I called off my wedding coz of serious complications in our relationship. 2 months have since passed and I have come back to the US as I had moved to anohter country to be with him. I called it off coz he said nasty things to me the day before the wedding and his mom was being a nightmare and some other issues. He called me yesterday saying that he wanted to be friends so I spoke to him and talked about how my life was going on..however after the conversation and whne i hung up I felt really sick mentally and physically. The last time I had called him when I came to the states after the breakup, i was not feeling good and told him that and he just abused me saying that i was a crazy woman and i had issues and yesterday was the first time i spoke tohim after that.
We were together for 8 years and we definitely had fun times shared similar interests,,I do want to be friends with him however I dont know why i feel so sick mentally / physically when i try to be friends. Wts wrong with me
2006-10-19 07:58:01 · 9 answers · asked by LostHeart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is your EX and the type of EX you don't need in your life even as a so called friend! He is trying to get you to focus on you and trying to make you think that everything was your fault! If he says nasty things to you & even when you feel bad calls you crazy & his mother is a nightmare then keep him as far away from you as possible! Nothing is wrong with you usless you fall for this creep! He has the ISSUES so don't even talk to him or let him know where you are! You feel sick because your body and mind is trying to warn you of danger!
2006-10-19 08:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If talking to someone makes you feel like that then it may be time to let the relationship go. At least until you can get yourself together. You have to give your body and mind time to heal. Eight years is a long time, I have been there. But it gets easier with time. It took me three years to really be able to talk to my ex. But I don't call he he usually calls me and I keep the conversation very brief. Don't talk to him until you have it together. He is still getting to you mentally. The good thing is that you did call off the wedding. Maybe you are still hurt from what he said to you..
2006-10-19 08:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by t j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not only difficult, but also impossible to be friends with an abusive(mentally or physically) person. How can you possibly consider someone a friend when they beat you down? It sounds to me like you saved yourself further grief by calling off the wedding. Move on and be glad you can!!
2006-10-19 08:05:52 · answer #3 · answered by hotdiggetycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there...sorry about your break up...There is nothing wrong with you...the thing is deep in your heart you still love the person u fell in love with...and up on the upper layer you are still hurt...the wounds are raw...like they say time is the only ailment for thses kind of wounds...and then there is a thin line between friendship and love...usually u cannot be friends with a person u love...specially after being hurt by that person...so there is really nothing wrong with u...just give it some time...you 2 might start talking and become friends once the pain is gone and the feelings have faded...in the meantime i will suggest spend some quality time with your own self...think about you and what you want...i am really sorry about your break up...i am divorced...but then again nobody told us when we were born that life is going to to be fair!!!...good luck!
2006-10-19 08:08:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. You are just being human. You were with this person for 8 years. You won't get him out of your head and heart that easy. You will have to pull up all the confidence and spirtuality that you can muster to get through this. You have been emotionally attacked. You either rise above it all or grovel in all the negatives. Pray a lot and ask God for his direction. Hope this helps ya.
2006-10-19 08:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mae G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best just to let it be. You can't blame him for being angry that you called-off a wedding the day before it was to happen. He has every right to never talk to you again.
Someday you might be able to be friends again, just not now.
2006-10-19 08:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is your conseince telling you not to be friends with him there is a reason. And your body is telling you so . Stay away from him he is no good for you. Find somebody who will cherish you and adore you. You do not need him in your life. Good Luck and god bless.
2006-10-19 08:01:15 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are fine, it's your relationship that is sick. I think you should let him go.
2006-10-19 08:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by rocketman9070 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you PREGNANT?
2006-10-19 08:00:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋