well i have been there for this family mom and daughters 2 actually. buying them food when they didnt have anything paying there light bill letting them us my phone getting one of the daugthers clothes for her baby and so on. they really introduced me to my boyfriend almost husband but they r always trying to get us to fight by lying to one of us and we both have had it with them i am not one to talk **** im one to punch u out and im getting to that point what do u think i should do??????
2006-10-19 06:54:47 · 38 answers · asked by Diana K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Personally I think you should just cut ties with them. They may have introduced you to your future husband that is it. You and your boyfriend made your relationship work not them. There is no help for people who do not help themselves. Go on with your life, trust me you will be the better person for it. Good luck.
2006-10-19 06:59:17 · answer #1 · answered by ravenmoon76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, sounds like you're not a bad friend, and that your anger is justified. Here's my advice: without yelling or getting violent, tell your "friend" in very clear terms that the next time she talks sh1t is the last time you'll have anything to do with her, and that in the meantime, you're taking a time out from the friendship to work on the relationship with the boyfriend that has been damaged by her lying. Once you've set your boundaries, just stick to them and let go of her outcome. She's grown and not your responsibility. Have a great life!
2006-10-19 07:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that there meal ticket is going to have a life of her own . You and your boyfriend are thinking of getting married ? That means that you and he will want to start a new life and will have to save you money to get things to start with . That means you won't be able to give them as much as you have been giving . I think there scared and want to have you and your boyfriend to break up so there little golden goose won't stop laying the golden eggs . Please don't punch any one out . You have been thus far a great friend and person . Don't stoop to there level . Just walk away . If they were your friends . All this wouldn't be happening .
2006-10-19 07:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they are worried that if you and your boyfriend do get married then you will not help them out as much or have as much time for them. I would try to talk to them about this first and then if things don't improve just stop dealing with them altogether. You need to let them know that you aren't going to stand for them trying to ruin things for you and your boyfriend. People that do that are not really your friends.
2006-10-19 07:01:22 · answer #4 · answered by Kam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest! Tell them that you are tired of the fighting and you think it would be best if you all don't talk anymore. Tell them it would be better for everyone. You can let them know how hurt you are that after all you have done for them, this is how you are treated in return. Best of luck to you all.
2006-10-19 07:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by Acid Burn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would cut it off... Ppl are idiots... U helped them out and they gonna do this to you and ur man... They are prob jelous of you two... Fighting them is not the answere... Karma's a b****, just remember that... all that you done for them and this is the way they repay you... And when they ask you why you ain't talking to them tell them the truth... You feel used and you feel its better that you just don't speak anymore...And make sure your man does the same thing...
2006-10-19 07:00:36 · answer #6 · answered by SweetOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sever ties at that point. There comes a point in time when people will need to do it on their own and if you continue to give handouts and they treat you like that...it will continue. You have been a great friend to them, they have not returned the gift.
2006-10-19 06:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by goldenfir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself, What am I getting out of this friendship.
If it is nothing but frustration and headaches then you need to move on.
It is sad when you have to give up on any relationship Romantic or friendhips but at the end of the day you have to worry about your own happiness.
Good luck
2006-10-19 06:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by keith s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should cut your loses now and stay away from these people. You helped them all you could, they like to start drama and it is pushing you over the edge. So much for appreciation! Sounds to me like a one sided friendship. Either stay away, or smack the crap out of her and then stay away. I would be fed up too!
2006-10-19 07:00:25 · answer #9 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop them off your friend list and stay away from them, if he can't go along with that they you may have to drop him too. People like that will nevr change and it will get worse. You are not a bad friend, they are. After all you have done for them and they don't want to see you happy. Don't do anything stupid though, are they really worth going to jail for?
2006-10-19 06:59:54 · answer #10 · answered by lynlee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋