how do I begin to make love to my hubby again after i cheated?

Answer 1

you need to resolve those issues which are inside of you, and why you cheated in the first place. Does your spouse know of your cheating?

Answer 2

This isn't an easy thing and is doubly hard if he knows you cheated. Making love is a special connection and involves a lot of trust and openness. Right now that doesn't exist and making love isn't going to feel the same or even real comfortable for quite awhile. Just take things slow and don't focus on how it doesn't feel as good or the same, instead focus on getting to know each other and each others bodies and desires better.

Answer 3

You are gonna have to get past it and you will someday. The guilt can be really horrible... You fight with so many moral issues after doing something like that...Does your hubby know? If not, I really wouldn't tell him... If you want to make your marriage work. I know it sounds awful but it is most likely for the best... I think that if you feel that terrible about it you have learned your lesson and will never do it again.... Try to forget about it and go on..

Answer 4

I have been cheated on and I assume he knows you cheated. The connection I had never came back. I still loved her but that special part we shared was gone. That said I would recomend you date. Date and try to spark what brought you together in the first place. It may take awhile but you have to get comfortable together again. My guess is your not right now. Take is slow have patients and build on every day. You will ahve good days and abd days.

If your sorry. Tell him show him you are....that will go a long way.

Answer 5

The both of you will need to have some open conversations about your situation and address the issues that may have led to your infidelity. Trust will most likely be an issue going forward, because once you've lost someone's trust in that manner its very hard to regain it. If you still love each other work on it and it will come back. Take it slow.

Answer 6

I didn't cheat on my husband but we did separate and I slept with someone... We are now back together and its hard... I know that sometimes when he looks at me he thinks about the other guy... What you need to do is try to get through it... If your not over the guilt and pain then you won't be able to get over the cheating... I would suggest talkin to your husband about it... Talking may help... It will take time though... Good luck...

Answer 7

Oh...what? You want people to feel sorry for you with a question like this?
You do exactly what you did with the guy you carried on so shamelessly and immorally with. lie down, spread your legs willingly and make noises like you're in the throes of passion I guess. I'm not quite sure what else to suggest or what you may be looking for here.

I hope that this has been beneficial to you and helps in your quest to reconnect with your faithful and loving husband.

Answer 8

Carly, I'm not just trying to get "points". You see, when someone asks a question, they lose 5 points. And my question was genuine. When I read your question I couldn't tell if it was you or your husband who did or didn't want to be intimate. But, I do feel for you. I know what it's like to be married when you don't want to be. My husband cheated on me twice and I can't get the image of him with another woman out of my head. So, I do commend your husband for at least trying to stick it out with you. But, clearly, you and I are on different sides of the same river. Good luck to you.

Answer 9

You need to tell your husband, but if he dosent take too kindly to what he hears you cannot blame him.....if he does forgive you...then you must learn to forgive yourself also, insecurities will only surface if you have not forgiven yourself for cheating. Good Luck.

Answer 10

Before you do anything with your hubby, go get checked for STD's.