Been friends with him for almost a year and are pretty close, but recently-about a month now-when he mentions girls to me (some love interests) he keeps implying that im jealous in a joky way. Sometimes he implies but other times he's direct.
Eg. he said to me "hypothetically, what would you do or say if i told u i have a g/f?" and i replied "i wouldnt do or say anything, but id be curious to know who she is"
and then he replied "yeah, and then after that you'd probably hunt her down and tell her to stay away from 'my (***)' "
stuff like that
and he keeps mentioning girls to me, even though i know that he hasnt got a g/f but he claims to fancy this girl at his uni
Some say that he tries to make me jealous and play with my mind, whereas others say that he just wants to joke and chat about these girls he is interested in
If i talk to him about it, im worried that either i'll embarass HIM or MYSELF!
I dont know what to think or do - any advice?
P.S (***) = his name
2006-10-19 08:38:57 · 21 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Next time, just tell him your very happy for him and look forward to meeting her....if he implies or asks about your jealousy, simply tell him you love/like him enough as a friend (stress the "FRIEND") to want only his happiness
2006-10-19 08:41:54 · answer #1 · answered by goodwitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men do this a lot, especially when they are bold, but feel that no on likes them in a relationship type way. He might admire you as a close friend and has confidence that you wont hurt his feelings. I would be comlpetely honest with him, but dont let him down hard. Explan to him the boundries of your friendship. Think about whether or not you might be doing something around him that might make him think that you could be interested in him in any way other than friends. You have to remember that what might be innocent talk as friends to you might be flirtation to him.
2006-10-19 08:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 posibilities here:
Either you fancy him, but you are in denial - I say this because if I didn't fancy my friend, I wouldn't even be 'recognising' the possible invitations of fancying/ attraction from the friend.
Or - he is gay and is wondering if you have sussed him out. He is perhaps wanting to talk about this, but is hoping you'd commence the topic first. Like you said, he doesn't have a girlfriend, but is constantly mentioning them.
2006-10-19 08:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's flirting with you albeit it in a rather strange sort of way. If it feels like a head game to you then it probably is. Best way to deal with that is to bring it into the open. He'll have to deal with it then which should bring him back to reality. You'll just have to be firm but gentle.
2006-10-19 08:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by charlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are not sure where you stand. perhaps he wants to know if you fancy him. By not talking to him and explaining that you have only "friend feelings" you are sending him confusing messages.
You yourself dont know if he fancys you or it is general chat.
Talk to him, both of you need to understand where you stand.
If he does fancy you he will be upset that you dont feel the same way, but its better for him to know rather than hold out false hope!
2006-10-19 08:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by multiflowercolour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me he might have feelings about you and is testing to see if you feel the same way about him. If you don't want to talk to him about it, maybe next time he says something like "then you'll go hunt her down" just answer, "yeah you wish!". Seems a bit harsh but it should let him know how you feel. good luck xx
2006-10-19 08:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by Fairy Nuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is one of your closest male friends than you should be able to talk to him about this kind of stuff. Call him or talk to him in person about how you feel about it. Not hurtful words though...(Do you really have a girl, or just trying to impress me? Be truthful with me because we are close friends) He may feel a vibe but let him know that ya'll are just friends.
2006-10-19 08:46:26 · answer #7 · answered by Lil Mamii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss Hello,
How embarrassing for you. Does he also have funny eye contact and collect belly button fluff? Perhaps he is a bit immature for you and not able to have a woman friend who's platonic.
2006-10-19 09:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he probably likes you and that is why he tells you about other girls. You should ask him if he likes you like that, but in a serious/joking way so that way neither of you get embarassed.
2006-10-19 08:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me boys only say bull like this when they're really interested. Try having a dead serious talk with him when you are both alone. Also swear him to secrecy before the conversation.
hope i helped.
2006-10-19 08:51:50 · answer #10 · answered by indiadeknowitall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋