my husband has been offered a new job. he wants me to tell him what to do. i tell him to make his own decision. what is your opinion?
2006-10-19 07:52:27 · 17 answers · asked by supermomma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thats the problem. i know its a better job. benefits and alot better pay, but he would be gone from home more.
2006-10-19 08:08:59 · update #1
tell him you'll stand by him in whatever he decides!
2006-10-19 08:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by Just passing the time! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make a list of the pros and cons of the job. Assign a weight to each one - IE, some more money might be worth a 4 on a scale of 1-10, but lots more money might be worth an 8. Moving might be a -9, if you have kids who have to change schools, a house to sell, etc. Try to include all sorts of things on both sides if you can. Add up the total, and see which side has the highest value.
2006-10-19 07:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it would help if you told us what kind of career he had before and what he has that is new for him?? whatever it is that he chooses look at it this way- wehny ou change careers is like starting all over again with no experience thus making it more difficult for him to demand more money on his pay without having and background experience. But- if what his new job has more money to offer and ways to move up for him rather than his old job- take the new job - he has nothing to loose but before he leaves his old job he must leave in good terms just in case his new one doesn't work out and he has to look for a job again. Job hunting sucks after you loose a job. Good luck and be wise about you decision. I was in the medical field a few years agoa nd changed to accounting because they started me out with $5,000/year more than my old job. But- i didn't know what to expect and how much hours this kind of work took. I have no other way of moving up other than becoming a CPA. In the long run- medical field people have better benifits, you always have job opportunities everywherr even if you move. You guys need to look at it this way- if you have children are the benifits good for the kids and you? if not children can you move to a different location? sit down and weigh out the pros' and con's.
2006-10-19 08:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will the job take him away from you/immediate family? Taking a pay cut? Benefits better? All good factors to consider before making a decision.
2006-10-19 07:55:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
mine did this as well and he was alot happier at the new job. I saw a different side of him and he was great. I love him very much and he is gone alot too but i have no kids to deal with and it is okay , I know i dont like him being gone alot but i have learned to deal with it and you will too. make him happy and tell him that whatever he decides you will back him up. good luck and god bless.
2006-10-19 08:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means, more benefits and more money - he should take it! Having the house to yourself more is not a bad thing either. My husband is a dining room manager at an upscale Italian restaurant, and he works all closing shifts. I work during the day so I get most evenings to myself at night. It's great for us!
2006-10-19 08:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the international right this moment there are a number of varieties of folk. Carieer minded. great in case you have no longer have been given a Signicant different, No time for an prolonged term relatenship. relatives minded. stay at domicile, great for the youngsters/ relatives, no earnings tho. existence minded. long term targets that contain the above too. you have already failed, even for thinking this query. final time I checked, while being married, your husband/relatives ought to be first. how in the international are you able to do this on your toddlers? did you intend your existence while thinking approximately young toddlers? once you're making extra money, he ought to stay domicile, yet what approximately him? your love? you like your profession, no longer your loved ones. there is not any unconditinal love anymore, you Failed. Its unhappy somewhat, some adult adult males do this, yet a women to be heartless, no longer plenty left in the international
2016-12-08 17:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you in letting him make the final decision then if it does not work out he can't blame you! However you can still let him know how you feel about this especially if you will be making a move.
2006-10-19 07:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you asked him why he feels it is important to make the decision for him?
its a catch 22 really.... if you make the decision to go for it and he hates it he may secretly blame you and you would feel to blame.
if you make the desision for him to not do it the same could happen...
maybe he just wants to know he has your support regardless? i suppose you could sit down together and make a list of pros and cons and make the decision together...
2006-10-19 07:57:46 · answer #9 · answered by millibb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk it out... Throw pros and cons back and forth. I don't think he's looking for you to "make a decision" per se, but just wants someone to discuss it with, someone who can offer input.
2006-10-19 07:54:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to follow his bliss. If he is not happy with what he is doing that unhappiness will seep into other areas of his life as well. If he is fulfilled in his work, he will be more able to happily enjoy the rest of his life as well.
2006-10-19 07:58:04 · answer #11 · answered by punchy504 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋