My son has this girlfriend that I really don't like ... what can I do?
2006-10-19 06:57:00 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tell your son how you feel & ask him why DOES he like her , perhaps it will help you see her good side, if she has any, good luck
2006-10-19 07:03:58 · answer #1 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your reasoning for not liking her? You need to be honest with your son about the way you feel. That doesn't mean that he will get rid of her, but he will know where you stand. If he loves her, there really is nothing you can do. You need to support your son.
2006-10-19 13:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that depends on how old your son is. If he is a teenager, then be prepared for that teenage rebellion, but you need to ask yourself, why don't you like this girl? If your son is old enough to make his own decisions, then you can tell him how you feel, although you may alienate him if he doesn't see your reasons as valid ones. Otherwise, you're just going to have to grin and bear it, and let the relationship progress or fizzle at its own pace.
2006-10-19 14:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by uspslady39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Mom of three grown boys. I can tell you that I didn't necessarily like all of their girlfriends. Some, I got too attached to and was disappointed when they split up.
As a Mom, you have to let your kids chose. You don't have to like her, what matters is that apparently he does. If I was you, and I was...try to like her. Be nice, it makes it alot easier when you're in the same room, and she may be your daughter-in-law someday.
You might find out that she a really nice girl. If it's a mistake on his part, he has to learn on his own.
It'll be okay...really.
2006-10-19 14:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by seeya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing! You need to let your son make his own choices and mistakes. He has got to learn these things on his own. What you can do however is be there for him with and open mind when he needs to talk or a shoulder to cry on. All us parents know that once we TELL our kids not to do something they will do it anyways. I'm sure his eyes will open in time, just be ready with open arms and not I told you so!!!!
2006-10-19 14:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends, how old is he and she?
next what is it exactly about her that you dont' like? and not just because she rubs you the wrong way. I mean make a list of things that you know for sure are reasons that you dont' like her.
If you nag him about it he will stay with her just to tick you off, however if he is young, this is prob just a temp thing and will move on later. Just wait it out.
But if there are things about her that you know for fact, like she is a druggie, been in jail for assault on her ex boyfriends, for murder, theft, etc..........then those are good reasons to talk to your son about breaking it off with her but still remain friends. no need to dump a friend cuz they made mistakes in the past, but also not that good of a reason to dump someone either. But that will help you to decide what to do.
2006-10-19 14:02:48 · answer #6 · answered by sesamenc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by not accepting her will only drive him to like her more and then start lying to you about her. I'm 41 now and when my mom did not like my boyfriend(s) I just was sneakier about how to see them. You will drive him away from being able to talk to you and confide etc. I ended up marrying young, having a baby, and getting a divorce before I realized I did it out of rebellion and not for all the right reasons.
2006-10-19 14:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything, I was the wild chld from hell, and the more my parents dug their heels the more I would do to upset them, it's a kid thing. The best thing you can do is accept it, eventually if your son knows and sees it bothers you no more it will lose the effect....
2006-10-19 13:59:36 · answer #8 · answered by Girl of Spirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a parent, but I can tell you that there is nothing you can do. If you try to tell him not to see her, he will just want to that much more. The best thing to do is just sit back quietly and it will work out. They may break up, but if you push it, they may get married. Most mother-n-laws hate their daughter-n-laws.
2006-10-19 14:02:05 · answer #9 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing, the more you try to keep them apart the more they will try to be together, how old is your son, you can give him certain rules, like when he has to be home etc.... Is this girl on drugs? Or drinks? what dont you like about her?
2006-10-19 14:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by jeanjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont let on like you dont like her then he will move on sooner or later, BUT if you give a little eye oh da that you DONT like her then he will probably end up marrying her, no lie. be careful mom. He will soon see what a girl she really is. Good luck.
2006-10-19 14:00:26 · answer #11 · answered by mouse3801 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋