2006-10-19 08:33:29 · 27 answers · asked by 20015sh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We just moved to the DC area. Everything is so expensive, unless we are willing to live in a area with rats, we can't afford a nice place without a roomate.
2006-10-19 08:39:59 · update #1
BAD IDEA. A single gal living with a married couple ALWAYS spells trouble.
Divorce is more expensive. Get a second job or cut on your expenses instead,
Trust me, you will regret it if you do.
If you have your mind set on this, make sure that she is not too atractive or thinner than you.... you might get jealous.
A married couple needs privacy and a stranger living in your home might make you feel unconfortable. You will feel as if you could be intimate with your husband without keeping it quiet...etc.
2006-10-19 08:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it may make you jealous and it may not, it depends on the person. If it was with a woman that you do not trust then no...if it was with a woman who had a boyfriend and she seemed trustworthy and your husband/boyfriend did not seem attracted to her then i wouldnt be. I lived with my boyfriend and his roomate for one year, it helped that our roomate was a recluse practically and I barely talked to him (mabye 10 conversatioins that consisted of more then fifteen sentences the whole time I lived there) and it worked out great, no jealousy issues at all. So it really depends on how you feel. Personally I dont trust my common law man and would get extremely jealous if we had an attractive female move in cause I know what hes like and what could happen..so it really dpeends on your relationship and who moves in with you.
2006-10-19 09:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married to a man you don't trust it won't matter if it is a roomate or someone else.... you will always be on the lookout for him to cheat. Doing so will increase the possibility of it becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy. Find out the real roots of your jealousy and your marriage and your life will be better for in.
2006-10-19 08:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you trust your husband or not... if bringing this person into your house is going to affect you negatively then you should not do it. You husband could be completely faithful and if you are still jealous for any reason it will affect your marriage even though nothing is really happening. If you're helping out a friend, maybe you could just make it very short term and help her find another place.
2006-10-19 08:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by uke9999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived with close friends who were married (I was 21 they were 29) and they both were like my big brother and sister. I did not eat dinner with them, or walk around in a towel or my night clothes/pajamas, was not hanging out watching TV with him when she wasn't around - in fact I wouldn't go home unless she was there. It depends on if the woman you bring into the house is respectful of your marriage. Even IF you have a secure marriage there still is need for caution. It was an enjoyable experience and when I left their home it was on great terms. We're still close to this day.
2006-10-19 08:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would NOT recommend that you do this. I would encourage you to move back in with your parents or consider a roomming house/hotel prior to inviting a female rooomate ot live with you. Seems to me like you would be inviting an opportunity for infedility, mistrust, and jealousy into your home.
Don't take the bait from the devil.
2006-10-19 08:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by J L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may ended up living with a rat in either case! If you're getting red flags about a female moving in, take heed and don't do it! I think it's somewhat normal to think that way, but I would also take a closer look at your relationship. Best of luck!
2006-10-19 08:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by sparksfly01 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't do it. If you are already questioning whether you should and you have a feeling maybe you shouldn't, then you shouldn't. You'd always be worried when you left and they were both home alone. Even the most well intentioned men can be seduced or persuaded. That's just not a good idea.
2006-10-19 08:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your husband about a male roommate. That you would feel more comfortable. But truth is, if you have a female roommate and your husband cheats on you with her, it only means that he would have with anyone....... sooner or later. I would let jealousy consume you so. There is no point in it, it only causes anger and eventually health problems, so I would not worry. What will happen will, and won't happen, won't. Blessed be.....
2006-10-19 08:48:20 · answer #9 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are right you will be jealous. Your husband is about to live his wildest fantacy. Might not start out that way, but it will end that way. No matter how much trust yall have now this will most definately break that trust. You may go into this thinking all will be ok but trust me, it wont end well
2006-10-19 08:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by chrissy c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋