to him, but my friend kept telling me how much money he had andall the houses and all the materialistic ****, but I'm not like that so i wasn't trippin plus I was dating this other guy, so anyway the other guy called me and aske if he could see me and I said Yes and we talked and he was cool, but I'm still as busy as ever and plus the guy I was dating is now my boyfriend, so I emailed my girl this morning to tell her i seen him for the first time and he was cute, but I told her that I still don't have the time. Well she had the nerve to ask if she could talk to him and asked me for his number. She's already talked to his friend but now she likes the other guy, all I wanted to know is if she thought he was all that then why didn't she just hook herself up instead of me? should I have been upset ?
2006-10-19 08:41:05 · 19 answers · asked by lildemon78 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She was already dating his friend until he told her he was married, but she has never seen the guy she hooked tried to hook me up with before, she said she wants him because it's free money, he is when it comes to women but he's a nice guy and he's gonna be used messin with her.
2006-10-19 08:55:33 · update #1
If you have a boyfriend, you can't date him anyway. Perhaps she threw him your way initially because she already had someone, but now she doesn't. A rule of mine is to never date a friend's crush or someone they used to be interested in, but clearly she doesn't have this rule.
If you're content with your current relationship, it should not really matter to you that she talks to him. Focus on what's going good for you now instead of what you could have and what you might miss.
You'll be sorry if you ruin your current relationship and this other guy turns out to be crap.
2006-10-19 08:45:07 · answer #1 · answered by J L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would b upset, yeh. But mainly confused. Maybe she had something goin on in her life at the time that stopped her from dating him (bein married/ abroad...) & she just wanted u 2 keep him close by 4 her, until she was ready 2 go in 4 the kill. Is she the kind of woman who'll go 4 any1? Maybe she never gets 2 emotionally attached wiv any of her guys, & she just sees him as her next potential suitor. Cos if she was properly attracted 2 him from the start, 4 his personality or whatever, she'd have never recommended him 2 u in the 1st place.
If u're happy in ur relationship, let her have him. It won't last unless he's plain stupid.
2006-10-19 08:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by viv friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a similar situation and ended up losing the guy and my girlfriend. It's not worth it. If she wanted to talk to him, she should have done that from the beginning instead of trying to hook you up with him. She only got interested after you got interested - that sounds like some kind of competition/jealousy type of thing. Don't get upset, just get out of the whole situation before it gets messy.
2006-10-19 08:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by beattyb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be upset I would. What kind of friend wants a guy that her friend has talked to even if you and the guy didn't really date, plus she dated his friend so he should be off limits. Sounds like you should keep your distance from her, I seen her type in action, not pretty.
2006-10-19 08:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by smartiebc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you didn't have interest nor time for him, now you have a boyfriend, wonder why you met him anyway, but give her his phone number since you still are not interested in him...just don't ever let her hook you up with any guy any more...
2006-10-19 08:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no reason to be upset since you have your boyfriend now and you never went out with the guy she tried to hook you up with. Besides you told her that you weren't interested in him, that means he's fair game
2006-10-19 08:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you were already dating someone, and yet dated this other guy, you really can't point out someone else's iffy behavior.
What difference does it make if you get upset? You're too busy and already have a boyfriend.
2006-10-19 08:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You should not date in the first place. Dating is just a way to pass time and you will regret it sooner or later.
2006-10-19 08:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by lambo5688 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend sounds like a bit of a flake. You have a boyfriend. Let her have the other guy.
2006-10-19 08:43:54 · answer #9 · answered by Cara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess she was looking to help you out first and decided to step in cause he was such a good find and no you should not be upset at least she gave you the first chance to see but..you already have someone
2006-10-19 08:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by Juanita Tsangning 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋