My girls are 4 and 5. I have gotten rid of everything. I am now 25 weeks pregnant and decided that I better go shopping, so i put a crib,stroller,playpen,swing,bouncer on layaway. I am not going to be having a babyshower and wondered if I should try to get help with buying these things. I only have 2 months to pay it off, and all the stuff is about $400.00. (it is at walmart) Do you think it would be rude to send out a card to all saying something like... Baby boy on the way, stuff that is needed is on lawaway at walmart if you would like to help out? bla bla bla? Is that ok or rude to ask for help? what do you think?
2006-10-19 07:25:53 · 26 answers · asked by sr22racing 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
just to clerify, we can pay it off, but my family is very wealthy, and I wanted matching stuff, not just a bunch of random crap.
2006-10-19 07:32:53 · update #1
i am not saying I am very wealthy, MY FAMILY IS and I wanted the stuff from walmart because it is matching weenie the pooh stuff.
2006-10-19 07:57:33 · update #2
not at all!!!... ...i asked all my family and friends for gift cards and yours will understand if the stuff is already on layaway... ...good luck to you... ...ask for walmart gift cards and explain that the stuff is on layaway...
2006-10-19 07:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by Carmen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I'd be offended. Especially given the method of sending out cards to everyone, it just seems kind of impersonal. It'd be taken as rude also because the recipient of the card will just assume you sent it out to 100 other people, so why bother helping you?
Why not just talk to your close family and friends and just ask them in person? It's a more sincere approach, and you can preface the discussion by telling them that you are struggling right now.
One other thing.... it may be deemed rude (or downright ballsy) that you had already gone out and basically spent the money you are now asking for. Especially if any of the family/friends you intend to ask for hlep might have these things that they could've given or loaned to you. I wouldn't even say that the stuff is on layaway, just tell them the things you need. If anyone chooses to gift it to you, you can simply take whatever that gift is off of layaway without them ever knowing.
Tread carefully here. Use discretion on who you ask for help.
Good luck, and congrats on the new baby!
2006-10-19 14:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by Kristen K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oooh, this is a tricky situation.
I'm sure people would love to help, but they might be a bit put off by the request.
What you might be better off doing is holding off on the crib and swing right now, since the little guy can sleep in the pack and play for the first several months and the swing can wait until he is 3 months or so.
By then, people will have most likely given you gift cards that you can use to offset the cost of the items you need.
Also, check out Craigslist for items that are gently used. I sold a crib that was in wonderful shape for $40 and gave a swing that was alomost brand new away for free.
Good luck and congratulations on your baby! :)
2006-10-19 14:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by orangecountymommy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all what state are you in? The reason I ask is try your local thrift shops.
I had a shower but I had to spend about 700 to get the remaining items for the baby. I have also caught some great yard sales. the same stuff I bought from yard sales are in the stores now so watch for that if you go that route.
The link below is fabulous. I was just int he store last night and got the baby a new outfit for .60. It still had the tag on it. I also wash the clothes before she wears them. They only take in good conditioned items. SO you wont get junk.
2006-10-19 14:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by dark_lipps 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its pretty rude, I think. Like some people already said, personally asking very close family to help would be ok, and registering at Wal Mart would be ok, but sending out solicitations for poeple to pay for your matching baby things isn't ok. I think people can definitely take it the wrong way, just like when asking for money, gift, etc. at weddings and stuff. And people who are really in need aren't picky about getting matching things, they either take what people give them or use the money they have to get what they can afford, even if it means getting things used.
2006-10-19 17:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by latitude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you should call it rude or just improper. I wouldn't suggest sending out notes asking for donations. Maybe try mentioning it to your closest friends and relatives and asking them if they would contribute. If this list of people is too short to make a nice sized contribution, why not give a small benefit gathering. Instead of a card flat out asking for money, invite them over for a small gathering where the donations will go toward the cost of the baby items. It's kind of like a baby shower except you get cash instead of gifts.
2006-10-19 14:37:04 · answer #6 · answered by edcw0214 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to break it to you, but yes, that would be rude.
When a person has a shower, they give token favors and at least some food in return for the gifts brought for the new arrival.
If you want to have a small shower, close friends and family only, this would help you out. If you can talk to close family about helping you with the layaway payment, that might be ok too, but just sending a 'request for cash' to folks that you are less than close with isn't going to go over well.
2006-10-19 14:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by SJ 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can go to walmart and they have a baby registry, and you can register all the stuff that you want, and when the people go shopping for you they can print out the items on the registry. That is what I did and I got most of the items I had on my registry. On the bottom of your shower inviations you can put registerd at walmart... Good Luck congrats on the new baby.....
2006-10-19 14:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to ask for help. But WalMart has a wonderful baby registry that you can just click and point so that people will get execatly what you want.
No need to be snotty, but "very wealthy" people do not tend to shop at WalMart. Be proud of what you have.
2006-10-19 14:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by sillylittlemen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there no one from whom you can borrow any of this stuff? If you have girls who are 4 and 5, maybe some of their friends' parents still have cribs, strollers, playpens, etc. that they are not using. My husband and I borrowed nearly everything for our son, and that is certainly preferable to send out a card asking for money. Once you know what you cannot borrow, you will know what you need to buy and whether you will need to ask for help in purchasing those things.
If you are well off enough to afford it, then it is certainly tacky to ask for money to pay for it beyond asking your parents whether they can help you out. I am much more likely to help out a friend or family member in need than one who just wants my hard-earned money so she can afford to satisfy her fashion sense.
2006-10-19 14:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by Cara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but ya, I think that would be kinda rude. It's ok to ask your parents, or even siblings; but I wouldn't send out a letter to friends and relatives.
If you're looking to save $$, you should try consignment stores, I have found amazing things there. Or look online on sites like craigslist or kijiji. I just bought my son a snowsuit, top of the line, amazing condition. She showed me the receipt for $250 and I bought it for $50!
2006-10-19 14:35:43 · answer #11 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋