My g/f broke up with me and found a new b/f, and she looks happy, so is my rival. I don't decribe again how I feel I just can tell you 5 nights out 7 I am thinking about beating or even killing that guy, that hurt is so deep, it has physical reflections on me.
Now I see my ex g/f is so sweet to that guy, she is attracted like a little girl, although he is a little liar and way "too smart" a person. The more I see her happy, the more pain I feel in my chest.
And my rival, keeps cool all the time, I am the one who lost the temper I know it's wrong coz people think I am the one who is farked up, because I seem so mad and he looks so innocent. People are blind, even my ex-gf is, she told me not to hurt him, which in fact I have never done, I haven't even talked to him!
So, there's my situation, I guess most of you are more experienced than I am, PLEASE help me, I will cherish every word that everyone leave here.
If I wanna get her back, what should I do now?
2006-10-19 06:35:30 · 11 answers · asked by umcris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
look, everyone wants me to get over
2006-10-19 06:52:24 · update #1
hmmm...if you are sure that our rival is a liar and a cheat and that he is not right for ur ex girlfriend, then you really need to save your ex from him, because from your letter it is obvious that the rival is a smart guy who, along with other people, has also charmed your girlfriend who seems to be besotted with him. i don't think she wants to hurt your feelings, though, as he is the vile one, not her, so you need to be gentle with her. if u lose your temper with her, u are sure to lose her forever to this guy and it will be a win for him. don't let that happen.
now about this slimebag guy-who is our rival. why don't you try and erm...raise misunderstandings between them? act really cool, but let her not think that u have gotten over her. let her keep feeling that u want her back. if talking to this other guy doesn't help, let HIM think you've given up. then, plant a sexy text on his cell from an ANONYMOUS girl, plant a strand of some long hair on his shirt(if u can), generally, spread misunderstanding between them.
if all this doesn't work, just catch him in a dark alley....just a joke.
anyways, this rival seems a wrong kinda guy, so probably he'll just leave ur gf for someone else soon, at which point of time, be sure to be there with her with a pack of tissues...
2006-10-19 06:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by thehelper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there's a lot more to your story that what's written here! I have some questions for you to consider:
* Why did she break up with you?
* You refer to the new b/f as your "rival". Was she seeing him before the breakup?
* It's not this other guy's fault that she is with him now. She made her own decisions.
* You say that he's a liar. How do you know? You say you haven't talked to him, but you sure seem to know a lot about him.
* You talk about some pretty violent thoughts, and the ex-g/f is worried you might hurt her new man. Does she have any reason to be concerned? Have you acted out in anger before?
The bottom line is, I think you have more issues than can be resolved here. My advice: seek counseling. "Getting her back" (whatever you meant by that) is not going to fix whatever is broken inside you.
2006-10-19 06:52:55 · answer #2 · answered by 40yomama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just let her go no matter how much it hurts cause in the long run it will be better for you. The reason you are so mad is because you see she has found happiness elsewhere and not with you, dont be mad at the guy because he has not caused you the hurt (unless he was your bestfriend or something). She is the one that had your heart and she is the one that hurt it.
Dont show them that you are mad because being the type of female that you described she is she might like the attention and pissing you off. Let it go and trust u will be better off.
2006-10-19 06:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advice I was ever told in life that I carry to my heart.
Don't ever love anyone that doesn't love you......
Honestly, I think that if your ex has moved on, you can do nothing, you can go down the route of being bunny boiler style ex when all that will make happen is that your ex will hate you or concentrate on you and dealing with your emotions. Life sucks and there is nothing more painful than wanting something that doesn't want you bk, It does not help me saying that and pointing out the obvious, but maybe get all your anger that you ever felt towards her and think of that when ever you want her bk..... That was some advice given to me..xx
2006-10-19 06:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by Girl of Spirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there before and I am sorry for your hurt ! All that aside, I would give it one shot to tell her that being eith her meant more than anything, and your willing to do what it takes to keepo her happy, anything anytime. If she is nonresponsiveto your plea 100% then forget her. She doesn't deserve for you to care about her this much.Someone else would be luckyto have that going for them. As far as your rival, hes not worth anyones time
2006-10-19 06:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by thatoneguy00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to get her back you might have to do the opposite and get over her. It might be your hurt and anger that is fueling her happiness. You gotta pick yourself up and try again. You might have to get yiou a new gal friend even if she is only that. You have to show her that one person dont stop no show! And alot of times, once they see that you are going on with your life and not worried about them, then they will be on your heels like your pet dog!
2006-10-19 06:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a answer. your ex girl gets off on seeing you in pain. what to do.simple if you are strong. start acting like nothing is bothering you and find you another girl.some people are blind. but if you want to win over do what i have said and things will work out for you in a better way
2006-10-19 06:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let her go, move on with your life, I know it will be hard, but in time you can do it. Forget about her boyfriend, this is what she wants, why would you want anyone who does not want you? Get involved in things to keep you busy, go out and find friends who you can have fun with!
2006-10-19 06:42:27 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave her and her new boyfriend alone. it will take awhile and maybe hurt some more. keep your distance from her so that you wouldn't have the urge to get with her again. she probably thinks hes better than you or something but your just not Wat she wants right now. no one know but you could be the batter guy for her she just has to see it for herself. so just move on with your life you will find someone special for you.
2006-10-19 06:42:57 · answer #9 · answered by tina2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could say that feeling love for myself, others and all of God's creation brings me the main happiness. Seeing guy's inhumanity to his fellow fellow people brings me the main discomfort.
2016-10-02 11:25:54 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋