I recently moved back to my home town after being away for 8 years. I had an amazing life filled with action, adventure, travel, awesome job, achieving a lot of things, having friends, girlfriends, and everything a person can probably want. Since I moved here, I have no friends as I lost contact with them or they are not living here anymore. All I do is stay home and have absolutely no social life.It has been this way for 4 months and my whole personality has changed to one being filled with life to a situation where I am like a dead man walking with nothing to look forward to and very little pleasure in life. How do people get integrated into society when they move to a new place?
2006-10-19 06:33:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The first time I had a job and met people that way, Now I have no job so I severely limit my abilities to meet people. I guess getting a job would be helpful.
2006-10-19 06:53:46 · update #1
The effects of too much isolation are poor social skills and an advanced case of being self-absorbed.
It can also increase your social anxiety, insecurity, and lead to depression (which has adverse effects oh your physical health).
When you lack interaction, you become so self-absorbed that you worry about you, what makes you comfortable, what you need, what you can't stand, you you you. You lose your ability to see beyond your own perspective. You lose your ability to empathasize. You show little interest in others because you are worrying about your own discomfort, fear, insecurity and your own perceived flaws. You come off as unfriendly and aloof.
What you should do is look up people you once knew and get to know them again. Make it all about them. Don't hide behind your own fear of being judged. Focus on them, their thoughts, their feelings, what they would do in situations, etc.
Join a gym or fitness center and meet new people doing things that you do. Once again, make it all about them. Give others the attention, admiration, recognition, respect, and acceptance you crave for yourself. It will come back to you, as you inspire others to feel good when they're around you.
Plus, the exercise will make your body produce hormones and chemicals that will make you feel good, relieve stress, and feel more alive and motivated.
You can do this. It is a personal choice. Get out of your comfort zone and just do it!
2006-10-19 07:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isolation is very bad for you. Get un-isolated fast. People who are isolated get sick more, and long term isolation kills more people than the leading causes of death.
Start doing things that you havent done before to meet new people. Join a gym,m if you don't go already. It will help physically, but after a time you will get to know people, and threw them, other people.
Go to a diner. Many people do this, and you will see them on a regular bases, just coming to relax and unwind.
slowly build your network of people up. It takes time, i know. I have moved about 60 times (not kidding) in my life time, and have been very isolated. sometimes you feel alone, because you don't have a history with anyone, so there isn't much to talk about.
you can take a work shop, go out dancing, visit library, volunteer, try new things. go to public events. Do anything but isolate, it can turn into depression. (experience) which can turn into physical illness.
There is nothing wrong with going somewhere by yourself. You have to do this to meet people.
2006-10-19 08:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by chara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 10:23:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you do it the first time?
2006-10-19 06:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by Rj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry. Why did you move? Go back to Go. Collect what you knew how to have, before.
You answered your first question: dead man walking.
How do you re-integrate in this new/old place? Step out the door.
2006-10-19 06:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Join in some community groups?
2006-10-19 06:48:08 · answer #6 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You find yourself spending a lot of time on yahoo answers...like me.
2006-10-19 07:17:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋