Me and my fiance of 4 years went thru a very bad argument and seperated.I regret alot of things i said and did as he does too.He says he wants to come home but he is scared.He says he still loves me and will come home but I really do not think he will. I realize it was my fault also and I have to change the way I handle things.I love him very much and want him to come back home.Any suggestions on what I could do to get him to come back home.
2006-10-19 06:56:24 · 12 answers · asked by LYZA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just to let known I have told him I Love him and I want him to come back.That I realize It was my fault too.And he still keeps saying I am not ready that it will happen again.How can I asure him that I will not do it again.I have this issue that when he argues I ignore him and that I will say I hate you knowing that I love him.I never hated him just said stupid things when I was mad.
2006-10-19 07:42:22 · update #1
Honey....you have to ask yourself.....Honestly...40 years from now...when you're old and grey sitting on the front porch in your rocking chair.....when you look to your left...is he REALLY the man you see yourself with?
You cant force someone to love you. And from expericnce...if you arent happy now, you probably wont be. Darlin, I dont know you or your situation, but it may be time to walk away. When the right person comes along, you wont have to "change your ways" to make him love you...or vice versa.
There is someone out there that is the other half of your soul...every man you meet on that path to him...will only change you for the better so that when he comes along...you'll both be ready....
Dont waste your time on a man that doesnt love you...Keep walking on your path until you find yourself...Only then can you truely be happy...And remember, happiness isnt found in the destination....its found on the journey...
2006-10-19 07:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by Starr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 02:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps postpone the engagement and take things slowly, one day at a time. He doesn't have to come home just let. Meet him for coffee and have a nice long talk. See if you can compromise and go from there. Don't rush back into it - take your time and really make the effort. Best of luck!!
2006-10-19 07:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish you and him all the luck in the world. Perhaps it would not be a bad idea for the two of you to ressume your relationship living in seperate homes. That way you and him both can work on your seperate issues before you bring it back together again under the same roof. Good luck.........
2006-10-19 07:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a friend call and tell him you have been in an accident and you want leave the house until he comes and forgives you.
When he arrives at the house trapp him there until you work things out
2006-10-19 06:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by Cherry Berry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that if he loves you and you still love him I would take him to dinner and say I want you to move back into the house and start over say you are sorry
2006-10-19 07:06:06 · answer #6 · answered by Christine R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,I would say be as direct as possible.Confront.Tell him.Assure him of ur good intentions.Men cant read minds without telling them,and hate lots of guess work.So pls be precise and tell him u want to make it up.It works!
2006-10-19 07:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush.
Start dating each other again.
Rebuild a little.
No hurry.
Trust takes time.
2006-10-19 08:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys need assurance.give it to him any way possible from sex to tellin him you wanna work it out. he stays away cause he sees no green light that you wannamake up were guys, were dumb, so tell us whats up
2006-10-19 07:01:59 · answer #9 · answered by mikeisicc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple, ask him out for dinner. eat late. forget your car, ask him to drive you home. bring him in and.....well you know the rest
2006-10-19 07:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋