My exboyfriend lost his job & moved back home with his parents. His current girlfriend was driving with him in the passanger seat and she got pulled over for speeding. My ex got a $97.00 ticket for not wearing his seatbelt. He came to me asking if he can please borrow $97 & showed me the ticket. His court date is Oct 27th so he needs to pay the ticket before then. He called the court asking for an extension and they refused. His current girlfriend offered to pay the ticket, but she has to pay her own fines and won't have money for him until she gets paid on the 31st. If he goes to court and can't pay the money, he has to sit in jail over the weekend. He asked his parents & they refused. All his friends are broke. His girlfriend can't go to a payday loan place because she doesn't have a checking account. I told him I'd think about it & asked if I could get it in writing that he'll pay me back. He agreed. Should I let him borrow it? It's only $97 & I'll only do it this one time.
2006-10-19 07:51:22 · 36 answers · asked by ☆skyblue 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Whenever you lend money to someone, ask yourself if you will be hurting if they do not pay you back, because you should assume they won't. If you will be ticked, but fine if he stiffs you, go ahead and lend him the money. I wonder why his parents won't help him--they are probably trying to teach him the lesson of self reliance, which they obviously haven't, otherwise he wouldn't be back living at home, but this is your money to do with as you please, so if you want him to have it, go ahead.
2006-10-19 07:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious!!!?? You should absolutely NOT give him anything. He is not your responsibility. Why would you even consider it? He has a girlfriend, and you were no where in the car and it was not your fault. DONT GIVE HIM A DIME!!! He needs to find a JOB before Oct. 27 or suffer the consequences. You have your own life to lead and you can not be worried about him. What has he done for you lately. Do you think if you got in a jam he would help you? Would his current girl let him help you? NO! Let it go. It is not your responsibility. Go on with you life and find you someone who is worth you time because this guy is only using you for his gain. The ticket is probably paid and he will take the $97 to buy his current lady a nice dinner or a down payment on a ring. DONT DO IT!! Take care.
2006-10-19 07:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by ga_gyrl91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a couple of things to consider first. Are the two of you still friends or does he just come to you when he needs something? Why is his family refusing? They may know something important, like he has a habit of not paying back money or that he gets himself in trouble too often. Even if he signs a contract for the loan, remember that if he doesn't pay you will have to take him to court which will cost you money to file a case, plus time you will have to miss from work. If you are having doubts about making the loan, you probably shouldn't do it. But if you decide against your better judgment to give it to him, make sure you aren't going to need the money, you may end up writing it off as a loss.
2006-10-19 07:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by MELISSA B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to feel how you feel, but she did let you borrower her car twice! If she is the problem, then why don't you just let his son use the car. That takes the mom out of the equation since you are so worried about her as an irresponsible adult. If the both of you are unemployed, why are you going on a vacation anyway? I see you tried to clean it up with job interview/vacation. Not working! go to the interview and get back home. If the both of you are jobless, you really should try and save the duckets you have to pay that car note. God forbid you lose your car and have to depend on the ex again. I doubt that she'd help you this time around since its so hard for you to extend this courtesy
2016-03-28 01:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't let him borrow the money. There are many reasons for this.
1. He is not your boyfriend anymore, therefor you have no responsibitity toward him, and you owe him nothing.
2. His current girlfriend can help him out if she wants to.
3. If you let him borrow the money, then he will think that he can come to you with future problems.
4. Don't get involved in his business, you are broken up!
5. He should have NEVER asked you to borrow money in the first place.
2006-10-19 07:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends how close you and the ex are. If you're still good friends, then GET IT IN WRITING that he will pay you back. If not, then it is not any of your concern really is it? The prob is you might have a hard time collecting the money even with a written agreement. If that's a lot of money to you then do not lend it to him. good luck.
2006-10-19 07:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not your problem. Not your problem. Not your problem. Not your problem. Maybe if he has to suffer the consequences of his choices, he'll learn to make better ones.
If you insist on bailing him and his girlfriend out of their little mess, make the $97 a gift, not a loan. But prepare to be considered a bank.
PS If his own parents won't loan him money, why should you?
Not your problem.
2006-10-19 07:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds bogus to me. I've never heard of anyone going to jail for not wearing a seatbelt. Before he would go to jail, his license would be suspended. And from what I hear, not right away.
If he is your ex, he has no business asking you for money.
"Neither a borrower nor a lender be."
Sounds like trouble to me. How does his new girlfriend feel about him asking you for money anyways?
2006-10-19 07:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by ammecalo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want. It's toatll up to you. If you think you can do this just once and he will really pay you back, and if you two get along well enough for him to ask in the first place, then there is no reason not to.
2006-10-19 07:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by Yahoo! Answers Chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it won't leave you strapped for cash yourself...Why Not!
If you don't have a good feeling about getting the money back from him Don't Do It! You know him better than anybody on this site so the decision needs to be your own!
2006-10-19 07:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by preichwein 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋