2006-10-19 07:46:40 · 22 answers · asked by desprate mum 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the divorce was my choice, but only after my ex-husband told me he didnt love me, didnt want to live with me and was having an affair!... i'm starting to enjoy life on my own, enjoy being with my kids, selling my house, re-locating and looking to take a new job in the near future... i have started some hobbies i never did while married like salsa dancing... im trying to lose weight and take better care of myself, somthing my husband didnt encourage... and i dont feel the 'need' to have someone in my life anymore, it just sometimes gets a bit lonely... am i doing ok?
2006-10-19 07:56:47 · update #1
I think you already know. The power to get over anything is yours, you simply have to decide what to do. Sounds like you did, and I say good for you. I hope you find happiness, it sounds like you're well on your way. There's just that fear of the unknown, the future. A good friend once told me everything happens for a reason. I believe that. Move on with confidence. Good luck!
2006-10-19 09:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all there is only one true love and sometimes you have to go thru alot of mistakes to find the MR or Mrs right , so yes there is really love after divorce. The guy you are divorcing isnt the one for you. And yes you will love again once the right one has come into your life. My advice to you is STOP looking for love because its very obvious that you are finding the wrong ones . If you be patient then love will find you and you will be happy. Good Luck mama
2016-03-28 01:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your doing great. Alot of people look for somebody right away because they feel lonely. Give your kids all the time in the world. But let me tell you. There is nothing wrong if you find somebody to share your life with. But try to avoid that at least for the first couple of years. You will end up finding that someone. But just give it some time.
2006-10-19 08:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by yo_010180 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes doing fine, this is the time that you need for your self and your kid, you've been divorce once so dont make the same mistake again, think about your kids they're your first now. go out some time have fun w/friends and family, you dont need another love to ruined what you had. who knows maybe you'll meet some one in the future but i'm sure you know how to deal with that now after your divorce experience. good luck
2006-10-19 12:30:48 · answer #4 · answered by kevin n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there you are where im lokking forward to be ....divorced ......you lucky girl !!! youre now doing the things that you want and thinking about you and enjoying being with youre kids what more can you ask for and if you meet a nice guy in the future well give that a go ,you are doing really well keep it up and enjoy youre salsa !! cha cha hahaha keep smiling as you must have had a time in youre life when that didnt happen ,i know tghat is what it was like for me ....but now i smile a lot and im really enjoying ....MY LIFE AS IT IS OUR LIFES AND WE ARE DOING A GREAT JOB NOW WITH THAT ......you take care xx
2006-10-19 08:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing GREAT! I was in the same boat last year after 18 years of a horrible marriage and three kids. It does a real number on you to be told that you're not loved or wanted, doesn't it! But, five months ago I met the most wonderful man ever. He fits my every need and I feel sooooo loved and cherished. We relocated together and will be married after the new year. He was single for years before me and had time to work on himself and what he wanted in life and in a relationship.
You WILL find love again - if you want to. If you're open to it, it will come to you. In the meantime, know that you're doing just fine by yourself, working on yourself and your self-esteem. You make the rest of us women PROUD!
2006-10-19 08:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your on the right track and doing everything you should. took me almost 3 years to get over it. i too sold my home, moved away, found a new life. i have struggled with being sad about it, than i realiazed i had nothing to do with his choices, and that for my own sanity i had to set boundaries of what i would accept from a man, and cheating was the one thing i knew i could never get past. yes you will find love again and you will than realiaze you did the right thing.
2006-10-19 08:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TIME is the key
don't rush into anything i am sure you feel lonely and some what incomplete in time i am sure you will meet the right person PLZZZ don't rush into another relationship right off i did that and it only ended up hurting more
good luck to you
God Bless
2006-10-19 07:53:40 · answer #8 · answered by terry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it will take some time, but you will eventually get over it. it hurts and you will too for a while but you will be over it probably sooner than you think and you will be fie and you will find love again. it will be magical and you will know exactly what to look for and you won't end up in this situation again. i hope you find love and the answers you are looking for, i also hope that you find happiness in your life, raltinships and most importantly in your heart because without it you won't be able to truly open yourself up to the next person who may enter your heart.
2006-10-19 07:49:30 · answer #9 · answered by Holly D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are willing to take responsibility for your emotional health. Get whole. Get a great life going for yourself and child/children. Stop worrying about having another person in you life. Love yourself and children and be happy.
2006-10-19 07:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by Answergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋